so my bf gave me his password to facebook and i was reading his sent messages and..... tell me what you think.

Question

so my boyfriend gave me his password on facebook.....and i was looking through his "sent" messages...

we've been going out for almost a year now, and he sent this message to some girl when we were going out for two months. tell me what you think.

"cute pics! i saw you at prom...... you looked good, i saw you at the last fire too with your b/f, you looked good then too!"

this was to some other girl who he goes to school with. but he's never mentioned her or anything... plz tell me what you think.

well everyone says "well if he gave you his password you he trusts you and has nothing to hide" blah blah blah... but maybe he just didn't delete it... because the 10 most recent messages are sent to me and then the last 2 are sent to two other girls... WHILE we were going out... so i just don't know.

another thing...
on my myspace or facebook, if a boy ever write as a pic comment "you look really nice." or anything like that, he'll make me delete and and be all suspiscious.

Answer 1

Seriously, come on. First off it happened about 10 months ago, some of the people I know would have gone through about 15 boy/girl friends in that time. He gave you his password so either he doesn't have anything to hide, he's confident you won't find anything, or he's a complete idiot. I'm guessing the first one just because 99% of guys wouldn't give you the password in the first place if they were cheating on you. saying you looked good at prom isn't anything but a compliment. Would you like it if some guy told you that you looked nice even though you had a boyfriend? I doubt it. It's called being nice. I hate it when girls try to prove that their boyfriend is cheating on them, it's like they expect it and if they can't find proof then the guy is just good at hiding it. Some of us guys deserve the benefit of the doubt. Besides if you can't find anything more more resent than 10 months ago than maybe he isn't actually cheating on you and you are over reacting about nothing.

Answer 2

Hi Angel of Music (I Love Phantom!!)

I really wouldn’t be too concerned with this. You can’t tell if he is flirting or just giving her a compliment. Look at it this way, if he was flirting, you two had only been going out 2 months, and that was a long time ago. He’s probably forgotten all about it…. He gave you his password because he believes he has nothing to hide, which means, he is being faithful. If he was cheating, or thinking about cheating, there’s no way he’d let you have his password – he’d worry too much about getting caught.

Remember that men are different, and generally don’t get as serious as a woman in a relationship right away. It took my husband almost 6 months to say “I love you” (and mean it) and it took him 6 years to ask me to marry him! If you had only been dating two months when he wrote that, he wasn’t thinking about his intentions or consequences, he was just saying hello! =P

Answer 3

To answer your question here is a question. Do you have guy friends despite having a boyfriend? I am sure that you do and he has friends that are girls while he has a girlfriend. Notice the lack of anything flirty, he even adds in that the boyfriend and the girl both looked great which means he is not trying to break em up but show they look great together. There is a difference between friendship and relationships but sometimes it is hard to see. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

i think that he has nothing to hide if he gave you his facebook password. but i question your motivation. sounds to me like you are trying to posess him. some things just need to be kept private, like passwords. that's why they are passwords. i'm a firm believer that if you go looking for some trouble, you will find some. that's not to say that he is doing something. the fact that he gave you his password is a mystery to me. i wouldn't have. did you ask him for the password of did he give it to you willingly? and he's either trying to prove to you that you can trust him or he's trying to throw you off. he might have some other social networking sights that he visits that you don't have access to. at any rate, some things just need to be kept private. i hope you are not like, a drama queen who hangs on him like dryer lint and forbids him to talk to other girls. depending on what type of guy he is, he just might cut and run. he could be a guy who doesn't have a strong self esteem and will let you roll all over him. being that intertwined is not normal. i don't answer my bf's cellphone, don't go through his pockets, don't try to hack into his voicemail or text messages. he has a lot of friends, whom he has known before he met me and i have to respect that. i can't just come onto the scene and try to take over his life. i hope he doesn't grow resentful of your being so thoroughly entrenched in his private matters. i wish you the best

Answer 5

Well, it seems to me like he's just giving a compliment. If they're close friends, I mean, that's no problem right? If you had a guy-friend - not your boyfriend - and he looked nice one day, you'd tell him that, wouldn't you?


But at the same time you can never be too careful, just trust your boyfriend. I mean, he IS your boyfriend for a reason, right? REMEMBER: relationships are built on trust.

Answer 6

Sounds like he thinks she is cute. However, she has a boyfriend. Why they emailing each other is another story. I hope he has stopped because he sounds very attracted to her and if the timing was right he may consider hooking up.

With that said, that was 3. how many years ago? I understand that you are hurt but you must let it go because he is with you not her and if you dwell on this it could kill your relationship.

Answer 7

Its nothing to worry about my boy has said worse but he is loyal and wouldn't cheat on me.Sometimes we flirt when we are bored and dont mean anything serious. If he said i wanted to f*ck you at prom and serious messages like man i can't wait to dump my gf to be with you then there is a problem.This is just something little dont let it get out of hand.
Best Wishes :)

Answer 8

if that is when you were going out for 3 months and he hasn't mentioned her yet. You don't have to worry. If he wanted to be with her or anything then he would have already. Usually when guys are interested in other girls they will mention something about them frequently. Or at least that is what I read. Don't worry about it. He's with you and he likes you obviously if you been with each other for so long.

Answer 9

Its normal for men to be attracted to other women even if your in a serious relationship. Just like we (women) would be attracted to other men.
Obviously your boyfriend didnt feel like he had too much to hide by giving you his password. That in itself should relieve you a lil.
I dont personally think that there is any need for you too worry... if it really bothers you ... you should talk to him about it. Relationships get messed up quick when you dont talk about things.

Good Luck ... n dont worry

Answer 10

Um gosh um hes just giving her a compliment no big deal!
Also he wouldnt have given you his password if he was talking to some other girl!