Hi, My husband is a nice man, but he works in a diff place. I am feeling like talking to my ex..I miss him all the time. What shd I do? I am so obsessed with him. I see him online, shd I talk to him? I am sure he also wants to talk to me, as he misses me a lot. Plz help...i dont want to my husband either, but the spark in missing some how...
2007-09-17 18:23:34 · 11 answers · asked by jenni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't do it. whatever problems you and your current husband are having try to work them out before you have any contact with the ex..well unless you would like to have another ex...this might just be forbidden fruit syndrome. work on putting the spark back in your marriage before it all goes down in flames. Everyone gets lonely sometimes, even when they are married.
2007-09-17 18:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOO! Please, take it from someone who got lonely and talked to her ex.... it will ruin your marriage. There is nothing worse than filling the void of your marriage with someone else, especially as ex. That's what being married is all about, learning to fill the void and be happy with what you have. You say your husband is a nice man. Don't do ANYTHING that could jeopardize that. My husband worked a lot when we first got married and I got lonely all the time. I hurt my husband, with what just started as talking to my ex - it ended up being a month and a half long affair that broke my husband's heart! I cannot forgive myself. I should not have tried to fill the void elsewhere - I should have just gotten over it and filled the void some other way. Please... DO NOT DO IT. It can only end up leading to bad things... even if nothing happens now, it will later because if you start talking to him on a regular basis you'll get comfortable, and once you're comfortable, that's where you'll go if you're lonely or if you and your husband have a fight. Take it from me, someone who's having to build back trust, someone who's marriage is in ruins because of it... DO NOT DO IT.
2007-09-17 18:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow,
I am so much in your shoes right now, and wonder the same thing.
I have come to terms with the fact that my husband and myself are not compatible. Like you said, the spark isn't there, so I feel like I am just waiting out a prison sentence most days, trying to get back to the one I love.
I'll put it this way, you don't get to do this again, and if you think possibly your husband feels the same way, discuss it openly.
I know this is hard, because of the security issue, i like to feel that way to, but, i think it is time that both of us realize, this ain't a practice run, and we need to let go.
hope it gets better for you...
2007-09-17 18:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell your husband. You need to take some initiative and get your marriage back. Stop going on the internet and block his IM and email. You will be committing a sin if you talk to your ex and try to romance him.
2007-09-17 18:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find another outlet to socialize with while your husband is away. To communicate with the EX is only asking for a divorce.
2007-09-17 18:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband, write him a poem or a letter, if you dont want to be with him you should try to make it work and if it does not get a divorce. Then talk to your ex
2007-09-17 18:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, talking to your ex, is not the soluation, if you are unhappy
in the marraige then you need to get out or deal with why you
feel as you do. talk to him about this. then do what is right,but
dont start something that you cant finish. as they say get out
of once thing before starting a new one.
2007-09-17 18:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if you are feeling obsessed with him no. talk to him if you can get things in perspective. if you can talk to him as a friend. becos you and me both know if you talk to him while you feel like this it will not be good.
2007-09-17 18:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by darkling 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not go for it.hubby will understand.guys like to share.
really,get a life
2007-09-17 18:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by chrisy j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you know why you married your husband. why you didn't marry youe ex?
2007-09-17 18:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋