My girlfriend works 3p.m. till 11p.m. and I'm in school from 8a.m. til 8p.m. On some days she would call me and tell me she is going to run here or there when she gets off and will not be long for what she has to do.Well,if would be well over 1 1/2 to 2 1/2 hours.By then I'm in bed and she would be just creeping through the door.Tonight she said she was taking some money to this guy we know from a bar who gives us mixed CDs.When I called her, it didn't sound like she was in some bar.Am I dumb? What to do?
2007-09-17 17:42:17 · 11 answers · asked by pedebeed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does sound like she is up to something. But you are only talking about her long hours. Is she behaving any different then before, is she extra defensive, is she less social, does she still seem loving? Assess her behavior. That will give you the biggest hints on whether she really is hiding something. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If you answered yes to any of the questions above, then I would approach her on it. Be careful with your approach because if she legitimately isn't up to something (cheating), then she will be very hurt at your assumption.
Maybe if her timing is bothering you so, maybe you can suggest to her to run her errands before work, that way the two of you can spend more time together. Pay close attention to how she reacts. If you talk to her in person, watch her eye contact. If she can't look you in the face or kindof looks around a lot while she is talking to you, I think there is more to it then her just being distracted by the scenery.
Good luck to you.
By the way...I feel for you. 12 hours of school a day is very intense. Good for you!
By the way.. you are not dumb! :)
2007-09-17 17:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...............I was going to give her the benefit of the doubt but now that I read about taking money to a guy for CD's at the late hour......I would be suspicious. Confront her but in a kind way. Tell her how you feel . If you know the guy from the bar, maybe he would be willing to answer your question about the CD's. Be careful how you ask him. Don't sound accusing or make the guy feel uncomfortable telling you. Ask him if he got the money you promised for the CD's or ask him if your girlfriend gave him the money for the CD's. If he has nothing to hide, he will answer this, as it is his money. If she was running errands after work, it would have to be a place that is open very late. Has you brought home any proof of running errands home.....like, groceries, milk, etc. It is hard to sustain a relationship when you don't see each other and are passing ships in the night. That may be one of the problems. Sit down......if you both ever have the time and tell her that the work hours for you both aren't good for your relationship and suggest that maybe one of you might be able to change hours in order to spend time together. See how she reacts. Don't be accusing unless you have foolproof evidence that she is unfaithful. She may just be tired of the fact that you are in bed when she gets home even if it's not your fault. Look for the other obvious signs...you know ............different smells, change in the way she dresses, strange phone calls, emails, IM's, etc.
Ask her how your relationship is going? If she is truthful.......she will tell you exactly what she needs or wants from you. Ask what you can do to make it better and ask to compromise as far as work hours. You know her and shouls be able to tell if she has something to hide. Best of luck. If she wants out..........let her go. There's nothing you can do. If she wants more attention.........you will have to find a way to give it to her, so she won't have to look elsewhere. She may be lonely.
2007-09-17 18:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 18:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by piguerias 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect her of being unfaithful, just do some investigating. The next time she gives you a story, check the story out.
2007-09-17 17:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get a friend to spy for you, you have a good suspicion, you might be wrong, I hope your instinct is wrong so you two do not have a problem, but look out for urself first.
2007-09-17 17:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by IPFREELY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stalk her
put an ankle bracelet on her to track her every move
call up the show cheaters
or if youre really smart..... let her live her life and don't be obsessed with her actions. you'll know if she's cheating. things will fall apart themselves
2007-09-17 17:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Perverted Justice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. You should be able to tell by her reaction if she's lying or telling the truth. Yeah, i would say that sounds suspicious.
2007-09-17 19:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better find out what she really does...and see for yourself?
Its not bad after ll knowing who your gf is?
2007-09-17 17:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by dikya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her one of them mobile phones with a tracker on and Track her lyin ar$e..........
Then spank her new Mans Back-side if thats whats goin on.
2007-09-17 17:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she's doing someone she doesn't want you to know about.....oh, did i say someone?.......lol....i meant something......no, i really meant someone........you better find a way you can check up on her just to be sure.......doesn't sound good from here.....
2007-09-17 17:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋