Family & Relationships - 31 October 2007

We were together for over a year, but it was going downhill, so I suggested a break to think things over (I still loved, and love him, very much). I was hoping we would get back together with a new outlook on things, but he found someone new 2 months after the break. He always claimed I was the one for him. He was willing to change his life around for me, and move to wherever I had to move. He cried more than I did when we decided to take a break.
I honestly thought with how strong our feelings were, we could make it work, but was it wrong of me to assume that his feelings were that strong, if he could find someone less than 2 months after the break?

When we saw each other again, I honestly told him about my feelings for him, and what I want, but he's told me that he was real feelings for this girl, and that he wants me to be his friend.

We were meant to move to a different country after the end of the summer. And as planed we are now sharing an apartment between us. He chose not to tell me about this girl until we were living together, as he was scared I would never see him again if he told me anything when I still had a choice about whether I would go or not. That and because he was scared of hurting me. Or that's what he tells me at least.

2007-10-31 17:30:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 17:30:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

him at work then you can get his phone no?
i met this great guy at a dance and we have chemistry and both said we like each other but we don't have each other's number.

2007-10-31 17:28:57 · 6 answers · asked by ames 3 in Singles & Dating

were is the best place to get touched by a female...

i dont know were to touch my bf to make him REALLY feel good please help

2007-10-31 17:28:15 · 6 answers · asked by T-pain's gal <3 ♥ 1 in Singles & Dating

Fiancee of three years left a month ago after an argument and was moved in with another girl within the week. I have been crying and depressed ever since. I don't know how to erase three years of memories or even understand how he cared so little to erase me like that. I really can't find a way to get over this even though there is so much he did to hurt me. Sometimes I just dwell on what I did wrong and feel so bad (never cheated). I am just so confused over everything I am having a hard time coping.

2007-10-31 17:27:11 · 21 answers · asked by theartisttwin 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been alone so long that I have no options left. People seem to instinctively stay away from me, I don't know what it is. I guess i'm not very good looking, idk. The people that i do know think i'm really funny. I'm stuck with alot of friends who don't go out anywhere that I can be sociable. I don't know what to do. I'm 22 with no friends, and no way of getting friends since my social skills have been stunted.... I really need help, i'm getting so depressed i don't know what to do.

2007-10-31 17:22:49 · 11 answers · asked by Alone in the Crowd 3 in Friends

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months. He is 19, i m 17. He lives about 40 min drive awy from me, nd would usually drive to mine so we can see each other once or twice a week.
Yesterday he goes to me, so where do you want to go? I answered i don't know. He said can you not say that it pisses me of!!!
Usually we just drive around park somewhere and talk, or muck around.
My question is...
What should i do when he says where do you want to go? I really don't know where we could go or what we could do...
Also any hints on what i could tell him we could do, usually we don't do anything organised just hang out.
I think he is getting annoyed with me and the fact he is the one who always makes decisions.
Any ideas/ advice?

2007-10-31 17:22:40 · 7 answers · asked by Lizzy T 1 in Singles & Dating

i have been seeing this woman for about 3 years and living together for about two. for the first year the sex was great, and frequent. then she took these monthly shots for endometrosis. the doctor said her hormones would be reduced for about 6 to 12 months. and the sex was maybe once a week. well shes been off the shots for about a year now and the sex is even worse. once every three weeks if im lucky. every time i try to talk about it she makes me feel like an asshole saying all i care about is sex. its been making me feel so worthless that i find myself drinking alot bymyself late into the night. we are engaged but im worried about our future.

2007-10-31 17:21:45 · 22 answers · asked by nick O 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband is a great provider & helps around the house. We have 2 daughters (2 1/2 & 8 mo). Problem is when a child is sick (& that is often) he is of no help. Tonight is a perfect example of what happens almost every month. My 2 year old came down with a sudden stomach virus (thrown up 22 times & counting so far). Iwanted my husband to watch my 8 month old just until her bed time so I wouldn't cross contaminate her with germs. If he could get her to bed there is less chance she will get it and would give me a chance to change my vomit clothes. He was ok for a while but she started crying and he gave up. He said he was trying to answer the door for halloween and couldn't do both. It is so typical that I gave up instead of demanding him step up to the plate and just took her. I was so deflated that we keep having this same fight. It ended up in a blow out after I got the baby to bed. He said I make him miserable & divorce may be the only option. Am I being unreasonable?

2007-10-31 17:21:33 · 14 answers · asked by ADC 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Alright, I have had a pretty rough childhood and have gone through many things in my life. I had a gun pulled on me at the age of 5 by my cousins mother, I was sexually molested by my Uncle in law from the age of 7-11and then, the only person that I confided in about this, raped me later on, (while I was on my cycle at that). I was only 13 when that happened and a virgin. I have never received therapy for any of this and I am currently 24, hence my name, Knowledge24. I was scared and never told anyone about this until later on in life. I told my Mother a few months ago about what my Uncle in law did and she called him and threatened to kill him if she ever saw him again.

I called my Aunt and told her what her husband did to me, she played dumb and acted like she didn't know, when she did. I'm angry and hurt and lately, I have been having angry panic attacks and want to confront all the people who have wronged me in my past, but people tell me to let it go. I know I should, but I cant

2007-10-31 17:18:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Alright, I have had a pretty rough childhood and have gone through many things in my life. I had a gun pulled on me at the age of 5 by my cousins mother, I was sexually molested by my Uncle in law from the age of 7-11and then, the only person that I confided in about this, raped me later on, (while I was on my cycle at that). I was only 13 when that happened and a virgin. I have never received therapy for any of this and I am currently 24, hence my name, Knowledge24. I was scared and never told anyone about this until later on in life. I told my Mother a few months ago about what my Uncle in law did and she called him and threatened to kill him if she ever saw him again.

I called my Aunt and told her what her husband did to me, she played dumb and acted like she didn't know, when she did. I'm angry and hurt and lately, I have been having angry panic attacks and want to confront all the people who have wronged me in my past, but people tell me to let it go. I know I should, but I cant

2007-10-31 17:18:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-31 17:16:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This man I know and have become friends with recently filled out a survey on MySpace to deliver to me. In it he was pretty much flirting with me like he always does until one question that asked "Do you think I am attractive" and he responded "sorry I have NEVER found blondes attractive at all". I am a blonde. Up until now he has always been flirtatious with me and I am really hurt by this comment. Am I wrong to be hurt? Would it be immature or "overreacting" to mention it to him? We dont know each other all that well, but I have been nothing but good to him and that comment just seemed mean....was it? BTW, only respond if you are an adult, as he is 28 and I am 21 so I need an adult to tell me if I would be being immature to respond to this.

2007-10-31 17:15:49 · 9 answers · asked by Jezah 2 in Singles & Dating

I was having a discussion 2day about this issue: "is it possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends, really good and close friends, without romantic thoughts crossing their minds once in a while?...mostly for guys? can you do that? be an honest true friend with no romantic interest AT ALL!!?

2007-10-31 17:14:36 · 33 answers · asked by me 2 in Friends

He called me and told me that some girl was hitting on him at some restaurant...wtf? why would i want to hear that? does he want me to be over protective of him? i'm really confused....or is he trying to brag because girls are all over him? or is he trying to make me think that i'm lucky to have him....guys are so confusing..

2007-10-31 17:11:04 · 23 answers · asked by Jackie 2 in Singles & Dating

OK, me and my man are on tis site for couples and I put up this post asking people to talk about that special someone in there life, it got no love at all. Later my man went up there and created a post about me and him arguing and he needed help, wow it got the most comments out of any other post, alot of people were saying some real mean things like you are stupid for being with him leave him and other stuff. Later my man went back and told them that it was a joke and that we are fine. One lady was pissed off and went off on me and him, I told her that alot of people on here love to hear about drama in people's lives but when it was about love you did not care about that, i have always been told that the truth hurts. What do you think.

2007-10-31 17:10:20 · 2 answers · asked by Marcilla M 2 in Singles & Dating

im in middle school and i really want to kiss my boyfriend, and so thts what my friend told him and he just goes "ewww no!!!"
what should i do??? kiss on the cheek?

2007-10-31 17:08:48 · 16 answers · asked by sweetalker94 1 in Singles & Dating

i don't mean anything sexual ~ i mean...do i give him a present? haha, idk??? he got me flowers, so i feel like i should give him something, but i dont think he would like flowers :P any ideas? food maybe?

2007-10-31 17:07:27 · 14 answers · asked by Jackie 2 in Singles & Dating

Maybe a friend who you know gets angry whenever they lose.

You could just let them win.
But that's no fun.
You could just beat them.
But that's no fun (because of the sore loser friend)

What do you guys think?

Thanks for your time,

-Rich

2007-10-31 17:05:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Well I met my girl's father when I was 16 years old. My son was 2 years old at the time I was a single parent going to school and I met this 18 year old guy. So we started to date. Two years later I got pregant with my daughter. And we both promise each other that we was going to spent the rest of our lives together. We moved in together in I had my third child another little girl. So I got his name tatto on my arm. We ended up splitting after 8 years of dating. And a year after we broke up I met my husband. And 9 months later we was married now it been 2 years and he keep asking me to get my ex's name off my arm. I don't have no problem with it being there personally. But my husband says it is a problem because we are not together any more and that make him feel like I still love my kids father. What should I do. I like because It been there forever and it's cute. I don't regret it. Some times I wish I never done it but it there now. It didn't stop him from marrying me. It been 6yrs

2007-10-31 17:05:40 · 22 answers · asked by shadow2400 1 in Marriage & Divorce

hi i know you are going to look down on me but why is it when a woman goes out with a man and afterdwards .he dont respect her at all once he gets what he wanted from well you know . that isnt right to treat a woman like that and brag to his friends is it no matter if your married or not where.s the respect he had while with a woman and now none at all we have feeling to

2007-10-31 17:05:34 · 6 answers · asked by d_justic64 2 in Family

I am in my early 20's, and kind of think women around 35-47 are attractive. Is this weird(mature acting responses only plz!)? Also, if they flirt or hit on a guy in my age range, how would they do it(passive or strong flirting?, flirting styles they use, etc.) How many women in this age range would consider a guy my age? Anything else that anyone else wants to add would be great as well.

2007-10-31 17:05:05 · 9 answers · asked by JC_NJ 1 in Singles & Dating

issit ok to have a girl that lost her virginity as gf or wife?

2007-10-31 17:04:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok so, There is this girl that I Really really want to be friends with. But the problem is, im not a good conversation starter AT ALL! lol and everytime she comes up to me and hangs out with me,its so akward because we never say anything. but i really want to be friends with her. So i need some good convo starters! or some technique to keep her awake lol. btw...im not a lesbo!

2007-10-31 17:02:32 · 9 answers · asked by i Love you♥ 4 in Friends

Just figure what it costs to raise a child and have the non custodial parent pay half that cost, regardless of income. If the non custodial parent is very wealthy he or she could be required to put money into a college fund, but the custodial parent would only get half what is required to raise a child at any particular stage of life.

2007-10-31 17:01:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

For instance - religion, occupation, age, health, marital history - or something else. Assume you did not know this about them and fell in love, agreed to marry then found it out - what would make you back out of the marriage - if anything?

2007-10-31 16:53:07 · 16 answers · asked by purple dove 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Recently, my ex called me to tell me that he loves me and has always loved me. He told me that he made a mistake and that his girlfriend at the moment is too difficult to handle, unlike me. He missed my laid-back personality and the familiarity he has with me. I couldn't believe him because this was the same woman that he left me for. I still care about him, but I don't think I love him anymore. What should I do?

2007-10-31 16:51:55 · 24 answers · asked by mlvue 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I knew this girl 17 yrs ago well we now are dating going on 6 months I am soon to be divorced after 12 yrs of marrage. She too had a similar relationship . We both are very defensive about everything beccause of are exes. Also we both have autistic children are we a match made in heaven, can we make our lives better being together and make this family work?

2007-10-31 16:51:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I asked my husband why do he keep leaving the seat up he then looks at me and ask me why do I keep leaving the seat down? I couldn't say anything I just laughed! do any other men feel the same way.
my goal was to start putting the seat up after i use the bathroom and hope that he has to sit down and fall in need less to say i forgot the goal and the hole that I try to keep up I fell in(LOL) any body else went through something similar.
marriage life can be very funny!!!

2007-10-31 16:45:29 · 42 answers · asked by layn22 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A man who is a good friend of mine recently broke up with a woman who was arrogant, selfish, and had treated him badly. He told me, "I guess that it was my own high hopes and a kind of co-dependence that kept me in there as it was not physical attraction...at the outset, I thought her attractive, but not one that some would find that they would overlook practically any other neg attribute for; and as time passed, she grew less physically attractive, and the physicality was not of noteworthy nature by any means either."

I think it's clear what he meant---she's ok but not a head turner, and turned out to be a real witch---but I'd like some of your opinions also. Thanks.

2007-10-31 16:39:51 · 12 answers · asked by Laurie C 1 in Marriage & Divorce