Family & Relationships - 17 September 2007

This is long, but I really need some advice so please take the time to read it. Thanks a lot!

Over the last few months, my husbands little brother has been really getting out of control. My husband and his older brother are 25 and 28, he is only 7. He's been the "Baby" all this time, but since my son was born his jealousy is getting scary. Here are just a few of the things he's done to my son:

Put his foot on his back and pushed/kicked him
Throws numerous toys at him
Jerks things out of his hands
Yells at him
When I was holding my son on the balcony of our porch to show him some things outside he came over and pushed his chest really hard. Had I not been holding his hands, he'd have fallen over 10 ft.
Shakes him
Squeezes his wrists
Every time I've told him to leave him alone (not nicely), and MIL has told him to stop, but he just tells her to shutup

Okay. This is over the last few months. I get soooo mad every time, and MIL usually smacks his leg or yells, but nothing ever

TBC...

2007-09-17 18:44:28 · 15 answers · asked by ... 1 in Family

I live in a big college town, but dont drink, smoke, or party that much and it seems like the girls i meet are either party girls or very religious. Does anyone know where to meet girls who have values but are not crazy into religion?

2007-09-17 18:31:33 · 12 answers · asked by scottstown2002 1 in Singles & Dating

My friend here has this fairy tale (IMO) view that once you are in love with sombody and marry them that you wont be attracted to anybody else. I dont agree, i think that it is somthing you will have to deal with all the time. But its not wrong, unless you act on it right? If she is right then it means being attracted to sombody else means that you dont love the one you are with.

Mind you im not married but i would like married people's opinions please :)

2007-09-17 18:31:01 · 11 answers · asked by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 in Marriage & Divorce

I'll be going back home soon, and getting married. My aunt has been really good to me, and I've had lots of fun with my cousins, I want to get them something, not too expensive.

2007-09-17 18:25:24 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Hi, My husband is a nice man, but he works in a diff place. I am feeling like talking to my ex..I miss him all the time. What shd I do? I am so obsessed with him. I see him online, shd I talk to him? I am sure he also wants to talk to me, as he misses me a lot. Plz help...i dont want to my husband either, but the spark in missing some how...

2007-09-17 18:23:34 · 11 answers · asked by jenni 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I think the idea is offensive and disrespectful to me. I'm fairly certain that my father would feel the same way. I'm not his properly. I'm a grown woman who is completely capable of making her own choices about marriage and choosing a partner.

Asking for the father's permission reflects a time when women were looked at as property, even a burden on men because of a society, run by men, that didn't allow for women to provide for themselves. This is clearly not the case anymore. I find it sickening that people still do this.

Now, when my fiance and I got engaged it was me who brought up the idea that we should get married and we skipped the formalities and ring and just went straight to announcing our engagement, but if he had said he wanted to ask my father, I would have had to have said no on marriage and probably broke up with him right then and there. He wouldn't have been the partner I thought he was. Anyone else?

2007-09-17 18:16:56 · 24 answers · asked by skunk pie 5 in Weddings

I know not ALL guy do this, but in my expeirience...they all have.

Why do guys hit women???
For the men out there that read this...that DO...you guys are jerks. How could you do that to someone? For no reason what so ever???

What did I do to these men?

Why did they feel the need to just take all their anger out on another human being???
OR, just hit them for fun???

To every man that has ever hit a woman....I would just like to say, that you are a coward! You are a shallow little sh*t!

To all the men that would never dream of hitting a woman...
I pray to meet you someday.

2007-09-17 18:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by Megan 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i really care about a person so much i cant even explain. But the thing is this person has so much hate inside of him...most of it having to do with his mom in his childhood...this person opened up to me after a while and also told me he cares about me.. and like me a lot but now hes telling me i can do better and that he dosent want to hurt me..so he decided we shouldnt talk any more :(
i honestly never beg and i told him if thats what he want than so be it.
should i just let it go? even though i want to be there for him?? Im not sure what to do :(

2007-09-17 18:11:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband left our home two weeks ago, I have no idea as to where he is living. I am 5 months pregnant with his child, my net income is 1200/ month his is 4000/month, i am on my companys insurance and have dedutibles and such in dealing with this pregnancy. I have been left with the bills, and the headaches. I am trying to understand if I can get some type of payments out of him up to the time I deliver my baby and then can go for child support. I live in Pennsylvania, I was told that domestic relations might be able to help me, as I can not afford a lawyer in this matter. If anyone can help, I would appreciate the advice. We have been married for five years and I never thought this would happen to me. Thanks!!

2007-09-17 18:02:23 · 6 answers · asked by Jami K 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i've been married for a few years and have experienced contradicting things.but some of the things i can't forget was being battered once in a while, but not that often. my husband said i deserve to be hit because of who i am..i'm really tired now..i'm in a foreign country and i feel all alone amidst all this. until one day i met someone who is nice..we are still on the getting to know each other stage. i thought that we would stop communicating after he found out i'm in an abusive marriage. when i spoke to him again, he asked first if i moved out and have left the guy who hurt me. i told him , i'm still living with my husband.i didn't tell him its because i can't afford to move out yet. the new guy told me before that i have many excuses on not having the courage to leave. my questions are: how do i leave and start or all over again? how do i heal so i can love again? what do you think of the new guy after what he said? what should i do for myself and for a new chance at love?

2007-09-17 18:00:23 · 14 answers · asked by hopingndreaming 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This is really happened to me.Im in love with a girl she loves me alot.Unfortunately she got married(arranged) to another guy.She still loves me.Im very depressed by this.Our past n sweet memories are dwelling in my mind.Im unable to bare this pain.But when i ask her about pain,she says not having like me,she is normal.Im weeping like anything,im unable to control my emotions.how she is doing sex with him it hurts me the most how she feels doing with him. Then wat is the difference between she n me.How to change my mind from her how to control my thoughts.But if our past comes into my mind i cant stop crying.how to move away from this. Need serious answers plzzzz..........

2007-09-17 17:45:58 · 5 answers · asked by Believe in yourself 5 in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend works 3p.m. till 11p.m. and I'm in school from 8a.m. til 8p.m. On some days she would call me and tell me she is going to run here or there when she gets off and will not be long for what she has to do.Well,if would be well over 1 1/2 to 2 1/2 hours.By then I'm in bed and she would be just creeping through the door.Tonight she said she was taking some money to this guy we know from a bar who gives us mixed CDs.When I called her, it didn't sound like she was in some bar.Am I dumb? What to do?

2007-09-17 17:42:17 · 11 answers · asked by pedebeed 3 in Singles & Dating

i'm inlove with my guy friend....
but whenever he's around....
i run, hide, ignore, snub him....
cuz my heart's beating really fast....
and i'm at loss of words....
i'm even afraid to look at his beautiful eyes....
i don't want him to think that i'm mean cuz i'm always ignoring him :(
i don't know what to do....
please help....
thanks :)

2007-09-17 17:41:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I work in a video store and this woman CREATES a scene every time she comes in. Im pretty sure she is agitating the situation just to start arguments. She has had several other arguments with several other employees so i know im not the one starting the trouble. I try my hardest to avoid conflict but we seem to argue every time she walks in. What is the best way to avoid this type of confrontation and the stress that comes with it. How should i confront her when she becomes unruly and uncontrollable?

2007-09-17 17:34:41 · 2 answers · asked by billy 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am 31 years old, a single mom of an infant. I'm just able to scrape by paying my own bills on what I make. But my parents seem to think I've got money growing out my butt the way they always ask for a "loan" to help them out of financial jams. My mom got a job closer to me & moved in until my dad can sell their place. I'm not asking for rent or for any help with utlities. Our deal was just that she had to buy the groceries each month. Her car died 3 wks later. Turns out after spending $500 (my $$) the mechanic says engine shot. Asks for another loan to get a car. Then dad's car breaks down. $$ from me. My mom just crashed the car I bought her (in my name & on MY insurance). I'm tired of bailing out my parents! I have my own bills! Yet if I say no my dad throws a freaking temper tantrum and issues all sorts of ultimatums. Mom broke her arm in the accident and went to ER, my dad wanted her to go back to have a specialist look at it. She didn't want to. He blamed ME for her refusal!

2007-09-17 17:22:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I think I miscarried my baby about 5 months ago. All symptoms of pregnancy stopped. I don't know what happend, if it calcified, or grew outside my falopian tubes, or... came out... (it was really young) or if I was ever truly pregnant in the first place, but someone please help me!!! I'm only 13 years old, and the only thing I could think of is someone drugged me... but the how is not important, what's important now is understanding what happened to my baby, if it was there.

2007-09-17 17:07:27 · 2 answers · asked by "Spencer" 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm curious to know if a couple is already LEGALLY married, does the Catholic priest have to know if they are legally married in order for him to perform the wedding process? And if he does know, is it frowned upon and will he still carry out the process?

2007-09-17 16:33:57 · 11 answers · asked by rivaldo 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-17 16:33:50 · 11 answers · asked by Thank God! Praise God! 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, in my school this year the seniors have wooden paddles and they plan on spanking freshman with them (im a freshman) But, my brother is a senior, and i thought i was good, but the other day he told me that no one could be left out and to keep a low profile. I felt rather betrayed and mad, first of all i think NOTHING gives them the right to haze, second today i over heard 2 people talking and one of thier brothers stood up for them. I know at least my brother had the courtousy to tell me to lay-low.(I dont think i have a problem, for me its pretty much from school straight home and i live in the country) But im worried about my brother shockingly. Hes so stupid, he could get charged with assult with a weapon or get suspended ect. Ive said he was very stupid to do this before but he thinks hes invinceable. Is there anything i can do to talk some sense into him?

2007-09-17 16:29:23 · 9 answers · asked by chilibean 2 in Family

my cousin is 15 and will be 16 in dec. she came to me yesterday talking about her breast. she said thar she doesnt understand why her breast are an A cup if she's 15yrs old. she said she read an article that said that pueberty stops around age 16. she wants to know if breast size is usually heridetary, and her mom is a D, why isnt she growing and what can she do 2 kinda speed up her process?

2007-09-17 16:24:57 · 1 answers · asked by ms.katrice_g 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

If you are home and find that another woman is in your home with your husband and you don't want to go to jail for hurting them, what does a woman do?

2007-09-17 16:24:51 · 30 answers · asked by locknkey 3 in Marriage & Divorce

baby mama been in nut house.elected to have father give a parenting right 35 years ago. what does one do with a nut case like that.

2007-09-17 16:21:22 · 3 answers · asked by jabberjaws 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

How does the "average" guy in his 40's (early 40's) view an 18- or 19-year-old? As sexy and someone he would sleep with if no one would ever know (and if there wasn't the cultural taboo)? Or more as his daughter?

2007-09-17 16:16:53 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have a different dad then my brother...we look alike alot...we have thesame mother...but different dads.. do we have thesame blood?...do all sibling hav same blood type i don get it...is he even my brother? i dont wanna call him my half brother :( if i have kids one day are they gonna be related to him..lol I MEAN is he gonna be an uncle or not bcuz we have dif dad..plz try to understand what im saying

2007-09-17 16:14:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok so today at school we were playing a game where you have to go up to people and talk it was in chemistry too...You had to find five people to get together and see if your atoms that the teacher gave to you worked together.....it was kind of lame....anyway i was working with this girl and i told her that i was a -1 and all of a sudden a girl came up to me and we balanced each other so she wrote me down....well my crush who has been exchanging eye contact but no smiles....ok well he came up and said oh we balance each other too and he waited for me to be done so he could be my partner and then kind of joked around and asked me if i knew his name......does he like me or just being nice...help me

2007-09-17 16:14:06 · 1 answers · asked by ktbiggs24 1 in Singles & Dating

How/why can a guy sleep with a girl multiple times, but still just want to be friends???? What does that mean?

2007-09-17 16:11:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

attracted to men that treat them bad, and see the men that treat them right as wussy's.

2007-09-17 16:02:08 · 18 answers · asked by fool4love 2 in Singles & Dating

But on the computer instead?

2007-09-17 15:58:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 20 years old but I feel like I'm 14. My parents want me to grow up and spread my wings, but they still treat me like a little kid who can't do anything by herself. They want me to take challenges and risks, yet they get mad when I take challenges they don't approve of. I am afraid that when I graduate college I will end up staying at home, afraid of the big bad world and remaining safe wrapped up in the apron strings. I can't move out at the moment because I simply don't have the money to do so and because I would not have much support. I feel like running away from home or doing something wild just to show them I am no longer the timid little child they have raised me to be. I understand that my parents do love me, but I don't think they are doing a good job of showing it by holding me back. Help please...

2007-09-17 15:58:38 · 4 answers · asked by loz_chyna 3 in Family

Hello, i go by Dr. Love and I'm here to help all those people out their that have a hard time with relationships or are shy or have just lost confidence, so basically I'm here to help out anyone who needs it, you can message me at x_dr.love_x on yahoo messenger. If you don't have yim you can contact me via email and I'll respond asap, and i'm a former relationship Counselor and willing to help anyone that comes my way, so drop me a line via messenger or email anytime, I'll be waiting.

Yours Truly, "The Man Himself" - Dr. Love

2007-09-17 15:54:05 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating