Family & Relationships - 17 November 2007

this might be a little long, but very important to me and I desperately need help. Please nothing mean...just serious and heartfelt answers appreciated

My 44 year old husband is cheating on me (I'm 24 btw and wife #2 we have 3 young children under age 8) Problem is he won't admit it~ the cheating. And believe me, he is good (with deny deny deny) somedays he can make my head spin and I actually start to believe that I must be crazy/ delusional, sadly though I'm not and the feeling doesn't last long. I KNOW that he is. I guess I should say 98% sure (the only 2% thats missing {and keeping me here I guess} is that I have not seen him "do it" with my own 2 eyes), but EVERYTHING else is there including his past behavior (cheated on wife #1 multiple times and eventually left her for another woman..not me) His denial is whats driving me crazy, he even goes as far as denying things I have witnessed like him being somewhere or something he has told me. He denies anything and everything. con't

2007-11-17 01:58:57 · 16 answers · asked by busymum 5 in Marriage & Divorce

talk...

2007-11-17 01:57:40 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think onlye the mature ones have it, he he Maybe...What's your opinion

2007-11-17 01:54:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok my ex is going to have our son this weekend we are going through a divorce well sort of he will not agree to the papers yet.
Anyhow last night on the phone he asked me if I needed any money and I told him no (I do not want him to think I am out for his money at all) anyhow he says well I am going to give you some money.
So here is the question we have a son together and rightfully he should be paying some sort of support but beings it is not "on the books" should I decline it until then or take it???

2007-11-17 01:51:18 · 19 answers · asked by ღKrissyღ 5 in Marriage & Divorce

WOULD YOU GIVE A DRUNK PERSON SOME VERBAL AFFECTION, CAUSE HE NEEDS IT?

2007-11-17 01:47:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

They both deny any romantic involvement, but 16 years ago, just as I became engaged to my now wife, her partner took her for a short walk in the woods outside of their office to tell her that for long he had entertained fantasies of their being together one day . Her birthday gift to him in 2006 was a new pen. His thank you email said: " now I can take a little piece of you along with me on business trips;" signed with the closing, "Love...."

2007-11-17 01:38:11 · 21 answers · asked by John 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-17 01:33:46 · 49 answers · asked by aislingthequeen 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Is this a valid question. I'm wasted. How is this a question, hmmm Well, is a drunk person able to make new friends online? Or should he or she be sober first?

2007-11-17 01:33:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my family found out that i might be gay on the internet and now i have to talk to them about it and i don't know where or how to start the conversation. i'm female and its hardest to bring up the subject with my mother.... and she seems to be waiting for me to come to her about it bacause she knew before i was told she knew. can anyone help?

2007-11-17 01:26:50 · 10 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family

it's been a tough week for me.. my boyfriend for 10years just asked for "space".. why the hell he'll be needing space?? he's at UAE and im here (philippines).. is that not enough space for him?? the wedding is off.. don't know what will happen next.. he still calls me at the wee hours (4am mostly) just to keep in touch . hmmm.. how can i move-on if he is still talking to me..?? damn!! i will die of heartache.. :(

2007-11-17 01:24:43 · 3 answers · asked by moore 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-17 01:23:49 · 17 answers · asked by Hoodoo 3 in Singles & Dating

not my father, not my mother, not my brother, and not even my friends!!!

I cannot even tell anyone the details of it otherwise it’ll jeopardise the whole situation.

Why???

Why???

Why it has given me this in return?

I have always pondered, what is the point of riding the ups and downs of life, yes we go through stage by stage in life to advance to the next level, what is the point then, when towards the end everything comes to nil?

Yes we suffer at school, then pass the exams. Then go out to work, then try to adapt to new work life, but if you are not happy, resign, found another job, then get disappointed, because everywhere you go, you encounter the same type of people trying to push away responsibilities, blah blah blah, same types of politics, then you move on to the next job, same thing again.

Life with the love of your life, infatuation, meet their friends, meet their parents, meet their relatives, then bang, break up, meet another person, the whole cycle

2007-11-17 01:11:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-11-17 01:09:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If the mother and father fail to provide support and the unconditional love that is supposed to go hand in hand together then how do you feel that this could effect them in later life?

All opinions welcome.

2007-11-17 01:08:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

hey, i met this guy through a chat room, and 2 months into the txt relationship, he asks me 2 marry him! shocked but flattered, i said yes, bt nw i think im regretting it, my so called friends ar etaking the micky oput of me, i havent even met the guy, and we have more arguments than a little! should i end the relationship, and be a normal 14 year old grl, or should i stay the way i am, i just dont know any more. i really need some advice, this is a tough 1.

2007-11-17 01:04:37 · 54 answers · asked by love_me_im_sweet 2 in Weddings

2007-11-17 01:03:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I would like to know if the ladies out there picked their own ring or did the man go and get it and made it a suprise? I also would like to know what was spent on the engagement ring or bridal set?? I am doing some ring shopping and would like to know your experiences and what you think is reasonable to spend on a ring?? Thanks and have a good day!!

2007-11-17 01:02:10 · 24 answers · asked by l'il mama 5 in Weddings

I just moved into a new flat 2 weeks ago.

He lives across the street,. but our flats are quite close. He has been staring into my room ever since, hell he is doing it right now. I am sick and tired of keeping my drapes shut cause of him. Any ideas on how to shook him off?

2007-11-17 00:59:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-17 00:50:08 · 6 answers · asked by truthfullman 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Or should we be doing it more.

2007-11-17 00:47:53 · 20 answers · asked by pollbee 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-17 00:46:51 · 8 answers · asked by cindy 2 in Singles & Dating

and why are they even bothering?

2007-11-17 00:43:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Recently, I've received news that I'm able to shift class. But I've been best friends with Chris. I've just met her this year and we're very close. She couldn't move because of the results of her finals. Another close friend, Shar is going together with me. We've been friends for a long time, unlike Chris. Please advice, thanks.

2007-11-17 00:38:07 · 19 answers · asked by Shirley 1 in Friends

every time i go anywhere without him, my boyfriend questions me, to the extent that i feel i am doing something wrong, even when i am not. sometimes i dont enjoy going places because i keep thinking about how upset / anxious he is without me. i know its his "insecurity",but could i fix this a bit by reassuring him more/giving himmore attention?

2007-11-17 00:29:30 · 17 answers · asked by jay dee 1 in Singles & Dating

i am divorced for the second time from the same guy,i live in adifferent country now and the reason he divorced me in the second time that he couldnt do me papers to get in USA while he is married to another woman.i was his second wife.when he divorced me in the first time i was his only wife.i feel that i was a toy for him that every time he wanted to play in this toy he remember me and now he got bored and because i need alot of hard work to make me papers ,he threw me i feel so mad at him and so weak that i cant do anything,i am in my country now,its an arab country.i am 27 years old now .the first time i married him i was 18 we stayd 3 years togother then he let me go back home and divorced me on the phone and he canceled my resedency card,the second time i married him i was 26 and i went with him to the US on a visit visa.he did the same thing ,he told me to go back home and divorced me again on the phone.i feel so weak and sad.i want to do something to feel better.

2007-11-17 00:24:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

All my friends are girls, I fancy the lot of them but I have no bad intentions and my friends know that and the only reason I hang about with them is because I think they have a higher level of maturity then most guys do:
On eof my friends is my exgirlfriend and she's my bestfriend and we're really close but her Dad won't allow her to hang about with a single guy and seen as I'm 15 and my exgirlfriend is 12 going on 13 her Dad would probably have my throat if he found out that I hang out with her.
My other bestfriend is 13 going on 14 and we hang about outside of school and in school because her Dad doesn't mind but he does have something against me and once yelled at me for no reason when I was talking to my friend on the phone.
And alot of my other friends' Dads have something against me and I don't know why?

2007-11-17 00:21:42 · 10 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-17 00:16:13 · 12 answers · asked by waggy 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-17 00:07:50 · 1 answers · asked by CE 1 in Singles & Dating

my question is for the married guys out there....i am 25 and never been married. What do married men to do to keep the LOVE/SEX in their marriage alive? What are some things that you do to keep the spark…I know for me that after dating a girl a while things seem to get old and it’s like the spark died out? What would you say is the hardest thing to keep alive in marriage…the love or sex? What is most important you? Is it true that married men get bored of having sex with the same person after awhile? What about love do you find that you you’re not in love like you use to be when you first dated? If sex and love is going strong in your marriage what did you do to keep the flame going after so many years?
Not looking for people to answer with their opinions. I am looking for Married or Divorced men to give me answers from their own PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.

2007-11-17 00:06:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. He lives in California and I live in Boston. We've only been together for a total of 13 days because of the distance, and we're both in school. We were doing fine, but lately he is just being different, in a bad way. Usually we get along great and talk on the phone for hours. But lately, if we have a fight and he becomes disrespectful, I'll ask for an apology, and he refuses. He never does anything sweet for me. Last night he found out that his dad won't pay for the rest of the school year, so he might have to drop out, and he yelled at me when I tried to help him. Now he might have to join the army so they'll pay. He says I don't listen to his problems but he never wants to tell me them in the first place. I just feel so frustrated. I love him so much and he's a great guy usually. I hate that he makes me question whether or not to stay with him because I know that I probably won't find anyone better for me. What should I do?

2007-11-17 00:03:41 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Other - Family & Relationships