I am not dating my ex bf best friend, but here is our story.... my ex and i just ended a long relationship-almost 3yrs. he was abusive, cheater, lier....just a bad person and bad situation. his bestfriend kept telling me to get out of that relationship- as well as everyone else i talk to. there is and was always great chemistry between my ex's bestfriend and i...and i often wondered what it would be like to date him...if maybe i was supposed to be with my ex to find his bestfriend. his bestfriend has told me how he feels about me, and he makes me feel soo good. i am not looking to date, but if there is a possibility to start a relationship do you think it would be wrong to?
2007-09-08 05:41:47 · 19 answers · asked by cutiepie2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me and my ex bf bestfriend have always had feelings for each other. he has been there for me through this whole situation and knows both sides of the story. he has always been nice to me, compliments me, tells me how he feels etc...my ex does not care about me, if he did then WHY would he cheat on me constantly(8x in 3yr) and abuse me and lie to me?
I AM NOT DOING THIS TO GET BACK AT MY EX OR MAKE HIM MAD!!!
2007-09-08 05:49:39 · update #1
never hold back how you feel just because you are afraid of what others my think if there is chemistry between you two then act on it.
2007-09-08 05:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Tim H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you to end that relationship but why did it take you so long to do so.
First off give yourself some time go out and have fun. Your ex boyfriend friend has seen what you have gone through and feels that he can treat you better than your ex. I do not see anything wrong in dating him provided your completely over your ex..
2007-09-08 05:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by blueyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it!! Since your ex was a jerk why should you care? Obviously this guy has liked you for a really long time and he was sweet enough to help you through a tough situation. He seems like such a good guy from what you've said so I say go for it girl! We only get one life so do what you feel.<3
2007-09-08 05:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by pixichic07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go there. I think a relationship w/ your ex's bff could complicate things for everyone involved....even though the bf was supporting you and trying to help you during the relationship, I'd keep it platonic.
2007-09-08 05:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is sure - he is not your ex's best friend ! And for new relationship ? It seems you have it already with the ex's 'best friend' ! So , carry on -- you have such a 'feel good' situation with him . Don't just let it go by !
2007-09-08 05:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by priyabrata d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're in a tight spot but if you do want to see this guy. You would have to ask your ex if it's okay because you don't want to come between your ex and his friend.Breaking up there friendship.So talk to your ex and tell him that you are interested in his friend.
2007-09-08 05:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Shygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....but chances are your old b/f won't see it that way. Good for you for getting away from a "bad boy". It's fine if you want to date his bud, ,just be ready for some "friction" between them. If his bud choses you over your ex you'll really know how you stand with him!
2007-09-08 05:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be wrong yall went out for 3yrs n u go turn around n date his best friend n if theyre best friends then more than likely that best friend is goin to have sum of those same traits like cheatin n bein a liar...
2007-09-08 05:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by MY oWnselF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think it would be kinda wrong.. but in your situation it depends on how does ur ex feel about u... Does he has a new gf? if he doesnt care at all, thats not a problem!! Date his friend, it seems like his friend is better.. Good luck :)
2007-09-08 05:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, but I do think that if you date him probably his relationship with his "best friend" will end. But, that is his issue and not yours. He is making that choice if he starts the relationship with you. I would be shocked if they stay friends, if you do get together.
2007-09-08 05:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by ala pb&j sandwiches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋