A man who is a good friend of mine recently broke up with a woman who was arrogant, selfish, and had treated him badly. He told me, "I guess that it was my own high hopes and a kind of co-dependence that kept me in there as it was not physical attraction...at the outset, I thought her attractive, but not one that some would find that they would overlook practically any other neg attribute for; and as time passed, she grew less physically attractive, and the physicality was not of noteworthy nature by any means either."
I think it's clear what he meant---she's ok but not a head turner, and turned out to be a real witch---but I'd like some of your opinions also. Thanks.
2007-10-31 16:39:51 · 12 answers · asked by Laurie C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When someone is ugly on the inside...they tend to look uglier on the outside the more someone gets to know them...
2007-10-31 16:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok the witch part I'm sure he can do without but is on the cover of GQ Magazine? I was a teen model and now I am a mom of 3 beautiful girls and I turned 35 in June and gravity is going to work ...lemme tell u lol! Looks can fade a way and your friend sounds really shallow. What if his wife had been in a horrible accident and her face was disfigured? Would he walk away? Sounds like she is better off to me.
2007-10-31 16:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by bella s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is the way you talk to people on a daily base? Anyways i think physical attraction is very important at least it is for me.If i am attracted to you and you turn out to be a dick then your gone. If your not attractive i most likely would not get close enough to know if you are someone i could grow to like.I don't want someone i would have to grow to like. If he isn't attractive to me now then he won't be attractive later. Call me shallow if you want it won't hurt my feelings because i know i am a very shallow person.
2007-10-31 17:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say you love with your heart not your eyes. I overlook alot of things, mainly because we're not all perfect. I also feel that's the best part of true love, is being able to accept someone for they are, not changing them to who you want. On the other hand there are things I won't stand for either.
2007-10-31 17:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
with women like that, when the sex wears out, there is nothing really left to sustain the relationship, those attributes which were once tolerated and accepted have become eye-sores, the arrogance and selfishness become torture & agony for those who have to live with it.
He's trying to tell you that he did not have sex with her, because she was too ugly. He's feeding you dung.
2007-10-31 17:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have experienced something similar.
Karen Salmansohn wrote:
"The container is not the sustainer. You must not confuse the bottle for the juice. The bottle might satisfy your ego, but only the juice can feed your heart."
2007-10-31 16:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by bob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd never be able to overlook a bad personality just because a person is good looking. I don't care how good looking he is, if he's an a.s.s.h.o.l.e. he's out the door in a heartbeat.
2007-10-31 16:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your assessment ..... In my words i would suggest that she wasn't worth headache... another scenario was that he was just horny and he got what he needed for the time being and now its on to the next challenge and hopefully more attractive woman....
2007-10-31 16:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grampa told me"beauti is skin deep", but mean goes all the way to the bone!!!!
2007-11-01 02:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had nothing to do that day and that is why he got together with her in the first place.
2007-10-31 16:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋