Last nite I was thinking about my ex, and I couldn't help it so I called him but I only heard his voice I didn't say anything he kept saying hello, hello and he would hang up, I know its stupid but then I started to text him about the sexual things we use to do and he would and still does say to me he always wants to have sex with me, but the worst thing about it was that he didn't answer me at all and then just shut off his phone all 2gether...I felt bad about it but got over it and went to bed, I left him a message on his voice mail that I was sorry and that reaction of me doing that was not cause I had one to many cause it wasn't I was simply home and got the urge to act up, but now I feel stupid should I feel this way? what can I do to just simply 4get about it! Why would he shut off his phone, way into my 7th text message I called to chk if the phone was on and it was and I know he got my messages then when I wrote my 13th text suddenly the phone was off. (help) :..(
2006-12-01 01:08:57 · 24 answers · asked by Wendy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its funny when he wants me I don't want him and when I want him he doesn't want me..I don't understand this guy? Y is he ignoring me so much but when he see's me he's all in my face? And gets really pist off when I dress really nice...or do something with my face or hair he gets upset or those feelings of he wants me but he doesn't know????
2006-12-01 01:10:34 · update #1
it was a bad break up, he was doing drugs and I asked him to leave cause I don't do drugs and didn't want the responsbilites of having to tell his mother that he was found dead in a hotel room of an over dose and he hates me cause I did the best thing for him, he needs to be alone..
2006-12-01 01:13:13 · update #2
Obsess much? You need to find another bf.
2006-12-01 01:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by E B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel stupid. But texting someone 13 times is obsessive!
I don't blame him for turning off his phone. You did the right thing moving on due to his behavior but you truly haven't moved on. If you are still calling him then you are giving him mixed messages and that can cause him to act like you say he does. (Acting jealous when he see's you look good and such,,,) Stop with the mixed signals. You made the right decision, so stick with it. Yes, you are right, not enabling him anymore he may recover, hopefully. But these mix signals can cause him to do more harm to himself with the drugs he uses.
Its not a matter of you wanting him and he doesn;t, then him wanting you and you don't.......its a matter of familiarality and comfort that brings out you wanting him at that time and vice versa.
Move on....for not only yourself but for him. If he needs you to help him STOP with his addiction then find it in your heart to be there for him. But talking about sex and what you did in the past, leaves a confusing feeling for both of you. (I am guessing the sex was really good...and I am sure you want more and so does he. Sometimes, the worse relationships have the best sex, but that can really ruin a persons life. You end up never really giving up on each other and you never know if its love or sex.
Sit back, relax...think about how you really feel about him and by all means..........DONT FEEL STUPID....relationships are hard and relationships that ended are even harder. Period the end.
Good Luck
2006-12-01 09:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is the way people are. Just quit calling and texting him because it seems that you were getting on his nerves last night. You would do the same if he were doing it to you and don't say you wouldn't b/c I am going through the same thing right now but I was doing it a few months ago and now he is doing it. If he loves you then just leave him alone and he will think about things and call you back - just don't be pushy - that turns people off! You are not stupid and everyone does this. But learn from your mistakes and if it doesn't work out with him, then you will find someone that you care about and let them call you and don't fall too fast! That scares people off.
2006-12-01 01:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe it wasn't the best thing to do. SOmetimes when some women (me, included) start thinking about our ex, we get the old feelings back and want to let them know. The best thing to do in that situation is let that feeling pass and not do anything about it. If you sent him one or two text messages and he didn't respond, you should've definately stopped then.
You should not give him a call. He now knows how you feel and if he doesn't act on it, he doesn't want to get back with you in any way. Just accept that. Chalk it up to an attempt and move on. We all make moves that we aren't so proud of. But, the good thing is, you can learn from this one.
When you're feeling frisky, maybe you should take care of yourself until you find someone respectable to take care of you.
2006-12-01 01:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I think u should leave him alone. If he really wanted to talk to u, he would of call u when u left him that text message. What I would do is continue with my life with out him. And if he gets mad when u dress pretty and when u do something with ur hair or face. Obviously, he get jelous and I think he feels something for u. But if he acts funny, let it go. He's no good 4 u. Keep it moving;)
NO don't feel stupid this things happend ;)
2006-12-01 01:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only feel stupid in the sence that what you are doing is bordering on stalking and obviously unsolicited attention toward someone who probably isn't worth your time. Is that worth going to jail over? What you are really feeling is lonely and insecure. Ex means ex. It might be painful for awhile, but the sooner you get out and start your life again rather thank pining over something that cannot be, the quicker you will feel better about yourself and more confident again.
2006-12-01 01:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably turned it off cause you sent him 13 freakin text messages. If he still likes you he won't if you keep that **** up. That would be incredibly annoying. Not cute or endearing. Leave him alone. If he wanted to talk he would. Find somebody else to have sex with and you'll forget the guy that doesn't want to talk to you.
2006-12-01 01:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by L.J. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might have been with his new friend and didn't want you to cause problems in his new relationship. Or he just didn't want to be bothered By the seventh text and he didn't ans. you should have stopped , you have to learn how to control those urges they are not healthy.
How to get over it ? Get out with friends and have a good time meet new people.
2006-12-01 01:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by mrsdg01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes.....13 messages? That's way overboard. Yes you should feel stupid. You need to be an adult about the whole situation. If you wanted to get together, you should have called him and told him so. Turning off the phone may have been his way of telling you to "forget it"!!!
2006-12-01 01:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lidya D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your should apologize to him for the calls and the texts, if you don't want anything to do with him, tell him, there are a lot of good men out there, loose him, unless you deep down really love him. To stay with a person just for sex is wrong, trust me, i found out the hard way
2006-12-01 01:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by adblodgett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you want him back, no dont feel stupid, women do things like this so do men. mabe he shut off his phone because he was tired or just was thinking about you as well and fifnt want you to know it....best thing to do is give him time and then call him not text him because that way you can tell him how you feel about him and mabe work things out. good luck
2006-12-01 01:12:44 · answer #11 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋