We were together for over a year, but it was going downhill, so I suggested a break to think things over (I still loved, and love him, very much). I was hoping we would get back together with a new outlook on things, but he found someone new 2 months after the break. He always claimed I was the one for him. He was willing to change his life around for me, and move to wherever I had to move. He cried more than I did when we decided to take a break.
I honestly thought with how strong our feelings were, we could make it work, but was it wrong of me to assume that his feelings were that strong, if he could find someone less than 2 months after the break?
When we saw each other again, I honestly told him about my feelings for him, and what I want, but he's told me that he was real feelings for this girl, and that he wants me to be his friend.
We were meant to move to a different country after the end of the summer. And as planed we are now sharing an apartment between us. He chose not to tell me about this girl until we were living together, as he was scared I would never see him again if he told me anything when I still had a choice about whether I would go or not. That and because he was scared of hurting me. Or that's what he tells me at least.
2007-10-31 17:30:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, this is not something that I am proud of, but we have been intimate after moving in together. (he made the first move) This girl is in a different country, and well, I told him that what we were doing had to stop not to hurt her. But yes, this just ads to my confusion about things!! And please don't judge me, I am not proud of it as it is.
2007-10-31 17:39:49 · update #1
Ok, for the record, I never wanted him to change his life around for me. Everytime he tried, I stopped him because I knew it would eventually lead to him blaming me for becoming someone he didn't want to be. It would hurt me to see him in pain, and it would hurt him to have become someone he didn't want to be.
2007-10-31 17:48:52 · update #2
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.
You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too,
So remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.
So take too many pictures,laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin....
2007-10-31 17:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one thing this split was you idea. Not sure how you thought things would get better if you split up. I am sure he moved on and you should too. After all....he gave you his all and you threw him away and hurt his feelings. You broke the mans heart. I also am not sure why you think he should change his life around for you. People shouldn't have to change for people. They are who they are. If you don't like what he does find someone that does what you like. You will find someone that will treat you the way you want to be treated. Move on and good luck. There is someone out there for you that will make you very happy.
2007-11-01 00:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it means that they have moved on. Sometimes some people just need to be with someone. If he is still seeing her and has feelings for her, he has moved on, it will never be the same.
2007-11-01 00:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Meli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to keep you strung along in case things don't work out with this other girl so he will still have a back up.
2007-11-01 00:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry hun, it sounds like you had your chance and lost it. You shouldn't have taken for granted that he would be there when you came back, because sometimes even if it feels like they will always be there for you, they can just dissapear.
I would just give things time.
Good luck <3
2007-11-01 00:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means your ex has moved on. Be strong and do the same.
2007-11-01 00:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Stephie <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much game playing. If you really wanted to work it out, you should have stayed together and done so.
2007-11-01 00:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that your ex has moved on with their lives, you should do the same
2007-11-01 00:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on now that it was broken off. Move on and let him go.
2007-11-01 00:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by farmkid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he likes her better than you right now.
2007-11-01 00:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋