when hes by himself and he dosnt I know about that but im a big time snoop and I know his computer passwords I found a big file of porn he knows that I dont like it....why does he need to look at that?
2007-11-06 12:39:54 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he dosent know that I know about that if I was to confront him he would deny it...but I am a big snoop and I know his computer passwords I found a huge file of porn..he knows I dont like him to look at that why does he need to? any similer expirences or suggestions..please.
2007-11-06 12:43:24 · update #1
Honey get over it 99% of the guys LIVE on porn its just a way for them to "satisfy" their sexual wants at times.Trust me its not going to damage your relationship.Guys just keep dreaming of the fantasies those porn start would do to them since US girl are classy enough to stay away from doing that slu**y c***. The guys at my school just bring their laptops to school and watch porn videos on the bus or look at porn in the bathroom during free periods or something.You might find it distrubing,but you should just stop worrying about it,it wont stop him from doing it.
2007-11-06 12:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by azizka93 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 02:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you. A snoopy manipulater. Deal with your own problems first.
Just the fact you have to snoop means you don't trust him and you two do not have an honest and open communication.
Real simple discussion......
Billy, I was concerned about you looking at porn. I don't like, I don't think it is healthy and I don't want to date someone who is interested in porn. I made a mistake and looked at your computer, I should not have done that and will not do it again.
I want you decide how important this porn is to you and let me know if you will delete it all and stop visiting porn sites.
Think about it and let me know. The main thing is to be truthful.
OK, end of discussion. He if says no, then you accept it or move on.
2007-11-06 12:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation to the fulliest. My now husband used to do it. I used to snoop too because I wasn't trusting him, I kept finding him going on porn sites. I got very fed up with the porn and always talking to him about it so that was then I decided to take it to the next level and it seems that it has helps. I wrote him an email...basically saying "I do not like you looking at porn...i explained my reasons...hope you know everytime you look at it , it breaks my heart" Ever since then he has stopped. He always claimed the stupid reasons for watching it or looking at it, as a stress reliever, trying to get ideas, just bored. So I said to him find a hobby (like cars), we can get ideas together for sex, and stress take a bath and drink a bottle of wine with me.
I wish you all the luck with this, I know how hard it is and how much it hurts. You just need to be really honest with him and tell him how you feel about it and if he is like my husband he will stop. good luck.
And side note don't listen to the other comments when they say that it is your fault, it is not your fault or that you are not sexually pleasing him. It is something that guys do but they need to understand when you are single you can look at it when you are with someone you can't. simple as that but it is not your fault at all and don't let anyone tell you that. Any person that says that doesn't understand relationships and how you need to respect the other person when it comes to looking at naked people on the internet.
2007-11-06 12:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for guys to look at porn... if it is already in front of them. However, if they are going out of their way to find it then they have some issues. Sometimes it's a teenager thing that they turned into a habit and never grew out of (unless he is a teenager now?) Sometimes they are abnormally obsessed and sometimes it is pure curiosity...though I doubt it as this is usually with younger boys/teens. This usually has nothing to do with the girl...you. This is something he has probably been doing long before he met you. Try telling him that you accidentally saw him while he was looking...if that situation would be possible...and try talking about the situation. This is something he really needs to get over. If he continues to go out of his way to look at this, then I would be very concerned and possibly step out of the relationship. Yes it is normal to a degree, but not if it becomes necessary to him. This kind of guy often is a cheater because they are very hard to satisfy and are obsessed with sex. They get the idea that women must look as they do in the pornography which is not a reality...in plastic land maybe... and they are more likely to put you down or expect certain things of you.
I know I will get thumbs down giving you this answer, but that is their defense to the behavior and some girls THINK that they have to accept it.
I consider myself to be a nice looking woman who is thin, but trust me, a man with this problem would continue no matter what you or I or the girl next door looks like. Just don't put yourself down or let these people get to you.
About you looking without his permission. Yes that is a trust issue but obviously your instincts have told you something is wrong and you were right. Women are good for that...they just know!
2007-11-06 12:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by lizards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a boy. Boys have hormones. Put together the puzzle. It's ok, every guy likes to look at porn, for some reason it's natural. As he gets more mature, he'll probably stop looking at this kind of stuff. Just wait.
-Bailey
2007-11-06 12:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bailey 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand it either, but a LOT of guys do this. I've had my go 'rounds w/that too. I just kept on him & told him how much it upset me to NO END, & fortunately he did stop. I saw it in "history". You're going to have to be careful how you approach it, because he'll know you've actually been in his email. But maybe just bring up the subject somehow & let him know IF you ever found he was doing it how much it wuld. hurt you to know or better yet stumbel on it somehow.
2007-11-06 12:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you snooping? Sounds like a lack of trust on your part towards him. Perhaps thats part of his looking. QUIT snooping. Can get you in trouble some day.
2007-11-06 12:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by bookworm019 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
which guy doesn't have a gf and still looks at porn its normal plus some of the girls there are fine and hell but i wouldn't dare go out with any of them only because they have already been seen naked by the whole world almost lol
its what guys do i could admit it too right now i have a tab for xtube a xxx site no guys goes more then a month not seeing one
its a guys job almost
2007-11-06 12:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's only human of flesh and bone. He's a guy, and that's what we do (broad generalization). But, when it comes time for you to have sex (if you are old enough and already haven't) you might find the benefits of it. Porn yesterday, Porn today, Porn tomorrow (come to think of it, it might be an addiction).
2007-11-06 12:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋