Quite a few years ago I was seperated from family,well nieces and nephew. { about 3 mo after there daddy died} We were finally reunited about 8 yrs later! what a joy!!!! I was so excited but after they started talking with a family member who has remained secluded since the fathers death of my nieces and nephew and claimed thereself an orphan and only on speaking terms when on drugs all heck has broken loose and within 2 days i'm the bad one? I really don't get this butt they are in the same state as the children so it's easier to influence them i suppose!and now my nieces and nephew will have nothing to do with me or there dads parents if someone can give a helping message or uplifting advice i'm open!!! plz there dad died a tragic death all alone and meanwhile, his children were at a party with these family members because he was not welcome in there home I need advice plz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks for all the input even if i'm in the wrong
2006-12-01 04:28:33 · 4 answers · asked by i_dont_get_it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey man, focus on the solution, not the problem...they're not your kids # 1 thing, you don't know what relationship/animosity they had with their dad before he passed #2 thing, there could be real issues of self esteem going on here...and cutting you loose is a form of gratification for them, maybe. Let go and let God, #3 thing...this is bigger than you bro, they need space to figure this out. Call from time to time, on birthdays, Christmas...check up on them in school, but keep your distance. For now. Let them figure it out...
2006-12-01 04:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by dad of dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it deter you from trying to have a relationship with your nieces and nephew. And don't let it get you too down, either. Kids are just young and stupid, you know? Eventually we all grow up, and if you try your best to show them that you love them and that you care about them, they will come to realize it. This may take time. You sound like a really noble person who is trying to cope with this . Send them cards on their birthdays, and call or email them from time to time....I wouldn't talk to them about their fathers death, though, unless they bring it up. Good luck and keep your chin up and just keep up the communication even if you are the only one who will, and hopefully it will be sooner rather than later you will have a good relationship with them. I'll say a prayer for you.
2006-12-01 13:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by jenny in ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude. im really sorry about this. Have you apeald to the govenment on this? how old are the kids? i say sew the other side! email me on this, sk8rboi322@gmail.com (btw im 14)
2006-12-01 12:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Calvin Roy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well who has custody f them you might wanna try to get custody if they are under 18 that way you can tell them the truth if not all you can do is try the is up to them
2006-12-01 12:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋