I'm totally crushing on this guy at work, and he really loves me as a friend. Well I finally came out and said that I had a crush on him and he told me that he cherishes our friendship and that he really doesn't want a relationship right now because he still isn't over his last one (I don't know how long ago it was, and he told me it was a bad break-up too) and he wants to put his life in order first.
I mean I agreed to stay friends with him, but I can't help it, I really think I love him! Should I keep on fighting, trying to make a relationship anyway with him? Or should I just back away? I'm so confused right now!
Thank you!
2007-09-01 17:19:27 · 15 answers · asked by ~*StarryEyedSurprise*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best thing is still stay close as a friend dont back off and dont try to make him date you --- at some point he will realise that this waiting is not helping and start looking for someone new to get to know --- and there you are ---- best wishes
2007-09-01 17:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be thankful to him that he didn't take advantage of you. He was frank enough to admit that he's not yet ready for a commitment because of his previous break-up, and that he needs time to heal himself.
No wonder you love him, he's such a nice guy!
He's obviously still hurting, so I think the best thing for you to do now is to be a friend to him. People who are hurting need friends, not lovers. Help him heal his wounds and who knows, when he's ready to take the plunge again he's gonna be asking you out.
2007-09-02 00:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by 123mantobeat456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not be interested or he may really not want to get into a relationship right now if he is recovering from a break up.
Be supportive, but not pushy. If he does want to move to more than being friends, he will. Otherwise, you have a good friend that knows you care for him.
2007-09-02 00:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by khrome_wind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really doesn't want a relationship right now because he still isn't over his last one? Bulls hit. I hope you don't truly believe that.
He's just not that into you. Back off, and find someone who deserves you.
(You don't need just guys to answer this question).
2007-09-02 00:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Britta Britta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you wait. Coming out of a bad break up is difficult. Offer him all the support, unconditionally. Ask him politely, if its ok that you have lunch together. I suggest you concentrate on your work and let him concentrate on his. I am assuring you he will love ypu back for this. Trust me on that.
2007-09-02 00:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by Milind Desai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay his friend for now pushing him too hard could drive him away. Being patient and caring will cause him to see value in you.
2007-09-02 00:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't push it or you may lose a friend. you have told him how you feel, now back off and let him decide if he wants more. in the mean time, look around and see who else might be interesting.
2007-09-02 00:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dee M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay back, u've done enough for now, he knows u like him, he'll keep it in mind n when he's ready he'll come to u, do u think mayb he just said that coz he doesn't wanna make things weird at work... i'm just sayin that could b it too
2007-09-02 00:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone at work always causes problems.
What happens if you two are having problems and you have to work together?
2007-09-02 00:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by tabulator32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him, respect his wishes. To push yourself on him in his vulnerable moments when he's trying to get himself in order would be selfish. God bless.
2007-09-02 00:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋