This man I know and have become friends with recently filled out a survey on MySpace to deliver to me. In it he was pretty much flirting with me like he always does until one question that asked "Do you think I am attractive" and he responded "sorry I have NEVER found blondes attractive at all". I am a blonde. Up until now he has always been flirtatious with me and I am really hurt by this comment. Am I wrong to be hurt? Would it be immature or "overreacting" to mention it to him? We dont know each other all that well, but I have been nothing but good to him and that comment just seemed mean....was it? BTW, only respond if you are an adult, as he is 28 and I am 21 so I need an adult to tell me if I would be being immature to respond to this.
2007-10-31 17:15:49 · 9 answers · asked by Jezah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um, just so everyone knows, I dont just know him from MySpace. We are both actors and in a play together, so we know each other outside of MySpace. BTW, I really dont appreciate being called immature, I may have low self esteem about my looks thats all.
2007-10-31 18:02:46 · update #1
No, don't mention it to him. Just blow him off and find someone else to flirt with and be friends with. Here's why: either he's just doing it to get a rise out of you, or else he really doesn't like blondes. If it is the first, why give him the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you? Ignore him -- that's what he deserves. If it is the second, well, tastes differ and he's entitled to be attracted/not attracted to whomever he wants, BUT it was rude and pointless for him to tell you that, and you don't want to waste your time with someone rude. I tend to think he was trying to get a rise out of you, and I think it's pretty damn stupid. The bottom line -- frankly, HE sounds immature and not worth your time. Maybe he'll learn something if you just blow him off. I guarantee if you tell him you're hurt, he'll enjoy it. And I'd bet any money he makes a habit out of doing it again. Why give him the satisfaction?
2007-10-31 17:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bit immature, but what does your hair color have anything to do with beauty???
I think this guy has a sort of complex when it comes to blondes. Maybe he believes in that stupid a** stereotype about blondes and intelligence.
I swear. What is with this hair color thing??? I am missing something??? Your hair color should be the least of his worries and if he feels that that is a hinderance, he is shallow. MySpace and other sites have men who don't care about hair color or other silly things that mean nothing in a committed relationship.
2007-10-31 17:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He flirts with you because he has fun with that just flirting, this doesn't mean he wants any more then that. As far as him not being attracted to blonds, I guess that is his own desires. That doesn't make him a bad person, it make him human and honest. So, you shouldn't be hurt by his comment, you should be happy by what he said, that way you don't get hurt later. Grow up, that sounds like a 13 year old problem, or someone who is stuck on themselves so much that they just cannot believe that a man just isn't;t attracted to them.
2007-10-31 17:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by bill s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think at 21 you are immature to even be on that kids' site. That man doesn't owe you anything. You're not dating. So you are being immature by being hurt by a comment that isn't really about you.
2007-10-31 17:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 so consider me an "adult" if you want. I wouldn't bother any about it. The whole survey thing actually sounds a little cheesy to me. He was probably just trying to lighten up the mood and joke a little. If he really likes you, then your haircolor won't matter.
2007-10-31 17:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ann T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not immature or overreacting. I would kick him to the curb because he is probably after one thing anyway. Find someone that is not such a fool. There are great guys out there, but this guy doesn't seem like one of them.
2007-10-31 17:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by nodine410 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was done to just get a rise out of you.
2007-10-31 17:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by wildwes1210 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was being sarcastic, he probably loves blondes, what guy doesn't?
2007-10-31 17:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jason A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be hurt doesnt matter but bringing it up is another thing. i agree in that he doesn't owe you anything: so i think you shouldn't bring it up
2007-10-31 17:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋