My friend here has this fairy tale (IMO) view that once you are in love with sombody and marry them that you wont be attracted to anybody else. I dont agree, i think that it is somthing you will have to deal with all the time. But its not wrong, unless you act on it right? If she is right then it means being attracted to sombody else means that you dont love the one you are with.
Mind you im not married but i would like married people's opinions please :)
2007-09-17 18:31:01 · 11 answers · asked by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm married, not blind or dead!
My husband and I have a working agreement. We don't care where the appetite comes from as long as we ALWAYS eat at home.
2007-09-17 18:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for almost nine years now and there are times where we admire other people. I know he's been attracted to other women before and I know that I have been attracted to somebody else too but we never did anything to kill that attraction. Like you said, being attracted to somebody else besides your partner is fine as long as you don't do anything that will affect your marriage. You should also trust each other when it comes to that stage of your life where you feel like you want to be with somebody else. It's ok to fantasize about someone else but don't take it to the point where you're actually doing something that's bad. It doesn't mean that you don't love the person you're with if you become attracted to someone, everybody goes thru the same experience.
2007-09-18 03:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by bittersweet_luv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and quite honestly haven't felt an attraction to anyone but my husband. I'm not sure why.. but he is the love of my life and my focus is always him and my family.
I also am a woman who makes it a point not to ever let myself into a situation where I could become attracted to another person. I keep my work professional (and I work at a mine where out of 60+ employees only about 7 are women) so it's not like it couldn't happen, I just don't let it happen.
So depending on the person you are both right. Some people are like me and stay focused on the one they love and don't allow their minds to wonder to what could be... while some are not so careful and allow themselves into situations where attractions can happen.
2007-09-18 01:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry, you are promising to give your love to one person---that doesnt mean that you cant talk to half the world--you should give intimacy to your spouse and let your marriage relationship grow.
Yes, you will see people who you think are attractive, but you have to learn to control yourself--you let the thought pass thru your mind and then dismiss the thought. The problem comes when we are not happy in our lives, we get the thought, we keep thinking about it, we act on it---we make gestures and moves to see if this attractive person will play the game. This is when you have gone wrong and not in control.
2007-09-18 02:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right. You can be married and still physically attracted to other people. But being attracted to someone else doesn't mean they don't love their spouses. It is nature to look at beautiful people when you are married as long as you don't act upon that physical desire. Just don't tell and dream about it. Your thoughts are yours.
2007-09-18 01:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married does stop you being attracted to some one or viceversa. Its our nature cannot stop. i also got attracted by other man. May be i am attracted to other man.It all natural feelings for humans. As long as you dont act on it and nothing goes wrong. If you r attracted and acting on it, thts it your happiness is over.
2007-09-18 03:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by Buju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am married too and I also find other women attractive sometimes. It is the nature of a male, as we are visually stimulated than women.
2007-09-18 01:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by Calculus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to look. Just dont touch. I think Poppet said it best.
2007-09-18 02:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not married here but i dont see no harm in having friends as long as it dont interfeer in a marragew or get out of hand towards committing adultry. my opion?
2007-09-18 02:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is beautiful...But so are many other women out there. I can look at whatever I want to, as can she.
2007-09-18 13:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋