My ex is a Deadbeat and owes thousands?

Question

My ex is a dead beat father. He owes thousands of dollars in back child support. We have been to court numerous times and he still fails to comply. The court has given him until Dec 21 to make restitution and six months of timely payments. This has not happened thus far. *Tick Tock Tick Tock * I was informed tonight that he has plans of running out of state. He is waiting on his new wife's student financial aide difference check to come and is taking off. The information is reliable and probably very accurate.

My question is, What do I do next? Do federal laws govern deadbeat dads across state lines? Should I call Child Advocate and tell them he is about to run or just let it happen?

Side note.. I work (not on welfare). I pay the bills. I take care of all of the medical and educational needs of my son. I don't need his money and definitely wouldn't depend on it. I have not received one full child support payment if you added everything I have recieved this year together (not 300).

*** Child support is for the support it costs to pay for the needs of my son. I have paid all of the expense.. EVERY PENNY!!! So the money that has not been paid is owed to me not to my son because his expenses have been paid.

To the comments regarding letting my ex get on with his life because we are no longer together and I had this child by choice.. That is like buying a car and then parking it in town and not paying the loan because you no longer want the car. ITS NOT LEGAL!!!

I love my son. I am proud of my son. His father refuses to relinquish rights but won't take responsibility for his child either. I believe that 300 a month in child support is not only beyond reasonable but the least he can do if he isn't going to be a parent but won't allow anyone else to be his legal father.

His wages are garnished but he quits whatever job he gets when the Child Advocate office catches up with him. The IRS takes his taxes but he owes back student loans.

I know he sounds like a lazy troll but when we first got together he had been working fulltime with the same company for almost ten years. He was going to school part time and seemed like he had his life together.

I guess looks can be deceiving.

Answer 1

You can contact your respective child support agency, but not much they can do until he actually runs, and even then, leaving the state is not illegal, leaving the state and continuing to not make child support payments is where is is screwing up.

Kudos to you for not counting on the money, but I would (as you appear to be) continue working the court system until you have the money he owes you, eventually, he will be unable to run and hide, and will either find a way to apy the money, or spend some time in jail.

Once your state knows what state he is in, they can contact them, and garnish wages and or, arrest him if they need to and have him returned to your state to face the judge.

I have no sympathy for deadbeat dads, I am divorced, and pay 900.00 a month in child support, and have yet to miss a payment.

Go get him, and get the money you rightly deserve.

Answer 2

I live in Illinois and both of my kids are grown now. My youngest is 19. My ex husband NEVER paid his child support. It was a joke. The courts do not care.
I paid for everything my kids had and my ex is thousands of dollars behind and will never pay. Get this.......he worked 2 blocks from my house. He told the courts he did not have a job and they told me to come back when he got one. They did not even check on his big lies.
I hate to disappoint you and upset you, but do not expect to ever collect support. The courts do not care.
I also need to add, I am a Registered Nurse, which made it even worse because they figured I was making it on my own for me and the kids, so why should I burden the courts. I had money to live on and they just let him go.

Answer 3

WOW! Do I know how you feel. My ex is the same way! I would call them and let them know what you heard and maybe there is something they can do about it, but I know that when my ex got to be even $3,000.00 behind they pretty much put a lock down on him so he can't leave the state(by plane or train), buy a house, car, or get his liscense. It is different in every state though so I would most definatley say something to your child advocate worker and see if there is something that can be done. He must really not use his head, because if he flees with the set date that the court has given to take care of his payments...he'll be in even more trouble..wow that really reminds me of my ex! Hang in there..and good luck!

Answer 4

He's not going to get very far. See as it is unless he's going out of country his a** is eventually going to get caught up with, regardless of what state he goes to. I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. At least you got child support. When my father left my mother the courts didn't make him pay a dime for 4 kids (one handicapped). My dad's BIL was his attorney & the BIL played golf with the judge. You do the math. Side note-Hunt his lazy a** down. Tell whoever you can that you know what he's planning so that it can be investigated. Good luck.

Answer 5

it's really never a question of his paying you or how much you or he pays toward the support it really is how much he was told to pay and that he comply. he was the parent that created life with you, and he was determined the parent that should contribute to child support.
so it is your duty to report his activity and find out what you can do. if it is nothing it's nothing. but if you have options then take them. because if there are federal chasrges for crossing borders he would be better off in a state prison or county jail than a federal prison for running away from child payments if they have to find him across state or country borders.

Answer 6

If you live in California and work they wont do anything for you. If you get a lawyer make sure its a female because it seems as the men like to stick together. I tried everything in California. I am now considering giving the 31% fee to the agency that collects for you. The system only seems to care when your on welfare because then they have to pay.

Answer 7

I would definitely pursue it. Since he is not complying, then with the court order, maybe he needs to have his wages garnished.

I'd get advice from a lawyer about the particular child support laws your state.

Answer 8

Yes, federal laws do govern deadbeat dads fleeing child support. I would suggest talking to the Child Advocate/court and having them deal with it directly... after all, they are professionals. Then detach from the situation and move on.

Kudos to you for kicking that rubbish to the curb and getting on with your life and being fully self-supporting.

I feel sorry for his current wife... he is with her strictly for her money.

Answer 9

Find out how to have his wages garnished. They can get it from him even if he's out of state. Be advised of one thing though, a trick some of these guys use is to start a job, and as soon as their employer gets the notice to garnish their wages, they quit and get another job until that one gets the notice.

Answer 10

Call the advocate or child support investigator immediately. They would be able to best advise you about about the laws, and what the best route going forward is.