Question Details: 3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted to take some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back. We have been happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not. I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from the gym and someone from work. The past few days I have been trying not to take it out on her that I am jealous. I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend. I have been asking her all the details of what happened and my girlfriend feels uncomfortable telling me, but I feel I need to know. Is this bad? Please give me advice if yo have any!d
2006-12-01 01:34:52 · 6 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you have opened the proverbial Pandora's box and it too late to try and shut the lid now, so you going to have to find a way to deal with what happened or your jealousy will consume you and destroy the relationship.
You surley didnt think she was going to become a nun whilst you were away? you were the one who gave her the freedom now you are paying the price.
She may well have only slept with these guys cuz she felt hurt and rejected by you.
2006-12-01 01:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's upsetting you just knowing she was with others when you were broke up then why would you really want to know all the details which would only make you more upset over it. Drop asking for the details and work on your future with this girl you seem to love. You were the one that asked for the time away and so you should have considered she might meet and date and even sleep with others during this break up. You are not her and she is not you so even though you didn't sleep or date others she is her own self and she did. Get over it and move ahead with your life with her. You have your second chance with her now so do your best not to blow it. If you continue bugging her about what she did with the other men then you will end up destroying the relationship you now have with her. Good luck.
2006-12-01 10:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should not bother with the details it will only get you more upset. Your upset cause you found out she was seeing other people when you wanted time apart. You need to remember your the one that wanted time apart. She didn't know for sure if you two were going to get back together or not. What was she suppose to do wait around? How long did you want her to wait around?
Well you need to remember that you do love her and you made the mistake of stopping things. Now do yourself a favor and try to put this behind you before you lose her again.
2006-12-01 09:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard "curiosity killed the cat"? I could think of a few other says to go with your dilemma. You said so yourself, but all that aside I think you really need to stop asking when you don't really like the answers. If you love her like you say you do then just be grateful that you both are back together. This doesn't have to happen again so long you don't tell her to take some time again.
2006-12-01 10:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...2 seperate guys in that short a period of time? So why are you so interested in getting all the gory details from her? Looking to become even more miserable? Can I have her phone number? She sounds like she might be fun to hang with.
2006-12-01 09:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should you be upset, you should be furious. If you two were in love she would not have been able to cheat...and yes it is still cheating....
You should open your eyes and see that once MIGHT be a mistake...but twice is inability to commit.
Dont ask anythiing else except for her EXIT!
2006-12-01 09:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by acullenhurley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋