Family & Relationships - 19 December 2007

I met my boyfriend in Los Angeles, but then I moved to Seattle 6 months ago. We have been dating a total of 10 months. He has visited a few times here, but it is hard to get him to commit to see me, even when I offer to go there. He made excuses about making plans for new years eve, due to plane ticket prices and vacation days. Yet I just found out that he booked a last minute flight to Paris, France, with some co-workers (2 females and another male). I broke up with him, and he doesnt understand why I am mad, and will not stop leaving messages on my voicemail. Am I overreacting?

2007-12-19 13:32:17 · 9 answers · asked by melliemel 1 in Singles & Dating

Say a couple is going through a divorce. One reason for the split is the husband cheated with several women. The husband continues to sleep around, while the divorce is pending. Down the line, he tells his soon-to-be ex he still loves her, and wants her back. However, he hasn't stopped sleeping around. He admits it. His wife tells him she will not even consider reconciling unless he stops seeing other people. He says if the two of them got back together, she would be his one and only.

Don't you think he needs to stop seeing other people BEFORE attempting to get back with his wife? How in the world can she ever take him seriously if he's still sleeping around??

2007-12-19 13:31:24 · 11 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-19 13:30:36 · 13 answers · asked by burni.romo 2 in Weddings

So christmas is upon us, and my family is of course having the typical gatherings! I have an aunt who hates my guts! She will be at two of these gatherings. I always try to be mature and not let her bother me, but she comes and starts hurling insults at me! She tells that i am useless and a piece of trash. (she is such a religious person! lol! or trys to act that way)
Well she cant stand me because I told on her son who molested me for years! She cannot accept the fact that he did this to me. He has moved out of state and no one hears from him! Well I want to see all of my family but I am now 4 months pregnant and tired of her crap! What should I do! I want to see my family but not her! What to do?

2007-12-19 13:29:50 · 8 answers · asked by Jessicka S 3 in Family

MANY PEOPLE SAY THAT LOVE IS ENOUGH TO OVERCOME RELATION PROBLEM?MAYBE I MISS WHAT LOVE IS LIKE.IF IT IS ENOUGH SO WHY DID BRAD BREAK UP WITH JENNIFER?THIER FANS LOVE THEM AND THEY LOVED EACHOTHER!WHAT DOES THAT TYPE OF LOVE LOOK LIKE,WHAT DOES IT MEAN?CAN A RED ROSE HELP TO RESOLVE A COUPLE PROBLEM?

2007-12-19 13:28:57 · 3 answers · asked by skull92 1 in Singles & Dating

I know it's not really seen as confident or "masculine", but I seem to get embarrassed easily around girls. My face will turn red, I'll begin to stutter, etc. I just never can think of the right thing to say.

Most girls seem to like guys with lots of confidence. I know I need to work on that...but in the meantime, what do you think of a guy who is bashful and timid?

2007-12-19 13:27:54 · 16 answers · asked by Dee 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-19 13:24:06 · 13 answers · asked by champ 2 in Singles & Dating

WOULD YOU DATE A FuGLY person that your not attracted to if they gave you a million dollars for every month you are w/this person??..and by date i mean do EVERYTHING w/them lmao!!

2007-12-19 13:23:33 · 5 answers · asked by cant take heat?get the f%&k out! 4 in Singles & Dating

He is one of my guy friends. not BEST guy friends, but a guy friend. He texted me saying "I love you so much. Please go out with me" just a few hours ago. I said "I'll get back to you on that" and he said "I hve all the time in the world for you" he gets mad when my other guy friends talk to me, or call me when we are together. We dont go out on dates, but we walk in the halls together, go to the mall together etc etc. ONLY AS FRIENDS. I dont really like him. Is he being a little obsessive??? What should I say to make him feel good, but is also saying "No i dont really wanna go out with you right now"

2007-12-19 13:23:18 · 35 answers · asked by justagirl 2 in Singles & Dating

Do you guys think guys will take me less sirious now that I work at Hooters? There is this one guy I like and Im kind of afraid to tell him I work there.

2007-12-19 13:23:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend is moving to a different school and the last time get to see him is friday, and i really like him and don't want him to move,i'm only 12, but we've been together for 2 months and 25 days, thats the longest relationship i'v ever had :[ plz help.. i like him so much what do i do???

2007-12-19 13:22:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay there is this girl who's real cute and sweet, and was really nice to me, she gave all the signs that she liked me. But when I asked her out she told me she needed to think about it, and she did. She told my FRIEND she won't go out with because I was mean to her, now, I WAS mean to her, but only cause I liked her. Plus, it was in 6th grade when we are now in 8th. Do you think she would say no because of something that happened two years ago? That gives it away that there's a falsity somewhere. She's like super sweet to ME, but because I was so mean to HER, she's holding a grudge or something?
And its probably the same reason she did not call me yet. My real question is why would she tell my FRIEND soemthing about me and not ME instead, I wanted a fast and honest no, rather than thi drawn-out maybe I'm receiveing. Man, girls YOU ARE COMPLICATED!

2007-12-19 13:22:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my nece is 11 is that to young to date but by wht they think is goinng out is just asking some one out and not going out

2007-12-19 13:21:35 · 16 answers · asked by cutie <3 <3 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-19 13:19:13 · 9 answers · asked by Stefanie A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What do you make of the following case?

A person moves into the city and rents a room after obtaining a job at a restaurant. The landlady allows her niece to move in without notice after she decides to leave her home town to finish school. She comes down and forces herself on the landlady. The woman begins beating and verbally abusing the three-year-old daughter immediately. There are twenty-one incidents counted in less than two weeks. The matter is mentioned to the landlady by the new resident, who has been there less than one month and did not expect this lady to move in.

The landlady sides with her niece and insists that she'd 'cut off the child's hands herself' if she keeps going into items at the grocery store. One late afternoon the new resident comes home and goes downstairs to avoid the chain-smoking, verbally abusive, -oriented and Internet crazy woman yelling at her child. She goes downstairs and begins to work on an art project, with the radio on full blast to drown out the sounds of the yelling. The niece starts to beat the three-year-old. The new resident runs upstairs and tells her to stop doing it, to distract attention. Her cell phone is upstairs along with her uniform and her keys, shoes and purse are downstairs. There are no locks on any inside doors, no way out of the basement and she'd have to return downstairs to get her things.

The niece begins slapping and pushing the new resident after an exchange of words, mostly insults with no meaning. She yells, pushes and gangs up on the new resident, not allowing her to leave. They are located in the front living room. The niece has the phone by the computer, which is behind her. She pushes the new resident twice against a loose shoe rack against the wall, which nearly falls on her. The niece slaps and threatens to kill the new resident.

She gets away and grabs a glass. She tells the niece to get away from her or she will hit her with the glass. The niece jumps her, pushes her head into the hardwood cement floor (which leads later on to a concussion), busts her knees open and it starts bleeding and after a struggle with the niece on top, the new resident gets up and gets away and strikes the niece on the head three times after she (the niece) lunges at her. There is little difference in the strength, body size and physical makeup between the two as described.

The niece grabs a towel and the phone. She is bleeding. The child screams. The new resident tells her she is going to the police and goes upstairs and then downstairs to get her things and then leaves, walking two kilometres to the police station. She reports the matter to the police who tell her to return to the resident, wait outside and then they will come. They agree that it was necessary and they are worried for the child because of the niece's actions towards her. The new resident returns after a quick stop at a convenience store and is unarmed. The police arrest her and take her in, charging her with assault with a weapon.

The defense counsel agrees that it is self-defense but that is 'was excessive'. The crown prosecutor pays to have the woman brought down, but has no idea what the 'weapon' was, believing it to be a beer mug or a tea cup. There is no motive. The defense concludes that they have little evidence and no motive. There is no presentation of physical evidence, no doctor's reports, no eyewitness accounts, no samples, no pictures, no police present at court, etc. just the niece who has healed completely with no damage or physical scarring. The crown prosecutor is convinced she was struck ten times but there is no evidence to support this claim. What do you make of this case?

2007-12-19 13:17:42 · 0 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i sent a reply to a girl i like when she asked how i am. weve become quite friendly
this is the reply:

'im good, but dont worry about me. good to hear your'e happy lol. i just have a few important things to take care of this evening. have a nice day, well whatevers left of it lol'

is it a good reply?

2007-12-19 13:17:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

In my own opinion, 30-35 is a good age of becoming a father, the mature you are, the stronger your marriage will be and the more you will have.
Examples, my ex gf's father became a dad at the age of 23 and ended up getting divorced like 6 yrs later, my best friend Richard's father became a dad at the age of 32, and is still living together with his mother.

2007-12-19 13:15:31 · 14 answers · asked by DB 1 in Singles & Dating

Analyze this quote: "It's whatever you want it to be."

Context: With regards to the relationship.

Is this a good thing/bad thing... what should I do... my next move? I think I'm doing good... am I wrong?

2007-12-19 13:14:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Would appreciate your comments .......

2007-12-19 13:13:20 · 7 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't know whats appropiate to give to a family who has just lost their daughter in may. She was my ex and we got extemely close before her death. Her mother is the only one that has talked to me. Her cousin and father dont/ it christmas and I don't know if it is ok to send a card and what kind.

2007-12-19 13:13:13 · 16 answers · asked by wuz u 1 in Family

I am recently engaged and I have not set a date so I am not rushing to make final arrangements for a wedding, but before I can go any farther I want to choose colors for my wedding. We are considering an outdoor summer wedding and reception. Safe color choices would be red, black and white, which I have always liked and are classic colors that would be easy to work with. I have always been one to be a little different without being wild and crazy, but I am envisioning a wedding with navy/midnight with black and some, (little) white for accents. I think that flowers would be the most difficult to coordinate a wedding with on a small budget in the Midwest. Does anyone have pictures from their own wedding or links to websites for reception decorations or flowers that agree with these colors and are still tasteful? I have seen many websites with blue flowers, but they are too light in color and I wish to avoid light blue colors, if necessary. Thanks for your input!

2007-12-19 13:12:10 · 8 answers · asked by miss_lnz_12042004@sbcglobal.net 1 in Weddings

my guy friend usually greets me with a hug and a peck on the cheek. i have a boyfriend.. is this OK? to me i never thought it was a big deal because i know some guys just greet their friends that are girls like that. but my boyfriend thinks i'm cheating. what the heck??

2007-12-19 13:10:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What about someone who was previously married?

2007-12-19 13:10:57 · 3 answers · asked by Tom S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my friend is pist off from my other friend for going out wit her ex ? its been 1 year there seperated!! PLZ HELP ME THEY DONT STOP CURSING AND FIGHTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-19 13:09:59 · 3 answers · asked by sellermarket 1 in Singles & Dating

I met my gf's dad for the first time about 5 weeks ago and he dosen't like me. I kind of understand because she's his only daughter but, how do i get him to like me.
For ex: when i met him he's like "So Kingsley,I heard your a player. Different girl everyday. " Then he pulled me close and was like "God help you if you hurt my daughter" Then he gave me the evilest look ever.He kept giving me the evil look the whole night and when I pick her up he still gives me the evil look.
I was very polite I treated him with respect. I called him 'Sir' I was a gentlemen. I treat her with respect deffinatly. Mabye he heard about my past with girls from her or her friends but still.

So How can I deal with him? Also How can I get him to like me?

2007-12-19 13:08:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Our son has bronchitis since Sunday. He has had a high fever, vomiting and overall sick. (He has been getting better since he has been on antibiotics since Sunday) I asked my husband to skip his basketball games tonight because I need help. Even tho I love my son a sick toddler is difficult. I begged him to help and stay. His reasoning is that our son will be in bed in an hour so it doesn't matter for him to stay. I am heart broken and he lost a lot in my eyes tonight. Am I wrong for feeling like this?

2007-12-19 13:07:44 · 25 answers · asked by Queen of Kings 4 in Marriage & Divorce

This comes as a shock. She said some very hurtful things to me but also writes that she still wants us to be "friends." She didn't even have the decency to give me a phone call.

Part of me wants to write her back and tell her off, but the other part of me says stay cool and don't reply. Likewise, one of my frieds says I should blow up on her, and another friend says to ignore the email and not respond because then i 'stay in control of the situation'. Any thoughts?

2007-12-19 13:03:30 · 19 answers · asked by ZoobieH 1 in Singles & Dating

my 17 year old sister lives with my husband and i, she is trying to go and live with her 21 year old college boyfriend, im so upset i dont know what to do.. our mother could care less and that is why she moved in with us, i cant let her do it, the guys is a complete douch bag and she is olny 17, i made lots of mistakes at that age and i know where it leads you, im wondering if there is anything legal can do about it, or what i should do at all, please help. if im being to freaked out about it or if im right, i need to know how to deal with this.

2007-12-19 13:02:24 · 11 answers · asked by Karyln B 1 in Family

I have this weird feeling inside of me, I am 17 and like I know some of my friends drink and I dont see it as a bad thing, well not always but like I have this weird unexplainable feeling inside of me like when I SEE them drinking I feel like wow its stupid and u dont need to drink to have fun at this age and stuff, and well my girlfriend and her friends want me to go with them to drink a bit and stuff, and I dont know but I just kind of feel sick thinking of everyone drinking, like I dont like seeing people drunk since they arent themselves, and lots of dumb stuff happens when people drink and I am not interested in it, but eventually I know I will drink so like I dont know if its something I should just tag along and see how it goes or what .... someone help :/

Thanks in advance

2007-12-19 13:02:13 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My parents are fighting constantly now about the others relatives, money, and whose job it is to do what. They fight in the living room every night and Im in there with them and sometimes my brother. We usually yell at them and curse at them to shut up and it only works for 5 minuets or so. There fighting can be heard throughout the whole house and next door. I think they are getting a divorce; my dad was fighting about it with her a minuet ago. I need help to get them to stop fighting.

2007-12-19 13:00:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce