what should i do after what he did to me?

Question

i am divorced for the second time from the same guy,i live in adifferent country now and the reason he divorced me in the second time that he couldnt do me papers to get in USA while he is married to another woman.i was his second wife.when he divorced me in the first time i was his only wife.i feel that i was a toy for him that every time he wanted to play in this toy he remember me and now he got bored and because i need alot of hard work to make me papers ,he threw me i feel so mad at him and so weak that i cant do anything,i am in my country now,its an arab country.i am 27 years old now .the first time i married him i was 18 we stayd 3 years togother then he let me go back home and divorced me on the phone and he canceled my resedency card,the second time i married him i was 26 and i went with him to the US on a visit visa.he did the same thing ,he told me to go back home and divorced me again on the phone.i feel so weak and sad.i want to do something to feel better.

Answer 1

You should get on with your life and forget all about this man.
He has treated you very badly and if you want happiness in your life you have got to start looking after yourself.

Stay divorced from him and keep away from him. It is difficult to assist you when you are living in an Arabian country and I do not really know what the laws are over there, regarding you remarrying.

The point of this whole story is that you have to start feeling better about yourself and get good self esteem. Do you work? If so do you have a dream . Every person should have a dream that they can work towards. In every country there are unique people who, if they decide for themselves, can make their lives what they want it to be.

Do you have relatives in the U.S.A. that you could come back to, that have no connection to your ex-husband,? Perhaps you could come over and start all over again. It is never to late to do that you know. If you would rather stay in your country, can you get a job that you really like and meet other people.

You ask what you should do after what he did to you., For one thing you MUST not even think of him again and you must get on with your life. Write down on paper what dreams you have for your life. Put many down and then cross out one by one until you have THE dream down. You are young enough to go after a dream now, and your mind will be taken away from HIM and concentrate on something else. There are wonderful things you could do and the most rewarding is, somehow start helping people that have not much themselves. In giving of your self, you will receive good things from others. What you give out you get back. Have you every heard of that before.

If you are still hurting over what has happened to you remember the saying THIS TO SHALL PASS.

That man is a jerk and the further you stay away from him the better for your future happiness.

Answer 2

when we have been abandoned there is no worse pain. he did use u and unfortunately u have to put your life back together again and see him for who he truly is. but if he hurt u once why did u believe in him and trust your heart to him again? u have to experience the grief process, it hurts, there is no easy way but to go through it. right now your self worth and confidence is gone because of what someone else did to u. u made a wrong choice, trusted the wrong person, not your fault really, as u thought the man loved u. we get the most gain emotionally from pain unfortunately. u live and learn so the next time u don't get back into this, your still young and have a chance to move forward with someone who will treat u right. he has a habit of sending u back home and than calling u like a coward to inform u he doesn't want u anymore, how sad. just accept him for who he is see the truth, and realize its not your fault this happened.

Answer 3

The second time he was never really married to you. In America we have only one wife and one husband. If he married you as a second wife it wasn't legal and there for never married you the second time anyway. That is why he so called divorced you over the phone. He knew he was never really married to you. Don't go back to him now that you see he played a game with you. There's someone for everyone but it takes time to find them.

Answer 4

He used you and he needs to be reported... In the US you can only have one wife. I sure as h*** hope his wife in the US finds this out. He needs to be horse whipped!!! And that is just being kind, can't say what i really think on here... Find someone else that isn't married or in a relationship. And in your country. Best of luck

Answer 5

well do not go back again.... and how did he divorce you on the phone. do you mean asked for a divorce. becuz he cannot divorce you over the phone. unless of course he was standing in court before a judge at the time. anyway... find a man in your country.

Answer 6

Divorced you on the phone? This sounds like a Muslim thing. Your question is somewhat rambling, but one thing comes through loud and clear. Run, do not walk, from this person. He is bad news.

Answer 7

move on with your life and DO NOT MARRY HIM AGAIN. if he really loved you and wanted to be with you, the hard work to get you in the us would mean nothing to him. he would work day and night to make sure you were in his arms.

so his actions prove he's not serious about you. just move on and live a happy life. thats the best thing you can do. being bitter is not gonna get you anywhere

Answer 8

Go back home and find someone who loves you. He is playing games with you. If you want to be in the US then do it on your own legally. You don't need him playing games with your emotions. Good luck!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

WHAT YOU CAN DO THIS TIME IS .."BE MORE FRIENDLY WITH HIM OVER PHONE. MARRY HIM AGAIN AND ON THE THIRD DAY ASK HIM TO QUIT .JUST ABANDON HIM. HE DESREVES A KICK ON THE RIGHT SPOT."