Family & Relationships - 18 December 2007

So here is the thing. My GF and I of 9 years have seen a decline in our relationship over the past three or more years. But we have stuck it through regardless. This past year though I have been cheating with another girl, I feel guilt for this, I would feel far better if I had broken off things with my GF first, but you know how it goes. So now in essence I am going to move out in the new year , I don't want to break things up before Christmas. My only thing is that I want my GF to be happy; safe and taken care of; that somehow we can remain friends. When she showered this past month or so I would sneak and read her text messages, and clearly she has also been seen some guy , to a certain degree. And also some days she showed up late 3 or 4 in the morning , claiming that she was visiting some female friend from work. I would not really care because I reckoned if she were cheating then all is well.Today I saw her cell phone for the first time in a while, and it seems as if the guy ..

2007-12-18 14:40:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This has been going on for 3 monthes now her abstinent behavior. i've been making her sleep on the couch while i do this but friends say i'm going about it the wrong way. What do you think?

2007-12-18 14:37:27 · 40 answers · asked by James S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

for the past couple of weeks my sister was saying that she wanted a tattoo.. but she didn't want it to symbolize anything.. she just got it to be "cool" in my opinion. I don't think that she understands that it will be with her for the rest of her life.
Today, she got a tattoo, against everybody in her immediate familys wishes, but shes spoiled so my mom and stepdad let her get it.
WORST OF ALL! its a tramp stamp. I have soooo much anger over this, how do I keep my self from telling her that she looks like a stupid little ****, and thats what people will think when they see her.
Why did she do this if she knew how everybody was against it.

2007-12-18 14:35:17 · 11 answers · asked by Bridget 2 in Family

does he always feel this deep love for her, even 10 years later..?? does his love for her continue to be as 'intense' as it was when they first got married, and you still get 'butterflies' in your stomach, or does it kinda fade away over time

2007-12-18 14:35:02 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Her husband is abusive, pinned her down in tears because she did not feel like sex, he controls her, who she talks to, he gives her money weekly for just the basics. he breaks into her work computer with clients records to see if she is cheating. He told her if she ever thought of leaving or anything he would tell her kids, family, co-workers that she is a slut. They go without sex for weeks. He wont even buy airconditing during the summer even with three kids. He has gained over 100 pounds since they got married, went back to school but dropped out cause it was too hard.

She met a guy who is amazing to her. He is there for her with no pressure. He is kind, caring and treats her right. She confessed to me about him pinning her down in tears beggin him to get off of her. Then she told me that he would tell everyone including her kids she was a slut if she ever went against him. I asked her would her new guy do something like that? Her reply was "of course not, he loves me."

2007-12-18 14:34:07 · 3 answers · asked by mike s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 20 yrs of age and I have a hard time talking/discussing matters with my parents. My parents (father) usually thinks every shred of advice he give is 100% right. My parents are smart people who care and love me but how do I stand up to them against something they feel isn't right?

2007-12-18 14:33:38 · 10 answers · asked by DelightBunnie 6 in Family

if he cheated on you after you had your children and after you were married, and because of him cheating he produced another child.but you only find out 11 years later.

2007-12-18 14:28:22 · 31 answers · asked by mimi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She lost her dad three years and at his furenal, she didnt cry. she told me she has not really cry for her dad. she cried once or twice. why didnt she cry at her dad's furenal?

2007-12-18 14:28:15 · 5 answers · asked by mary b 2 in Family

2007-12-18 14:27:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok well i have a friend who i think likes me but if i say i like you im going to be to scared to say i like you but we arefriends but if he ask me out ill probly say no but what should i do if i think he likes me or how do i know dat he likes me? (hes cute too n he plays football)

2007-12-18 14:27:01 · 3 answers · asked by Melia P 1 in Singles & Dating

I have only been married for 3 years and we have a 2 yr old child. My husband is really starting to bore me, it is like he doens't like to have fun anymore or muck around. Went to a function and started flirting with another guy, nothing happened, but I am blaming him for the flirting as I think if he was fun and outgoing, I wouldn't need too?? What do you think??

2007-12-18 14:25:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

The first time I really thought I was over him but we ended up getting back together a couple months later and the second time (about a week ago) I only did it because I was under a lot of stress, and sometimes like we were more just friends, but I realized I still got really jealous when he would talk to other girls and stuff...
He got really mad at me though, (as some of you may remember) and finally forgave me (thank God) yesterday when I told him I still liked him and I didn't want to break up with him, I just had to. I said that so I could hold onto him a little longer and now we're at least friends again...
But I still love him...

2007-12-18 14:25:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there's this girl i've loved for a year and a halve. she's always known i love her and i've always known she didn't love back. before i start explaining, i think i should mention this now, their is no relationship and "move on" or "grow up" r not answers i'll take. so here's the problem, for about a month and a halve, i've been getting toughs and voices in my head that tell me to call her to tell her to go on msn or to make plans to be alone with me, but the main problem interfering with that is that i made a deal with her so that neither of us say a thing about my love for her, what i mean is tat nobody says anithing about me loving her, so i can't let anybody know and i can't make it look suspicious to others. to me their's just no way to make that happen. everytime i'm near her, i want to tell it to her that i want to be able to have some time alone but i just can't seem to be able to. and the only way i can talk to her about that is on msn but she rarely sings in now.

2007-12-18 14:22:33 · 2 answers · asked by Drekentai 3 in Friends

Me and my girlfriend have been talking about the big M word. Engagement Rings always come up, she swears to god it isnt about the money, but she wants a ring that is at least 1ct. and 1500 dollars minimum. It would take me forever to save up that kind of money and she knows this. What do you all think of that? Does she really think about the monetary value, instead of the emotional value?

2007-12-18 14:22:31 · 4 answers · asked by california_dreamer_chris 2 in Singles & Dating

My step dad and mom have help us financially ALOT. I feel terrible when I have to ask them for money. Although I haven't had to go to them for money lately, it put's a strain on my relationship with my parents to have to.
Why do some people make others feel guilty when they fall on hard times? My step dad has the money to help us but when he does we have to be reminded about it constantly.In contrast, my wifes parents do not have alot of extra money but they will sell scrap metal or scrub cruddy asss toilets to help their family. And not ask for you to repay them one dime. That's because they love their family that much.
My wife said they made scarifices for their children alll their lives. They got nothing yet would give away what they do have.
My parents have an 80,000 dollar RV and ***** about helping people. If I had one I would not be able to enjoy myself on it if I thought my children needed something.That's all I'd worry about.

2007-12-18 14:20:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I mean seriously...I can't stand everything about it...lines, crowds, rude clerks/customers, commercialism....give give give...receive receive receive!!!!!!!!!! Does Christmas mean more than all of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My poor wife. My attitude breaks her heart...and we don't even have kids yet.

2007-12-18 14:20:34 · 17 answers · asked by Old Soul 28 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He likes me and all.. and weve gone to the movies but he wont ask me out.. should i wait for him to ask, or should i just go and ask him... i dont know what i should do

2007-12-18 14:19:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How do you wake up a man to see whats in front of him>?
he works 12 hours and only has approx. 4 hours to spare before going to bed and repeating the day over again. works at 5:30 and doesn't get home until 6 pm. that doesn't give much spare time for anything> I just think he just too tired to think about romance, sex etc.

2007-12-18 14:18:58 · 3 answers · asked by Lola 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay my boyfriend broke up with me because he didnt believe that I never had sex before [I NEVER HAD SEX BEFORE] i tell him and i swear on my life that i never had sex...but he still doesnt believe me because i know alot about sex. So how can I prove to him that I mean it when I say i never had sex. and how can I get him back..and get him to fully trust me again? We still love each other and talk all the time..he just says he loves me but hes not inlove with me anymore..and i think thats beceause he stopped trusting and believeing me. So help me please!! Oh...i have never has sex with him...but i have um...masturbated [fingers] lol sorry if thats to much info...but yeah...thats all i have ever done...
There was really no major trust issues before this. Times we fell asleep on the phone he says that he heard sexual stuff between two people..but i think it was a party line. Thats what started the trust issuse. Thats all i can think of rigth now.

2007-12-18 14:17:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

think deep >> and deeper >> how did something or someone jus come about...it does not click

i believe in god, its jus something i think about...frm time to time

2007-12-18 14:14:39 · 1 answers · asked by storrm88 1 in Singles & Dating

so i have a boyfriend of 9 months and i love him to death but sometimes when im at a party or something and guys approach me i get really excited especially when they tell me they want to run a train on me! i often want to do it sooooo badlt and i know that would me make like a slut but idk the idea of all of them with me just turns me on especially cuz they are really really fine! so how can i stop having those thoughts? cuz im scared one day i might go through with it and do it!!!

2007-12-18 14:14:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my ex is going to get together with a new guy. she thinks he is awesome, but i know things about him that she dosent.....really bad things...things she would break up with him for. i dont want her to get hurt, especially by him. but i want her to be happy. and i want revenge on the guy for what he did. so im kinda stuck. i need advice. thanks in advance.

2007-12-18 14:13:40 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-18 14:12:54 · 1 answers · asked by broctune 2 in Singles & Dating

i like this guy and he knows that but we are only mates but when girls come up to him infront of him and flirt i dont know what to do ? i dont want to be jelouse and let him know that any advice please ?? please because i just dont want to be jelouse

2007-12-18 14:12:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Have you ever liked someone a lot that you talked to only through the web? for example someone that you've met through aim, yahoo, myspace, or facebook.
And if you have. Did you have feelings for this person?
is it even possible?

2007-12-18 14:12:14 · 17 answers · asked by Don't Call Me Peanut 4 in Singles & Dating

I sent my mother this e-mail, whom my father and I caught with her lover, whom she said was just a friend, (14 years younger than HER), in the kitchen cooking dinner,


We, Niko Luis and Angel Maria Toledo feel that not even once in our lives, have we gone a year with everything being perfectly OK with our mother's mental attitude and disorders, if it's her arguing with her kids on the curb while they're 3 & 2 on Fourth of July, rejecting help from locals, and yelling at us or taking us out on a "joy-ride" during the night time, following innocent people in their car, threatning to hit them, etc. We never got invited over to friends' houses due to our mother. whom we shall now call Cruz (for us, she has loss the right to even be known as "mom", "mother", "momma", and "mommy.") for EVERYONE at our school thinks she is crazy and have dis-liked her since day once there. We've given her many chances as a friend and a mother. Yet, we ask her for something and she never delivers it to us,

2007-12-18 14:10:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

so my boyfriend gave me his password on facebook.....and i was looking through his "sent" messages...

we've been going out for almost a year now, and he sent this message to some girl when we were going out for two months. tell me what you think.

"cute pics! i saw you at prom...... you looked good, i saw you at the last fire too with your b/f, you looked good then too!"

this was to some other girl who he goes to school with. but he's never mentioned her or anything... plz tell me what you think.

2007-12-18 14:10:57 · 25 answers · asked by scoot 1 in Singles & Dating

He is legally separated and daughter comes over every other weekend. I go to his house but he makes it a point to take me home at whatever time.
He tells me he needs time to work out his situation, this is ongoing.
Have any guys ever done or though something like this?

2007-12-18 14:10:03 · 7 answers · asked by nili 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-18 14:09:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I would like my own kids someday...it seems all the women I meet are single Moms. I want a nice family that starts with a male and female in love...and not a male and female, and her ex's love trophies.
Do I have a chance? Or should I just give up?

2007-12-18 14:07:41 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating