Ok so my gf made a big deal about us needing a weekend of alone time and crap. So she tells me not to make any plans and stuff but turns out today she has plans that she never told me about. Like ok why not tell me I mean she didn't call or even leave me an email but if I go out and don't tell her where all hell breaks out. And she was online today when I was but pretending like I wasnt on or some dumb crap. When it suits her she pulls out the we are engaged card but ugh whatever. Whats her deal? What should I do? oh and btw we have each other on facebook and stuff like that so i changed all of my status to single, was that mean or no?
2007-09-01 17:20:46 · 10 answers · asked by spayhappy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump her. Why would you marry someone so completely selfish? Are you really that desperate. Dude get some dignity and dump her. You can do way better.
2007-09-01 17:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down, since she wants to spend time with you.
Tell her you want to be honest with her, and tell her that it kinda sucks that she can go out and everything without telling you, but you can't do the same without her getting mad.
The whole relationship thing needs to be 50-50.
Tell her that she needs to also start respecting you alittle more.
For the whole facebook status and stuff.
It seems immature that you would do that whether you were pissed at her or not. Yous are engaged which means you should be mature about it, and not make her question whether yous are still engaged or not.
Like I said though, have a talk with her. Make sure she actually takes it seriously, and if things don't change, maybe its alittle too soon to get engaged if these kinda problems are arising already. Although you obviously love her, and respect her, it needs to be both ways, or it'll end up not working out so well.
2007-09-02 00:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, YES you have a right to be mad! I'm not trying to be malicious, but she sounds totally hypocritical and manipulative. The engaged card to get what she wants? LAME! And setting up the wknd only to pretty much ditch you? Just confront her and find out what the heck is going on - and if it comes to it just break it off. Doesn;t sound like a healthy relationship anyway. Changing your status to single says you don't have a gf, which is telling her she isn't your gf anymore. If you really mean to break up with her, make sure she knows it in person.
Best of luck to you!
2007-09-02 00:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
while men and women have almost identical dna, women have a tag on their dna name emotional and fickle. the special tag on the dna, is a god given gift. it is not a mistake. that is how she knows how to keep things interesting.
your girl friend is there with you and is sweet and comforting to you, in addition to all other things, she provides you with a regular supply of that stuff that you need so very badly. remember, you don't have to go hunting anymore. she is right there with it waiting for you, day in day out, month in month out.
a woman feel entitled to take a certain amount of liberty with her man and rightfully so. remember you get free milk and meat all the time.
in return you have to put up with some stuff.
i think you may have over reacted.
lighten up and chill out.
let her have her way sometimes.
often times we forget that women are the queens in our castle and deserve to be treated accordingly.
2007-09-02 00:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by ramni222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad, changing you status to single though... I wouldn't do that unless you're breaking up with her, and you are single.
Good luck.... And try to see from her view, it takes sometime to be able to do that, but if you can see from her perspective, it might make you a bit less mad...
2007-09-02 11:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get engaged, and certainly not married until both of you are more mature and ready to respect and truly love each other
2007-09-02 00:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SURE! YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO HAVE ANY FEELING THAT COMES ALONG. BUT, DO YOU THINK IT IS FUN TO STAY ANGRY? SEE, YOUR MIND IS PULLING A LITTLE TRICK ON YOU BY SAYING,
YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ANGRY!
YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ANGRY!
YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE ANGRY!
BUT STAYING WITH THE ANGER IS NOT VERY SATISFYING. AND, BOTTOM LINE, WE ALL WANT SATISFACTION. IF I WERE YOU, I'D LIGHTEN UP ABOUT THE MISHAP. GRAB THAT GAL AND GIVE HER A BIG HUG. DON'T MAKE A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLE HILL.
2007-09-02 00:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by GENE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She seems to be jerking you around, big time. I would get un-engaged to this chick ASAP. What she's doing is rude, and it's highly unlikely it will get better once you are married.
2007-09-02 00:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does not sound like u two need to be together.
2007-09-02 00:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing in it to a madness
2007-09-02 00:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋