Girlfriend Not Ready To Commit?

Question

My girlfriend broke it off with me and told me that in the beginning she didn't want a relationship & that she was not moving from Dallas or leaving her job. She said that it still holds true and that she does not want to hurt me. I know she told me all that in the very beginning and she has been very honest & up front. She had told me that she has never lived on her own before after getting out of a 12 year relationship and she was finding out who she was and she wanted to finish her therapy before she got involved with anyone because she didn't want to bring any problems into a relationship. We have been together for 3 months now. She said that I am ready for a relationship and she is not & that it is not fair to me to continue on like we have been doing. I know she loves me & I love her, but she seems so set on this. She said she would always love me. What do you do? I have never heard of this. "No" she does not have anyone else. She is different and is so honest & up front.

Answer 1

as much as you're not going to like what i'm about to say, it's for your own good. move on. let her break it off. maybe, she'll realize that she really needs you in her life and take it back. who knows. but the fact that she's not ready for a relationship, and has reasured you, means that it's not going to happen. the harder you try, the further away it's going to push her. ultimately, you're going to become frustrated and upset; making things alot worse off than what they were.

take a few breaths, let her break it off, and if she needs it, give her time to herself. best of luck bud.

Answer 2

Sounds like me.
I told him, to go find someone that is ready to commit, someone who he can be happy with.
He is willing to wait for me to get through this rough spot in my life, willing to wait for me to mature enough to be able to commit.

We talked over the phone. I had my head in my hand. Hard thing to do, let someone go like that.

She loves you. It sounds like to me. Why else would she be willing to set you free?
Why is she so willing to put you first, so you can find someone who is ready to settle down?

Either she just doesn't want you or she loves you so much, that she doesn't want you to waste your time waiting for her.

She is going through theraphy, obviously something has happened in her life, like maybe her past relationship.

Now, let me ask you something. How much is this girl worth to you?

She said where she stood. You can walk away, or you can wait. The choice is yours. She can't keep you from waiting.

You could tell her that you want to stay friends and stand by her until she is all through getting the help she needs.

Can you imagine having anyone else in your life other than her?

If not, then go for it. Stick by her. Don't let her go. She might tell you to leave, but you don't have to. Give her space, but have patience. Make sure that she knows without a doubt, that you are there to support her.

I always say, ask yourself what you want more than anything else in this world and then go after it.

If it is her, then tell her you will wait as long as it takes. & then show her your willingness. Tell if nothing else, let you at least be friends. Let her know that you don't want anyone else but her and that you do not want to let her out of your life completely. So, you would like to remain friends.

It is up to you. She is pushing you away. Are you going to let her?

Up to you. We only get so many chances with that perfect one.

Hope it all works out for you either way.