Family & Relationships - 1 September 2007

Also, if we've gone out a few times, how should I go about telling her?

I get the feeling that she doesn't know how old I am and she's assuming I'm closer to her age. How would you suggest I go about telling her that I'm actually 5 years older than she is?

Thanks.

2007-09-01 17:22:29 · 36 answers · asked by jim 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so my gf made a big deal about us needing a weekend of alone time and crap. So she tells me not to make any plans and stuff but turns out today she has plans that she never told me about. Like ok why not tell me I mean she didn't call or even leave me an email but if I go out and don't tell her where all hell breaks out. And she was online today when I was but pretending like I wasnt on or some dumb crap. When it suits her she pulls out the we are engaged card but ugh whatever. Whats her deal? What should I do? oh and btw we have each other on facebook and stuff like that so i changed all of my status to single, was that mean or no?

2007-09-01 17:20:46 · 10 answers · asked by spayhappy 4 in Singles & Dating

You'll forgive the Queen reference - let it not detract from the utmost seriousness of this question.

I can't sleep. Know why? Because the only thing that I want in life is an amazing, beautiful, intelligent, charming, funny woman to love and to cherish. I am sixteen, and have not had a proper relationship. Yet there is nothing it this world I want more than to find a wonderful girl who will love me for who I am - in spite of my many peculiarities. And there are many. For example, most of my wardrobe was tailored before 1985. I am easily recognisable walking down the street - stopping occasionally to make witty remarks about those who have just hurled abuse at me. But I am unforfilled in my life. I want a woman who is very, very special. She'd have to be to love me. I'm just getting so bored with my miserable existance - I really need someone to brighten it up. I would not be able to go out with someone who I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with. But maybe I'm weird.

2007-09-01 17:19:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm totally crushing on this guy at work, and he really loves me as a friend. Well I finally came out and said that I had a crush on him and he told me that he cherishes our friendship and that he really doesn't want a relationship right now because he still isn't over his last one (I don't know how long ago it was, and he told me it was a bad break-up too) and he wants to put his life in order first.

I mean I agreed to stay friends with him, but I can't help it, I really think I love him! Should I keep on fighting, trying to make a relationship anyway with him? Or should I just back away? I'm so confused right now!

Thank you!

2007-09-01 17:19:27 · 15 answers · asked by ~*StarryEyedSurprise*~ 2 in Singles & Dating

i have an impala 04 ' and its loads of room ,but i dont own it it belongs to my folks. and i was thinkingo f a camaro to bang my girlfriend in whats the best vihicle ??

2007-09-01 17:18:13 · 4 answers · asked by jjospeh 1 in Singles & Dating

I am the oldest out of 2.So i get alot of responsabilities put on me.Well anyways i have an younger brother and my mom treats him like a baby! Just last year i was begging my mom to buy me a PsP.It took me about 5 months just to get her to say yes.Well when i finaly got ,one my brother was realy jealous.And he asked 4 1 to.The next day she bough him one.Shes always making me do all the chores! I unlike my brother...have to work for the things i have.He just asks for the thinds he wants and he gets them righ away! If i get bad grades i get punished 4 them...but if he gets bad grades my mom just tells him to do better.I thinks hes like retarded or he has ADD.All of my friends have asked me that to.Its just sooo frustrating!Every time i try talking to my mom about it...i get realy mad..and just start crying.Its just sooo frustrating! Its not only rustrating but hurt full she gives me the idea that she loves him more.How can i talk to her w/o sounding mean or hurt full?

2007-09-01 17:16:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my sister & me get into a lot of fights
she thinks i try 2 make everything a comittion
& always try 2 win
like if she asks help from on her homework & im explining
she cuts though my sentance
& says go away i dont need ur help u always do it wrong
& then i leave
later i would just aks if shes done
then she says when do you care u never wanna help
& im standing there all confused

OR

sometimes at little things she says
im not her sister i dont act like one
i want everyone hate her
but i dont

so i always feel like i do something wrong
i think it mite be cuz im a little bossy
or try to make what i do perfect

if you tunk so plz tell me
i wanna stop these fites
cuz im tired on crying
plz tell me if you think im wrong

2007-09-01 17:15:44 · 11 answers · asked by Jasmine 2 in Family

ok, i know they are our parents and we are supposed to listen to them and follow their rules [which i do so this isnt one of those why do we listen to parents questions] why do we, the kids have to do our parents laundry, dishes, and cleaning? i have to do my moms laundry and i do the best i can but if i wrinkle her clothes she goes psycho every time and i try not to wrinkle them. her clothes require so much attention, u have to put certain stuff on the stains and remember what cna and cant go in the dryer. and if i mess up shell get mad at me. personally, i dotn care if my clothes are a little wrinkled or folded or w/e. so if she doesnt like the way i do laundry why does she continue to harass me about it instead of doing her clothes herself?? are kids really supposed to be personally servants to parents? like drop everything so we can get them a drink or food. do their cleaning, laundry, and dishes??

2007-09-01 17:15:11 · 9 answers · asked by yeahxitsxsarah 2 in Family

I'm a virgin female. Personally, I think my vagina area is gross. Ever since puberty with the pubic hairs and labia growing, and monthly menstrual cycles and vagina discharge, I find that area of my body very gross just like the anus area. I don't get aroused when I see other women's vaginal areas either. I admit boobs are the only thing that seems sexy. What about men? Do you find the women's vaginal area gross at all? I mean, I know men's reproductive parts aren't always pleasant-looking either. But when you get hot an heavy in the sex deed, do you forget that these body parts are close to areas where one pees/poops and smells? I always wondered what is going in people's brains when they get naked and have sex. Do they think about the grossness of it all?

2007-09-01 17:13:56 · 7 answers · asked by Findout Y 2 in Singles & Dating

i askd em what he like about me..and he said "yo eyes,yo booty and yo hands..u so perfect"

2007-09-01 17:12:43 · 12 answers · asked by BaByGuRl 1 in Singles & Dating

I am hosting my best friends bridal shower and bachlorette party.Am I supposed to get her a gift for the bridal shower,bachlorette party and wedding?
What would you get for the bride and groom who already have everything?

2007-09-01 17:07:26 · 9 answers · asked by i<3laura 5 in Weddings

2007-09-01 17:04:56 · 13 answers · asked by JustWondering 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, where do I begin?!? I have been married to my husband for 13 years. We have had alot of problems. He just recently left me during my pregnancy for an 18 year old. I had the baby on my own and he wanted to come back. I took him back and he has changed alot. I just got alot of info from the girl that he was with and it was more than he described it to be. I have confronted him with this and he tells me that I deserve it. I did have a relationship with one of our friends when he had left me before. We were not together. We seem to be going in circles with this. I want to know if the feelings of leaving this marriage worth it., or should I put the past in the past and move forward?!?
Thanks for all the help, and please no bad comments about what I did--guys!

2007-09-01 16:58:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is California a good state to start? If yes, why? If no, why? Where would you advise me to start if California is not the one?

2007-09-01 16:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by Diamond C. 3 in Family

I need help on getting a divorce. he has told me to move. i am not financial able. he does not want to give me anything. i nwill be broke and homeless. No car etc. He says he will not pay a dime even if a court makes him. I can not find or afford a lawyer. I wnt alimony.medical,his retirement,sell of home,life insurances,social security. any lottery winnings,then and future. he plays faithfully.

2007-09-01 16:55:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife is one of the most beautiful women that i have ever met and i love her to death. She had a baby nearly 30 months ago and still dawns a lil baby fat. Now shes really not out of shape but she like 10-15lbs over where SHE wants to be (tho you couldnt tell if you saw). Shes really sensitive and self conscious about it and i dont want to upset her nor do i want to seem like im displeased wit da way she look eitha. But i do want her to be happy and i believe dat if she loses da weight than she wont be as self concious about her body and overall more confident. Da truth be told, im content wit where she at but i can see dat she doesnt exactly feel as sexy as she really is,regardless of how much i tell her. She thinks im just sayin dat becus dats what i think she wanna hear. I do feel dat she wants me to actually come out and say "i want you to lose weight" but im not sure. Plus im scared sh*tless, for real, i ASSUME she wants me to say it, but dont want to hurt her. Any suggestions

2007-09-01 16:52:54 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-01 16:51:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I've been going out with a guy for almost two years. One year of that has been a long-distance thing because he moved 2000 miles away for his job (he got a big promotion).
The problem is that now I just don't feel the same way about him that I used to. He didn't really do anything wrong. I'm just not in love with him like I used to be.
I do like him as a person, though, and I don't want to stop talking to him completely. How do I break up with him without pissing him off so much that we can't be real friends anymore??? Please help me solve this problem.

2007-09-01 16:51:20 · 16 answers · asked by Cara 1 in Singles & Dating

i am %100 sure that i'm not gay...i have a b/f who i love and am sexually attracted to... and i have never liked a girl before... but i get turned on by lesbian porn... and not at all by girl/guy porn... is that weird? anyone else the same way?

2007-09-01 16:51:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How should I act around her and what should I talk about?

2007-09-01 16:46:54 · 9 answers · asked by Kat C 1 in Singles & Dating

I was really exhausted today. I worked from 7AM until 9PM yesterday. I was about ready to fall down. I got up this morning at 7AM and had lunch with my boyfriend and his mother and she left. I told him I needed to lay down for a couple hours because I was taking my son and his girlfriend out for dinner this evening and I did not want to be dragging.
He told me we had enough time to lay down before he left for work and asked me to lay down at 5:15 PM. He had to leave for work at 5:35 PM in order to get there on time. He was trying to get me to provide sex. He told me 30 minutes would be long enough for us to "nap". What was he thinking? Where does he get the idea I want to have sex with him when I am dead on my feet?

2007-09-01 16:35:32 · 10 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Singles & Dating

I despise going to church. My mom is a devout Catholic, and she has all of a sudden started demanding that I go to church. I am not Catholic, neither is my sister or father. My mom lets my dad do whatever he wants (they won't fight about it--married 29 years). For the past year or so, she has also allowed my sister and I to stay home from church. However, since my sister moved out (off to college on Wednesday), my mom suddenly began to insist that I go to church. I hate it. I am not Catholic. I see that the church is riddled with corruption and believe that many of the core doctrines are contradictory. I have repeatedly voiced my anger with her over this, and I refuse to attend mass. She will not listen to me in this matter, and just continues to insist that I go to church. She is DEMANDING that I go, and I am not going to be forced to do something against my will that I hate so dearly. WHAT can I possibly do to help her understand this WITHOUT me attending?

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY.

2007-09-01 16:35:09 · 5 answers · asked by Dominic 4 in Family

My ex is a dead beat father. He owes thousands of dollars in back child support. We have been to court numerous times and he still fails to comply. The court has given him until Dec 21 to make restitution and six months of timely payments. This has not happened thus far. *Tick Tock Tick Tock * I was informed tonight that he has plans of running out of state. He is waiting on his new wife's student financial aide difference check to come and is taking off. The information is reliable and probably very accurate.

My question is, What do I do next? Do federal laws govern deadbeat dads across state lines? Should I call Child Advocate and tell them he is about to run or just let it happen?

Side note.. I work (not on welfare). I pay the bills. I take care of all of the medical and educational needs of my son. I don't need his money and definitely wouldn't depend on it. I have not received one full child support payment if you added everything I have recieved this year together (not 300).

2007-09-01 16:33:46 · 29 answers · asked by Shana N 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-01 16:33:15 · 27 answers · asked by smiles 2 in Marriage & Divorce

okay my friend n i went camping (girls camp) n some one took her candy n put the raper in my tent. she got mad at me and went off crying!!!! after i said srry(im laid bak) but after that i axtdently hit her w/ a stuffed animal (in the eye) i said srry n she runs off crying n tells her mom that i beat her up n her mom yelled at me!. now a week has past n shes trying to become friends n trying to come over acting like nothing happnned should i forgive her??

2007-09-01 16:33:05 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my cousin is getting married and i want to spend under 50$ Whats the best gift to get her thats under 50$?

2007-09-01 16:32:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

We're always arguing at each other. She's always arguing at me because she doesn't know how to change the channel on the TV, when I try to show her she doesn't want to listen, so we fight about that. She always gives me Ultimatums and I get upset about that, she's always arguing about my controlling behaviour, she always gives me this big presidential speech about how "She does all this work and all I do is sit at home all day", despite the fact that I do a lot of stuff out in the community, when I bring it to her attention she's always unimpressed, expecting more... I play World of Warcraft and when I'm in the middle of a Raid she's always yelling at me to change the channel on the TV for her or she won't cook me supper.. I tell her "In a few minutes, I need to focus here. I've tried showing you how to use the remote, you didn't want to listen, so now you have to wait." She yells at me because she wants me to do it right then and there, then I get yelled at by my Guild......... GRRRRR

2007-09-01 16:30:09 · 7 answers · asked by Aaron B 1 in Family

I met this girl and i asked her out and she said yes... but she's not letting me take her out on a date... she's 24 and im 19. we talk on the phone for a long time and she seems to enjoy it.... but whenever i try to set up an appointment with her she skips out on it... why?

2007-09-01 16:29:14 · 2 answers · asked by puaporn 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-01 16:28:04 · 6 answers · asked by TNN 2 in Weddings

I lost my dad 13 years ago (wow, it doesn't seem that long ago) and I still have days where I just break down and cry. I think about how much I miss him and the fact he can't be around to watch my kids grow or he won't be there to walk me down the isle. Does anyone else still have days like this?

2007-09-01 16:27:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships