I'm 20 yrs of age and I have a hard time talking/discussing matters with my parents. My parents (father) usually thinks every shred of advice he give is 100% right. My parents are smart people who care and love me but how do I stand up to them against something they feel isn't right?
2007-12-18 14:33:38 · 10 answers · asked by DelightBunnie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe ask them to sit down and listen.. tell them how you feel. if you don't quite know how you feel, then write a list of your feelings before your talk... and start your sentences out with "i feel"..... "i feel it's difficult to open up and talk with you" , etc.
you can also ask them what you can do to make your relationship better and for them to listen to your concerns in the future.
then ask them to think about what you said, and to let you know their feelings after they have had some time to roll it all around.
take care!
2007-12-18 14:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, they probably ARE right. But, you need to learn things for yourself, make your own mistakes and then later...you can tell them "you told me so". You really don't have to 'stand up to them' at all. You just do what you do, take responsibility for your own decisions and choices...and later, thank them for caring enough to say something when they see you're about to go down a rough path. They raised you and now they get to see how that worked out...tell them you'll probably make a few mistakes, but overall...they did a great job and you'll take it from here.
2007-12-18 14:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Beach Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them, that's the easiest way. I feel the same way sometimes about my parents, except..I'm 16. Don't be afraid to offend them, they are your parents and they should respect your opinion, as you respected theres. Also, be careful and pick your "fights" wisely.
2007-12-18 17:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humor them by agreeing with them. When they give advice, tell them that sounds like a wonderful idea and you're going to do that right away. Then do what you want.
2007-12-18 14:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to believe in your side 100% or you wont be able to do. If they love you then they should respect your decision. If that doesn't work, don't look them in the eye.
2007-12-18 14:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by +Kate+ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to respectfully listen to the advice given then say to them respectfully ,that you hear what they're saying but you do happen to feel the same way,let them know you love & repect them just the same .
2007-12-18 23:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by BQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my parents (especially my mom).Fortunately dad was gone when I got divorced,but my mother still tried to tell me what to do.I finally told her I appreciated her advice,but it was my life,and I had to make my own mistakes.I guess it worked,because she finally quit harassing me when I got involved in relationships where premarital sex was involved.The best part?She finally saw me as an adult.
2007-12-18 14:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by sacred_hart_99 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
agree with them and keep your opinions to yourself...one day when your their age, you might decide to agree with them
2007-12-18 14:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda have the same problem... my only solution... just listen and dont talk.. they will eventually stop talking.
2007-12-18 14:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by RaNdOm GuY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out. that'll show em
2007-12-18 14:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by ʎʞɔoɹ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋