Family & Relationships - 6 November 2007

I have a husband who treats me great. He does things around the house and is always respectful. I have a few problems though. He is in major debt (yes i knew before we married) and it has taken me 5 years to get him to call a consolidation place. I don't nag, just mention it every once and awhile. He also has talked me into going to the casino every weekend for the past 2 years. I told him no this weekend and he just watched tv all day and didn't want to do anything. I don't feel we have any fun together anymore. He also has talked me into getting money from my credit card for gambling. I don't know why I have let him do it but it stops now. I am just not feeling great about my marriage. I am going to be screwed finacially for the rest of my life. I know I should have known. Is our marriage doomed? Anybody ever have the same problems? I just don't know if I can handle this for the rest of my life.

2007-11-06 12:42:34 · 9 answers · asked by Amanda E 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I really like this girl, but i'm not sure if she likes me back. one day in school a group of kids blurted out nick ( me ) and colleen ( my crush ) sitting in a tree. K I S S I N G. she didn't really seem to react in any way. i, although, blushed, ran out of the classroom to the bathroom to hide, and was just embarissed.

about 6 months later, when i changed schools, one of colleens friends Instant Messaged me saying, " do you still like colleen?" she logged off before i could answer.

does this mean that colleens friend likes me, colleen likes me, or neither? im new to the love thing.

2007-11-06 12:41:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I started it I still love her
my wife and I have little in common 2 kids

2007-11-06 12:40:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

when hes by himself and he dosnt I know about that but im a big time snoop and I know his computer passwords I found a big file of porn he knows that I dont like it....why does he need to look at that?

2007-11-06 12:39:54 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok so my partner and I have been together for quite a while now and in the past years we have never experienced any isuues in the bedroom. However lately I just dont feel into it. Not that I do not want it just that there is always something to do or im tired from a long day. Do you have any suggestions to help spice up our "physical love life"? Or to get me there in the frst place?

2007-11-06 12:39:53 · 12 answers · asked by dee 1 in Marriage & Divorce

...would you rather she be patient and you start discussing emotional stuff when you're ready? Because we all know girls are usually ready to talk about this stuff before guys. Thoughts? Experiences? Anyone? Anyone? ;)

2007-11-06 12:33:14 · 17 answers · asked by Shera 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-06 12:31:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was curious to know what age any of you guys got engaged, got married, and had kids?

2007-11-06 12:28:40 · 26 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My sis is supposed to have a baby (her first) in the next couple of days. She wants me to be at the hospital for the grand occasion, however i cant really do that as i live 500mi away. The rest of my family is planning to go to the hospital, so i feel bad that im not going to go. But after all i'm planning to drive down that way for thanksgiving and i dont want to drive 500mi there and back twice in the same month.
Anyways do you think i should send her flowers, or something of that sort. Or should I just bring her some when i visit for thanksgiving. Also are live flowers even a good idea with a new born in the house. I guess what i am i asking is - is there anything i can do to show her i still care since im not going to the hospital with the rest of my family.

2007-11-06 12:25:19 · 30 answers · asked by midnightjoker 5 in Family

Should I be concerned or am I over reacting? He doesn't know that I know about him talking to these other women. I don't understand I ask him if hes happy or do I need to do more or less I don't know what to do.We have been married for 5 yrs and we have 3 kids he tells them he has 1 I had 2 from a previous relationship and he said he accepted them as his own.Now he is denying them and that hurts. It took me awhile to let him in and get close because I was a single parent for so long.To hear about this hurts really bad. The daughter that he claims is our 3 yr old we have together. I don't like being lied to and I wonder if he might take the flirting to anothe level and actually cheat. I've asked him has he cheated on me he said no but isn't his actions on-line a form of cheatin wanting to talk nasty on the computer ? I don't even kmow him anymore I've asked him over and over if he wants out and he says no. I don't know what to do.

2007-11-06 12:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by mammissy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My new girlfriend, whom I met the other week, isn't giving it up everyday like a lot of my exes have in the past. We have only had sex three times this week, and I haven't gotten any since Saturday. I am about to go insane! The sexual frustration is killing me and masturbation just isn't the same, as you all know. Should I hook up with other girls for one-nighters whenever my current girlfriend withholds? Or should I try to get her to make sex a daily ritual (twice a day on weekends)?

2007-11-06 12:21:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

out of the house.

Look, both have married before, but she was not speaking very good English at the time..he fooled her into signing a pre-nup and called it a paper conditional towards buying their condo...she signed it, not knowing better and trusting her new husband...

now he took their daughter to his mother's house and told the cops that he wanted her out of the house...now..he has persuaded the leaders of our church that he is right and they are not willing to help her at all..

I can't help to think that HE has kidnapped his own daughter and LIED to the cops about her being dangerous in order to validate his decision...

my wife and I know her REAL well and have NO problem having her babysit our kids...she has looked over them SEVERAL times without any problems

the "dangerous" thing is a BS excuse..

Does SHE have ANY rights at all??? What can she take this ahole for??

2007-11-06 12:20:09 · 8 answers · asked by juanes addicion 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I share things with my husband. He is the one person I can trust and sometimes I blab about things my friends tell me. I can 100% trust him, but now when I mention I am going out with a specific person he often says "oh - that cheating whore". He constantly does this! How can I get him to stop after telling him it bothers me?

2007-11-06 12:19:05 · 19 answers · asked by Cassandra C 4 in Marriage & Divorce

He was controlling,emotionally and verbally abusive and he assualted me

2007-11-06 12:18:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok guys if u are or were around 15, would u like a girl around 2 yrs younger? (I don't act any less mature than he is)

2007-11-06 12:17:19 · 21 answers · asked by Cindy 2 in Singles & Dating

there is this really hot guy and i really like him and he has been dropping hints that he likes me andim too embarressed to talk to him and still be able to ask him out and all the ambassaders i have will either tell him what is really going on when i send them or are too embarressed also cuz they they dont like boys as friends and when i talk to him he just thinks im talking to him as a friend cuz im the only girl thats not a complete tomboy who has friends that are boys so what do i do now!?!?!?!

2007-11-06 12:17:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I meet a girl and after a few months I tell her that we should learn to know each other more better before actually moving and living together. If her answer is "well if i dont live here with you, I cant guarantee you that i won't see other guys. What does that mean ??

2007-11-06 12:17:13 · 43 answers · asked by Deeee 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend broke it off with me and told me that in the beginning she didn't want a relationship & that she was not moving from Dallas or leaving her job. She said that it still holds true and that she does not want to hurt me. I know she told me all that in the very beginning and she has been very honest & up front. She had told me that she has never lived on her own before after getting out of a 12 year relationship and she was finding out who she was and she wanted to finish her therapy before she got involved with anyone because she didn't want to bring any problems into a relationship. We have been together for 3 months now. She said that I am ready for a relationship and she is not & that it is not fair to me to continue on like we have been doing. I know she loves me & I love her, but she seems so set on this. She said she would always love me. What do you do? I have never heard of this. "No" she does not have anyone else. She is different and is so honest & up front.

2007-11-06 12:16:59 · 2 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Singles & Dating

How long would you let it go on before you went through w/ it?

2007-11-06 12:14:36 · 18 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I think I'll live a very very lonely life. Don't get me wrong, I make acquaintances at work and at school very easily. I can talk to just about anyone, and most people like me because I'm friendly.

The problem is once I get to know someone for awhile, I start to get bored. Needless to say, none of my acquaintances become friends, and I have no friend at all.

I am friendly but I do have to fake being interested in people most of the time.

How can I become genuinely interested in other people? I'm not an ******, by the way.

2007-11-06 12:12:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

but when we get together he's all over me. The sex is still awesome and when he holds me I feel like I can lay there forever. His lifestyle is what keeps him busy but I still feel like he can answer me sometimes. We talk in the morning and then thats it until around 10 or 11 at night. I don't think he's cheating but then again I don't want to sound naive like it couldn't be happening. Sometimes I feel like i can't breathe without him and every time he ignores me it feels like another knife was stabbed through my heart. Should I leave him? I know he loves me too I just don't know what to do in this situation. It's crazy because usually I'm the one giving the advice not asking for it!!! Help me out what would you do ladies!?

2007-11-06 12:11:28 · 13 answers · asked by Live.Laugh.Love 4 in Singles & Dating

he 18,
i am 14.......he reallly likes me he wrote poems and stuff and wants to kiss me and stuff but i like it but i miss my old bf but i cant go back to him cause he treated me like crap i just still sad adn this new relationship is overwhelming

2007-11-06 12:10:20 · 2 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Singles & Dating

I have just recently discovered that there are 20 pregnant teens at my school. The age range is between 14 and 15. Turns out that 5 of the 20 are my friends. This is driving me nuts. MY friends, PREGNANT already????? This is crazy. None, and i mean NONE of them are embarrassed or regret taking the wrong step. In fact they are very pleased with themselves and go around telling everyone they are pregnant. The point is that i love my friends and can't just sit there and watch them ruin their lives. But i am strictly against abortions and will never allow them to do such a thing. I really want to help them though. But just can't think of anything i can do to help them. Plz help!

2007-11-06 12:10:18 · 2 answers · asked by bubbalicoius 2 in Friends

I am in my mid 20's, and he is about 5 years older than I am. I have a 6 year old son, and have never been married. He, however, has been married and divorced. They never had children, but she had an abortion that he did not really want her to have about 6 years ago. They divorced a little over 2 years ago, and I know that is still bothers him. I think he is over her, but not being divorced (his family is very catholic, and they split only because she was cheating on him). I met his family for the forst time a few weeks ago, and REALLY liked them. It was ALL his idea, but now he seems a bit freaked out that we are getting close. I think he just doesn't want to go through what he went through before.
Also, he is a bar manager, and I don't mind it, but also don't love it. I know his parents really dont like it, or that he is out, LATE, all the time. I know that he wants out of that life, and will quit soon enough.

2007-11-06 12:07:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

beacause i dont exactly know what it means. Can you please answer back mainly using yours or someone you knows past life experiences, if its to personal thats ok.

2007-11-06 12:06:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife-or -Husband is a ___________________?

2007-11-06 12:06:03 · 10 answers · asked by MR. T. 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

Why is it when I treat girls with respect, always treat them good and never hurt them, they seem to prefer guys who are mean to them? Don't you girls like a nice guy or prefer bad guys??

2007-11-06 12:04:06 · 29 answers · asked by IAN B 2 in Singles & Dating

like a friend of mine(girl) thats also the girls friend gives me info and talks good about me to her etc. Is that a good strategy, to get a girl to go out with me?
that girl was in my math class last year and i made her laugh a lot and she said its a good thing im funny. But this year she doesnt talk cuz doesnt have a class with me. So anyway, is this a good strategy?

2007-11-06 12:00:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok im planning on asking this girl out. but i dont really know what to do on a first date? i cant really talk to her during a movie. and dinner sounds too sophisticated (im only 14). i wanna actually get to know her but not spend loads of money, cause she might not be the kind of girl i like. so yeah. tell me if i left anything out

2007-11-06 11:55:22 · 34 answers · asked by gymnast 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend believes he is too young to be married. Is there anyway I could convince him he's not?

2007-11-06 11:53:37 · 10 answers · asked by maidnicole2007 1 in Other - Family & Relationships