I don't know whats appropiate to give to a family who has just lost their daughter in may. She was my ex and we got extemely close before her death. Her mother is the only one that has talked to me. Her cousin and father dont/ it christmas and I don't know if it is ok to send a card and what kind.
2007-12-19 13:13:13 · 16 answers · asked by wuz u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
a card would be nice
2007-12-19 13:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that she will misunderstand the intent of your card if your message is genuine and heartfelt. I am sure she has so much grief to deal with at the moment that she will not have the time or the state of mind to read anything into a message on a card. I am sure that she will appreciate any acknowledgement from those around her, however don't be surprised if you get no response at all. I am sure all her energy will be chanelled into just coping. I think you need to just say how terribly saddened you were to hear the news, how the family is in your thoughts (and prayers?) and maybe something like 'please let me know if there is anything I can do to help at this difficult time'. She probably won't ask for help if you are not close, but it is nice to offer it and.
2016-05-25 02:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by julieta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card that says something like my thoughts&prayers are w/you! Get the mother some flowers&give her a hug,that's the best thing you can do.If this is their 1st Christmas w/out her,you can get them a gift card to a restaurant(fast food,or eat in),9x out of 10,they probably don't want to do much cooking.It's a depressing time right now!You can always get a heart locket for the mother,find someone who'll shrink your ex's picture,and put it inside for her mother&wrap it,that's a gift you'll know she'll keep!
2007-12-19 13:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by La kesha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't address it in the card. Just send a "Thinking of you this Christmas, With love and warm regards" It isn't necessary to say anything specific, in fact it might do more harm than good. She will know what you mean without so many words...
2007-12-19 13:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by ☆ Spharoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd send them a Christmas card just saying happy holidays or merry christmas or whatever. I wouldn't say anything about their daughters death because it was a couple months ago and I'm sure they wouldn't want to be reminded of it.
2007-12-19 13:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by asdf1234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my mom and dad died no one sent a card, it made us wonder "are people going to ignore us now??" So I think it would have been nice if we just got a simple card saying "Hope your holidays are the best, our prayers are with you, Kind Regards" That is all you need to do, that is all they want you to do.
2007-12-19 13:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I wish you the best these season and warmly remember [name of daughter] this time of year and always.
Merry Christmas"
I would imagine condolences have been forwarded their way before and at the funeral.
Best to remember someone fondly than to say 'my condolances' again.
Your sentiments this season are honest. It does not seem inappropriate to me to send a card.
Blessings,
K
2007-12-19 13:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be sweet of you to send a "thinking of you card" at this time of the year. im sure her mom would be very happy to hear from you and include a note of your own to her and the family for a personal touch
2007-12-19 13:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by bucca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would send a religious Christmas card and that will say it all for you.
2007-12-19 13:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it would be nice if you sent a card..But don't talk about the death..just wish them a merry christmas and say something about your thinking of them or something don't be too wordy.
2007-12-19 13:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough one. Tell the psrdon that u're sorry. your heart will lead u through the rest. a card.
2007-12-19 13:18:37 · answer #11 · answered by angie l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋