My step dad and mom have help us financially ALOT. I feel terrible when I have to ask them for money. Although I haven't had to go to them for money lately, it put's a strain on my relationship with my parents to have to.
Why do some people make others feel guilty when they fall on hard times? My step dad has the money to help us but when he does we have to be reminded about it constantly.In contrast, my wifes parents do not have alot of extra money but they will sell scrap metal or scrub cruddy asss toilets to help their family. And not ask for you to repay them one dime. That's because they love their family that much.
My wife said they made scarifices for their children alll their lives. They got nothing yet would give away what they do have.
My parents have an 80,000 dollar RV and ***** about helping people. If I had one I would not be able to enjoy myself on it if I thought my children needed something.That's all I'd worry about.
2007-12-18 14:20:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's nice that your wife's family helps out, but i don't think you need to ask them anymore.. especially if they have to scrape to get by...
If you are having financial issues, maybe move to a cheaper place or get rid of some things (cell phones or the land line, cable tv) for several months to a year....try to make "plans" for what you're going to eat every week, so you spend money only on what you've planned... etc.
Like i said above, it's nice people are willing to help you out, and even moan and complain about it like your step father does. I know emergencies come up when we are young and just starting out -- like the dentist, etc.
The truth is he and your in-laws MIGHT BE enabling you to be lax about your budget by loaning money. You said you don't ask that often anymore, which is good... it's a sign you are trying.
I'm not there and don't know a lot about your situation, so am not here to judge... you may have financial problems through no fault of your own... just do your best to budget and bite the bullet when you have to. And in the meantime, if you can save just $5 a week, that's something extra!
Take care and i know that as time goes by, you will do very well!
2007-12-18 14:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever my husband and I had fallen on hard times, my mother-in-law was there to pick us up. She never asked us to repay her. All she wanted was to help others. She didn't have much, but what she did have, she was always willing to share with others. I sometimes wonder if people who have lots of money are afraid of losing it all. I also wonder if they know, that they can't take it with them when they are gone.
2007-12-18 14:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by pitbull1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised my children by myself and I worked 2 jobs to make ends meet. I could of asked my parents for money but I did not. I brought my children into this world and it was my job to take care of them and not depend on anyone else. I stood on my own feet and have no regrets about that.
2007-12-18 14:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people have beefs with one another, whether it be over things that they have herd, or another family member steering them away, onto an udder path, or just plain old not mincing their words. Cattleoging all these different events will get you nowhere. Just gotta accept it and moooove on.
2016-05-24 23:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋