I've been going out with a guy for almost two years. One year of that has been a long-distance thing because he moved 2000 miles away for his job (he got a big promotion).
The problem is that now I just don't feel the same way about him that I used to. He didn't really do anything wrong. I'm just not in love with him like I used to be.
I do like him as a person, though, and I don't want to stop talking to him completely. How do I break up with him without pissing him off so much that we can't be real friends anymore??? Please help me solve this problem.
2007-09-01 16:51:20 · 16 answers · asked by Cara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make sure your really ready to break up with him cause once you do it you cant take it back. Two years is a long time make sure this decision is really what you want.
I broke up with my fiance cause I didnt feel like I loved him anymore and it wasnt going to work. I regretted it almost immediatly. Thankfully his a forgiving person and now we're working on our relationship, I was in a slump and didnt know how to express it.
I was lucky he took me back but at time scarred to death that I was going to lose him forever :(
Just please make sure you really want this so you dont mess it up for both of you.
If you really want it then the best thing to do is be honest,talk to him and tell him what you just told us.
Good Luck, I'll be pulling for you!
2007-09-01 16:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him as soon as possible.
Let him know that the long-distance relationship is not working.
Tell him that you think he's a great guy, that you hope the two of you could still be friends and that you wish him well.
Tell him you believe it's only fair that you both move on with your lives since your feelings toward him has changed. Tell him it's nothing he's done, but just you needing someone to be nearer.
2007-09-09 22:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be completely honest. tell him that the long distance relationship got really difficult. and tell him he didnt do anything wrong. tell him how great he was to you and that you really did love him or really did have strong feelings for him...but things have just changed over time. you just need to honest. thats the only way you cant not hurt him too bad. tell him you want to stay in touch becasue he is a great guy and someone you want in your life forever as a friend.
2007-09-09 14:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by blondebaby11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls go In depth about understanding this special word that we all pretend to adore that is Love. This is necessary as it will help you straighten your believe in that word. It may differ as you put the word maturity in it and thats why many peoples message does'nt br fruitfull.It would be better if you ask this doubts to your parents as they woild be the person to understand better and give you the best guidance.,MGBU.
2007-09-09 21:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by D.R.M.M's Fairplay's Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it with the can we be friends thing. if he really had feeling for you. it is going to hurt. just be honest and let the man go. don't put it off another second. that is just cruel to allow him one more midnight dream of a life with you. maybe you can be friend much later but not now.
2007-09-09 23:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by phantom43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try to save some sort of a friendship with him. Be completely honest with him and answer all questions he may ask. And do this sooner than later, cause the longer you drag this on, the harder it can be on both of you.
2007-09-01 23:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty honesty honesty.....did I mention honesty?
Being friends with him requires BOTH of you to work at that. There is no way to tell how he will react until you confront him with the break up.
You never know, he may be feeling the same way you are, LD relationships are difficult at best.
2007-09-01 23:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't a way of handling this that won't result in his feelings being hurt. That is unless he doesn't have feelings for you anymore, or happens to be seeing someone else.
2007-09-02 01:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by George B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being wholly honest and then giving your man some distance is all you can do.
Be nice, it'll probably be fine, he may be feeling the same way as you.
2007-09-07 10:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jugular 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that long distance isnt working. its probably best if u do it over the phone (email is a nono) also tell him it's b easier 4 him too if he had a gf closer by or something along those lines
2007-09-09 22:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by gmnastcsrocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋