I am 31 years old, a single mom of an infant. I'm just able to scrape by paying my own bills on what I make. But my parents seem to think I've got money growing out my butt the way they always ask for a "loan" to help them out of financial jams. My mom got a job closer to me & moved in until my dad can sell their place. I'm not asking for rent or for any help with utlities. Our deal was just that she had to buy the groceries each month. Her car died 3 wks later. Turns out after spending $500 (my $$) the mechanic says engine shot. Asks for another loan to get a car. Then dad's car breaks down. $$ from me. My mom just crashed the car I bought her (in my name & on MY insurance). I'm tired of bailing out my parents! I have my own bills! Yet if I say no my dad throws a freaking temper tantrum and issues all sorts of ultimatums. Mom broke her arm in the accident and went to ER, my dad wanted her to go back to have a specialist look at it. She didn't want to. He blamed ME for her refusal!
2007-09-17 17:22:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get a backbone and tell them you are tapped out...or you are going to be doing this forever.
2007-09-17 17:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by vanessa c 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have 3 kids instead of just 1. They are your parents and are supposed to set an example for you not make you support them. I really don't see how your Dad thinks he has any business issueing ultimatums, you hold all the cards. They are living in YOUR place, using YOUR money. Don't let them manipulate you. Tell them NO more loans until they pay you back ALL the money they already owe you and start holding up their end of the bargains they make...buying groceries, NOT crashing cars in your name, ect. And remind them that they are not entitled to your money.
2007-09-17 18:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by CalamityJane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have your own child to take care of and they are putting a strain on your finances. Put your foot down...just because they had you doesn't give them the right to own you. Do Not give them anymore money....you are enabling them leech off you. Let Dad issue as any ultimatums as he likes.....the truth of the matter is..........your house, your rules and show them the door....when they grow up tell them you would be happy to see them until then......... "C Ya"
2007-09-17 18:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont' know why they are living with you but i would end this mess. they can't do this to you why do you haveing them with you in the first place he throws a fit well then let them , tell them to not let the door hit them on the way out. very sad they are oding you like this i would end it they are ruing your credit take care and good luck
2007-09-21 13:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...how old are you????
grow up, and tell them to get out.....and tell them no more money.
If they start their ****, tell them you are NO longer taking away $$ that goes to your own child
2007-09-17 20:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by iampeaches25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋