Family & Relationships - 8 September 2007

I am not dating my ex bf best friend, but here is our story.... my ex and i just ended a long relationship-almost 3yrs. he was abusive, cheater, lier....just a bad person and bad situation. his bestfriend kept telling me to get out of that relationship- as well as everyone else i talk to. there is and was always great chemistry between my ex's bestfriend and i...and i often wondered what it would be like to date him...if maybe i was supposed to be with my ex to find his bestfriend. his bestfriend has told me how he feels about me, and he makes me feel soo good. i am not looking to date, but if there is a possibility to start a relationship do you think it would be wrong to?

2007-09-08 05:41:47 · 19 answers · asked by cutiepie2003 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-08 05:40:55 · 9 answers · asked by Yahoo 3 in Singles & Dating

I don't agree with bancrupcy at all. I would rather him work on paying his debts little by little. I think overall it will look a lot better that he's putting the effort into paying his debts rather than just eliminating them. Your feedback would be helpful to both of us. Thanks

2007-09-08 05:38:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i dont understand what they get out of it i am a girl and i hate guys who are older ... i just do they think they are so all that just because their age is older and frankly they are cradle robbers if they date girls who are like 10 - 20 years younger ..... but why do you like it so much girls tell me and why do you guys like to date girls who are younger ?

2007-09-08 05:36:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my son is a 9 year autistic child n behavioral problems, this morning i eard my son screaming and banging things next thing i heard it was my husband yelling at him and he took his sandal and whacked him on his leg. my son started crying, that's when i came out and started cursing at him i threw him out of the house. i was so upset! he just doen't understand that my son is a speacial child and says that i have him spoiled. which i don't think i do it just that when i put my baby on time out he has no clue why. so that's why i really don't punish him. my husband has been raising my son since he was one year and his biological father it's not in his life so i feel like i am the only that he has to defend him. my husband is the provider here iam a stay at home home of two. i will not divorce him over this unless of course it gets worse. how sholud i let him know that iam serious about him not touching my son?i was thinking about staying with my sister for a couple of days with kids.

2007-09-08 05:34:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

does marriage/divorce goes under criminal court before 7 years ? or any time it comes under civil court ? if there was divorce what is compensation that needs to be given to spouse. And after divorce how to get the protection legally ?

2007-09-08 05:33:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a father with a really bad temper. When I was younger, all I remember of him was being explosive whenever something bad happened. Even now, when he's in a bad enough mood, he'll throw things and yell literally at the top of his lungs. And what's worse, whenever he wants something he'll threaten to lose his temper. You may think that's not a big deal, but I get so scared of him. It brings everything back; all of the yelling and arguing between my parents, how I felt. I'm 16 now and a junior in high school. I was inspired to put this on here because 10 minutes ago he started yelling at me again and he called me a "stupid *****". I can seriously say I hate him sometimes. I hate living with this fear. Everywhere I go I feel like I'm controlled by this urge to make everyone happy so that they won't get angry. I'm extremely insecure but I want to change that. Please, if anyone can give me any advice, do it. I would love to hear anyone's opinion. Thank you.

2007-09-08 05:32:17 · 6 answers · asked by runmebreathless 2 in Family

Would it be bad of me to start giving my bf a Bjob right before i had to leave and to start things off but not finish? just wondering? i was thinking maybe it would leave him thinking of me and horny next time he saw me.. or just plain wrong?

2007-09-08 05:30:36 · 15 answers · asked by starryeyed 5 in Singles & Dating

I have reason to be suspicious. I'm normally not a nosy wife, but something upsetting has come to my attention. Pleas help.

2007-09-08 05:30:09 · 17 answers · asked by kbear 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this boy that I liked in 7th grade, and he knew it and he never liked me.
Now I am a sophmore and we have a class together, and it seems really akward with him, like I dont want to look at him or anything, because maybe he'll think I still like him.
(i still do think he's hot)
also I find him staring at me a lot.
Is there anyway to stop akwardness?

2007-09-08 05:19:33 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok..I'm getting divorced...I get to see my kids every other weekend and 2 hours at night on Thursday...

my ex signed my little boy up for swimming and it takes up 4 nights a week...

my dilimma is I would like to spend my time taking our kids out to dinner and interacting w/ them..on Thursday...my ex wants me to take him to swimming practice on Thursday (w/ my little girl) and drop him off afterwards....

should I go along w/ it? Am I being selfish to even consider not doing it? It's not that I have a problem w/ it per se...it's just I'd rather spend that time actually talking to him rather than just looking at him swim laps...w/ my daughter bored to tears there as well...

Help! She made these plans w/o even consulting me....and just wants me to "go along with it" for the kid's sakes...

I don't know if she's just trying to put the screws to me or not...

What about it?

2007-09-08 05:15:32 · 12 answers · asked by prouddaddy 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-08 05:15:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

we been grounding her and everything. right now, what pisses me off is its still the same things she does that i told her to stop doing with regards to putting clothes away coz she just leave it everywhere. you can find her undies at the guest bathroom on the floor. leaves the bathroom floor wet that i had to get down on my knees to wipe the water dry after she showers. she never do dishes even if we told her to do so.im 5 weeks pregnant now and i need help.im having a hard time with my pregnancy and i have a 19 month old baby.i all stressed out she doesnt listen to me.when i tell her my husband it seems like im the bad person coz for him she is a good daughter. i would be very much happy if she goes back to her mom.i am really exhausted i do all the chores even if i feel like im dying.i might lose my baby because of this.better yet if i cant take it i will leave them and bring my baby with me.

2007-09-08 05:13:01 · 6 answers · asked by tricia_c07 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay there's this guy and i don't get to see him often =-[ because of his mom practically she won't let me talk to him or anything...well you see everytime i walk by him (when i do get to see him) he smiles and acts shy and laughs when i do something maybe that's funny or something he talks to me but not a whole lot i think maybe because he don't wanna make a fool out of himself or something he has played music for me off his mom's cell when i showed him my hula dance lol um he gave me a hug when i asked for one and he was all like Yeah!!! with a huge smile on his face...and i just don't think he can show me his feelings because his mom is in the way of things basically....see i asked him out before and he said yes but since we just met then he said he wanted to get to know me better and be friends.....=-) well later down the road i didn't get to see him or anything....=-( it was very depressing for me because i really like him like no other! and i just am not sure if he likes me or not he acts like he does my friend even said it seems to be he likes me but i'm wanting to know what you all have to say and think or something....there's more that he does when i'm around but i guess this is all for now... oh and he has told me where he lives (becuz he moved but actually he moved a block over from his old house lol) and stuff like that. Sorry if this isn't enough info. i'm trying to think =-)

2007-09-08 05:08:18 · 2 answers · asked by Skittles 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

He's been my friend for many years and we've dated 3 times. And before we date everytime we are like best friends who flirt a lot. and now i'm at that point agian being best friends who flirt. He's hurt me so many times and i dont know if i should keep him or move on. i luv him and i dont know what to do. everytime i'm with him i feel great and sometimes not so great like when he talks to him friends or something. but we i look back at my past i see me crying over him or over something he did to make me cry like that. this is quite confusing. so i dont know if i should stay friends with small benifits (kissing, cuddling, going on dates). or what i should do. my family dont like him because how he hurt me. but i still love him. that's y i'm confused. please help me please.

2007-09-08 05:04:48 · 16 answers · asked by Rebecca C 1 in Singles & Dating

My finace and I are planning our wedding and between us we have 8 kids (Me 3 including my niece and him 5). We will be going on a three week honey moon after the wedding and we are deciding who should watch the kids while we go away. My mom (whom lives across the country) would be willing to watch the kids at our new house in LA and so would my fiance's mom that lives in town. The thing is, my mom LOVES to baby kids and I don't want my soon-to-be-step-kids or my 20 month old, that I recently adopted and my mom never met to get the wrong impression and my soon-to-be-MIL is not. She lets them have freedom up to a fair extent and has rules, but not too strict. My fiance and I are leaning toards his mom. Is this wrong and how can I explain it to my mom? Any advice will help. My mom is not really paying for the wedding (just my Dad's tux to walk me down the asile.)and my soon-to-be-MIL is helping us pay for most of it.

2007-09-08 04:54:08 · 8 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Weddings

Am 6'5", bald, little chubby, strong in all ways, and very down to earth. I am 31 years old and close to graduating from college.

Why are girls so afraid of me? If a girl looks at me she automatically looks away/put their heads down or most of the time doesn't even look at me at all. This has been going on for years and I don't know what to do. I don't like clubs and I am not picky at all. Have been told by older people that I am very handsome and confident.

So why can't I find a girl who likes me? Is it my physical stature or the fact that I don't chase after them enough?

Oh, yes I live alone and smell great!

2007-09-08 04:45:00 · 16 answers · asked by cappatown23 3 in Family

This is a complete shock, i had to find the emails between him and this women, and video and pictures. 7 years of my life he was going behind my familys back and yesterday, got caught. I called my mom cause she was out to dinner with him. as soon as he got back. busted. someone i looked up to and someone who i trusted is a different person to me now. i don't trust or wanna be his daughter anymore. my mom doesn't know how to deal with this. we are thinking about getting a family therapist and a mental therapist for my "dad" he has issues because he was mad at my mom for basically nothing and now he has persionally hurt my family and the family of the women. she had two daughters and a husband. they knew because when we called her to yell at her i yelled "slut" and her husband then saw the emails. and left her. good. im good she feels as much pain as she caused me. but now, i have no idea what to do with him in my life or how i should live my life? HELPPPPPP this hurts me so bad!!!!

2007-09-08 04:37:53 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i know this has nothing to do with singles and dating but how can i add someone as a fan? i dunno. someone please explain this?

2007-09-08 04:37:07 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Sorry if yu think my spelin is bad, i can spell Lol its jus i alwaiz write lyk thiz, itz called slang. K anyway thiz boy asked meh out n i dnt wanna say yes cus i no tht he will want to hve sex wif meh if i do go out wif him n im only 13! but i reli lyk him n im fed up of bein single Lol buh thn agen i dnt think hes mr right..
any ideas on wat i shud do?
Tysm Loveeee JESS x

2007-09-08 04:25:53 · 44 answers · asked by *JessBABY.xo 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so i just moved to florida about 7 months ago from west virginia and theres homecoming...i've nevr been to a homecoming so its kinda exciting for me...but i have a cousin whos one year younger but shes....a spolied brat and she always gets everything she wants...she out does me in everything...and her mom is always comparing us and im kinda sick and tired of it...i decided not to go to homecoming and just stay home...wat should i do that night?

2007-09-08 04:22:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

It's my 40th birthday and my wife asked me what I wanted to do. I said I needed to get some gardening done but would like she and my son to be in the garden with me. My wife would not come outside because she said it was too hot and my son (because mum was inside) did not stay for long. This made me upset as I did the gardening by myself as mum played her laptop games indoors and son joined her. Is it selfish of me to expect my wife to put herself out on my birthday? She is not happy in the heat (or outdoors in general). Still I hoped she'd join me. Please advise.

2007-09-08 04:21:35 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friend asked me to be in her bridal party. We currently live 12 hours from each other. I am pregnant and will have a 3 month old the time of her wedding. She is expecting me to attend her bridal shower in June and to be in town a few days early for the rehearsal dinner! I am feeling stressed out because this will be my first child and I am also expected to fulfill my duties as a bridsmaid! Also, the house we are getting dressed at is 45 minutes from the church, and the church is 1 hour from the reception hall!!! Does this sound weird to you? This means a full day away from my new baby. I am really not to thrilled about this, and all the driving involved. It seems like a lot of wasted time. And I don't think many people are going to the church. I told her that my husband will have to watch the baby until the reception and will just meet me there. Then she suggested that we stay at the hotel nearby and I reminded her that I will have a 3 month old baby to get home to! Need Opinions!

2007-09-08 04:16:27 · 12 answers · asked by christine 2 in Weddings

things that you never know what he will plan do if to be trusted?

2007-09-08 04:12:01 · 20 answers · asked by LauraD 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-08 04:11:24 · 6 answers · asked by Jan 3 in Singles & Dating

And what state was it in?
Were there children invovled?

thx to you all in advance!

2007-09-08 04:09:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

feelings, they say nothing?

2007-09-08 04:06:30 · 2 answers · asked by Me 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-08 03:58:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how do you get a man head over heals i mean like me and my boyfriend have been togther for six years and our sex life is great he's much older than i am and much more experiecned than i am i just want to do something that would make him go WOW .

2007-09-08 03:58:36 · 3 answers · asked by sheena 2 in Singles & Dating

ok, so i like this guy and i want him to ask me out... how do i get him to do that????

2007-09-08 03:58:00 · 6 answers · asked by gracie_thunder 2 in Singles & Dating