For instance - religion, occupation, age, health, marital history - or something else. Assume you did not know this about them and fell in love, agreed to marry then found it out - what would make you back out of the marriage - if anything?
2007-10-31 16:53:07 · 16 answers · asked by purple dove 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if they were already married..like still married..yeah
other than that no
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2007-10-31 16:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A guy who is not willing to work a full time job who has nothing wrong with him mentally or physically. Dealing with drama of his x wife, they had a child together who i love, but the mom drives me nuts, she always tells me she is the mom is has the stretch marks, and she carried her for nine months. However, my fiance has primary residence of her and she only sees her mom 2 a wk everyother weekend, She is the type of adult that picks a fight with a 12 yr old. That is why i postponed the marriage, and am really close to breaking off the relationship.
2007-10-31 16:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I allowed myself to fall in love with someone, I would already know about what I consider deal breakers. In the event things like belief in God, not forthcoming about past marriages, whether to have children or not, whether he has children from a previous relationship, that he failed to disclose, not really being employed or covering up spotty job history or education....These are all things I would want to know about before I thought about getting serious about a person. If that person lied about any of them and then I found out later, I would definitely back out of any impending marriage. That would make him a liar and who wants to knowingly marry one of them?
2007-10-31 17:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your instances are all things you really should know about a person before you marry them anyways.
When my husband proposed to me, I told him that I would not marry him until his daughter was old enough to live on her own because I refused to live under the same roof as her.
I knew she would be a problem and I was in no hurry to get married.
2007-10-31 16:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion: If the person was a scientologist or in another cult. NO
Occupation: Stripper, prostitute, mobster, etc... NO
Age: More than 10 years older... NO
Health: If the person had AIDS or Cancer, this would be good because if I married that person I could get his social security :)
Mental Illness....NO
Marital History: More than 2 prior marriages...NO
Criminal or Ex Con....NO
Druggie....NO
2007-10-31 16:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sebamoop 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A person who drinks alcohol and drives a car while under the influence, would cause serious consideration not to marry. I have divorced once, and that was because of dishonesty and hypocrisy. A real Christian is one who honors the Commandments, and not just a Christian in name only.
2007-10-31 16:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by D L R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he lied to me about anything we would already have problems.
But If I found out he was a mass murderer or something like that. Maybe if he had 10 children he never told me about or had a second job as a porn star... then I would definitly re-think our marriage.
2007-10-31 16:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you agree to marry someone you should know everything. If they have withheld something it is probably because they know you will not accept it.Love is being able to tell all,good and bad.And still loving them.
2007-10-31 17:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by tennfan1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two factors, age and desire to have children. I was 28, she was 38. I wanted children, she didn't.
I didn't really know about the age, she looked younger than me.
2007-10-31 18:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is all about accepting the person on who he is. If you don't think that you accept something about him then you don't really love him, so yeah, back out. But if you think you still accept him regardless of anything on who he is, then push through, because you know you really love him.
2007-10-31 16:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by jasonredranger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drug, mental, and financial problems. I wouldn't marry a man who's not healthy or sane or so much in debt that he could not even support himself, much less a family...
2007-10-31 17:07:04 · answer #11 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋