2007-09-01 16:51:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A parent should always help their children when possible. Everyone needs help sometimes.
2007-09-01 16:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by thomastl614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kid is 20 and working? then why should he go to school? I don't get the question.. if is that he is always coming to you for help you simply tell him, go to college and get a career or no more help every time you need it.. he is an adult now he has to learn how to solve his own problems.. if you continue to give him stuff he will never go further than that dead end job is called tuff love, cut him off and demand of him going to school or learn how to live on a fix budget.. it will work.. good luck.
2007-09-01 16:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sometime's we all need alittle help, but at the age of twenty he or she should be doing thing's pretty much on the own. When parents help their children at this age, the child almost always becomes to depending on their parents and then expect help all the time time...they have no motivation to get thing's done on their own.. just be there as a parent when really needed....... good luck
2007-09-01 16:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree... what KIND of help?
Is he pitching in and helping around the house or is he just laying around when not at his job or with his friends?
If he is working full-time, you should consider collecting part of his paycheck... you can call it "rent"... and put it into savings for him. That nest-egg can put money into some community college courses, or put a down-payment on a car, or the deposit on his first apartment.
His other choice would be to go to school full-time (at least a trade school) and hold down a part-time job... in which case you would not demand rent money until after he graduated.
I don't think he should be allowed to just stay at your home indefinitely.
2007-09-01 17:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am only 21 I have 2 boys, and custody of my 13 yr old sister, I honestly think that I can do anything if I put my mind to it. But I have not always thought like this. My mom left us when I was 17 and we lost my father recently. I am still holding ground. yes I have been indepentant, most of my life. I thinkit is like holding a babies hand while they are learning to walk, you hold them but you are letting them walk by them selves, go the direction they want to go, to see,make sure that they don't hurt themselves. I have been independant but I have had a hundreds of people to not allow me to give up, to dream big, and to give me advice, be there for me when i needed to cry. Don't make him feel small, findout what he thinks of himself, what he wants to do and why, help him stay in line of his dreams, show him how much you love him, and with your love of what you want for them, encourage him with postivity, and love, even though you want to scream at them. Find out how you can have him scared to disapoint you. Youhave no idea how hard life is whenyou don't have someone there for your spirt wise, not money wise or home, but someone you can count on, someone that truely loves you.
2007-09-01 17:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by haha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to go to school? I would help him in any way I could to further that goal.
If he has no plans to go to school, then I suppose he needs to learn to stand on his own two feet. No time like the present.
2007-09-01 16:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a complex question. Personally, i dont think they should. he is over 18. i never had any help from the time i was 16. i paid my own way for everything, except my mom gave me a place to stay. once i hit 18 and i was out of school i had to pay rent.
2007-09-01 16:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by wickedwings1982 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's not in school, no. If he's in school, yes. School is expensive. And his parents should only help out with school bills.
2007-09-01 17:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by signing4lyfe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only enough to stay alive. if this is a money issue think, does he use the money in the right places? if its school, let him chose its his life you won't always be there for him. if its relationships, hes 20 let him be.
2007-09-01 16:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by SmilE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is still young tell he that he has to go back to school next guarter even if its a community college
2007-09-01 16:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by brown eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋