im 14 and engaged, is it all 2 soon?

Question

hey, i met this guy through a chat room, and 2 months into the txt relationship, he asks me 2 marry him! shocked but flattered, i said yes, bt nw i think im regretting it, my so called friends ar etaking the micky oput of me, i havent even met the guy, and we have more arguments than a little! should i end the relationship, and be a normal 14 year old grl, or should i stay the way i am, i just dont know any more. i really need some advice, this is a tough 1.

Answer 1

Yes it is too soon. At 14 you could not possibly be ready to handle the demands of marriage. Plus you haven't even met this guy. You may want to end this relationship and find a young man that you can a relationship with.

Answer 2

Baby girl there are so many things wrong with that picture. You met him in a chat room. You don't know what kind of man this could be!!! On top of that you have only know and talked to him for 2 months. Have you even seen this guy? Marriage is not something that you just rush into. I believe you should date for at least a year. My situation is a little different. My boyrfiend and I have been living together for some time now and with that pretty much what you see is what you get. We're still not gettting married until sometime next year.. You need to be a child while you can still be a child. Why do you want to marry this guy? What can he offer you. You need to think about questions like these. Better yet think about finishing school. Maybe even going to college. By the way i'm 22 and just now engaged. TRUE LOVE WAITS!!! Ask my fiance

Answer 3

You are way too young to be engaged. You haven't even met this person, have known him 2 months and have had arguments with him already. Even if you were much older than 14 I'd tell you to end the relationship. You are too young and he's not right for you. You need to meet someone, spend time together in person and mature a lot more before you even think about getting married. You don't even understand a lot about marriage just because of your age. This isn't a tough one. This is an obvious one. You're not ready to be a wife to someone you barely know. If you're ever regretting a relationship then stop it and leave that relationship, no matter what your age.

Answer 4

lol you succeeded in getting one over on the whole board. First off you aren't engaged. There are a few things when becoming engaged. First the guy asks you. This must be done face to face or if you live in a world with arranged marriages, the parents must meet face to face.

Next, the has a ring and is serious when he asks. Such a thing as a TEXT msg does not count. lol.

Next and perhaps what I should have listed as first--you must be legally able to get married. So if you have a friend dating a married man, and he proposes to her, she would also not be engaged. See if one of the two of you cannot legally get married, you cannot enter a contract to become married. Of course at 14 you can't enter any contracts so it doesn't matter. You actually can't even set up housekeeping with said gentleman even if money was no object. B/c you are 14 and the cops would merely escort you back to your parent's house.

I have little rules too--like before I'd say yes I'd have to be compatible with him (this would include having met him and gone out with him), willing to spend the rest of my life together with him. He would have to be able to support himself so that the two of you could survive. You would both have to have graduated and have jobs, perhaps driver's licenses.

Are you even allowed to date? Here is the normal course of action. You meet a guy (stay out of pervert filled chat rooms), you go out on a few dates. After you actually know enough about him, he may decide he wants to marry you. He will get down on one knee, have a ring, and has you to marry him. At this point you will have already considered marrying him.

In your case you don't have a relationship to end. All you have are some texts that could be sent by a 10 year old or a 47 year old. Tell him you are grounded and can't text for a while. Don't worry about it. You are being a normal 14 year old girl. You don't have to change.

BUT (this is important so please read this carefully) DO NOT GIVE OUT YOUR PHONE NUMBER/ADDRESS in a chat room EVER AGAIN. Seriously date line does hundreds of episodes on internet predators. This is not a joke. I know you think it will not happen to you but girls your age DIE b/c they did one outrageously stupid act and never got a chance to learn from their mistakes. Consider this your 2nd chance
since you aren't dead. If you think I'm over exaggerating, tell your parents what you just did. Then we will see who overexaggerates.

Answer 5

You are WAY too young to get married. You need to focus on school work so you can have a successful life. ALSO you say you've only text him for two months, one-that's not very long to know somebody & two-you haven't even seen the guy. How do you know what his age really is? He could be saying he is 14 but he could really be 55! ALSO if you've had a lot of arguments, he probably isn't your soul mate. So be kind to him when you want to say its over. Just say you were just flattered and shocked from it but didn't mean what you typed. Be a normal teen and date some people you like. Date boys who are cute, funny, smart, nice, and ones who can be very good friends. BUT you don't have to think about that now! Just ENJOY LIFE!

Answer 6

Honey, you'd better end this and end it NOW. First of all, you do not know who you are talking to on the internet. This guy could be a predator or a rapist...Do you really know his age. Has he sent photos? How do you know the photos he is sending are really his..Also, where is your Mother? You are 14 years old and a minor. He has no right to ask you to marry him without your Mother and Father's permission...This is absolutely ludicrous. I would tell your Mother right away and end this chat room friendship. This guy is up to no good believe me. The next thing he will do is tell you to meet him somewhere alone...Do not go under any circumstances. Tell your parents and don't answer any of his emails anymore. You are only 14 years old...a baby and you should be with friends your own age, having fun, not talking to some kook nut job on the internet who is probably a predator.

Answer 7

No, this is not a tough one at all. Who you are now, is the the person you are going to be 10 years from now. You have a lot of discovering to do about who you are, what you want from life. These ideas change as each year passes by. Don't do it because I do not believe that you will be happy in this relationship, it will be more of one that is filled with regret. Plus, be careful of him wanting you to have children to soon. I don't know how old this person is but something does not feel right here.

Answer 8

You definately need to stop right now!

You are way too young to be thinking about getting engaged, much less being in any type of relationship. You don't know this guy, which, by the way it sounds, he's probably a child molester or predator. You need to stop talking with the guy you've never met. Cut all communications immediately. You should even tell your parents since this is something that they really should know. Grow up, enjoy your childhood and teen years, for once they're gone, you only have your adult years to look forward to, and believe me, there's not much to them except work, work, and more work.

Answer 9

Nothing tough about it- not only is 14 too young, in Western cultures, to be engaged, but you and he are both quite insane to contemplate marriage when you have not met and when, by your own statement, you argue quite a lot.... A boy pressing for a commitment so soon and so young is often a clue that he may be jealous and controlling to the point of being abusive- not always, but often enough that it should be watched.
Be 14- hang out with your friends (who are right to be taking the mickey out of you about this), meet lots of different people, finish your education and wait to get serious about one boy until you know yourself better.

Answer 10

You are 14 and you have known him.... no wait.... texted him for 2 whole months and he already wants to marry you? Being too young is the least of the problem here! You haven't even met him. He could be a 30 year old man looking to lure young girls to him! I suggest you stop talking to him.... it doesn't sound like a good situation for you to be in. Get off the computer and go hang out with your friends and be that regular 14 year old you want to be :)