We're always arguing at each other. She's always arguing at me because she doesn't know how to change the channel on the TV, when I try to show her she doesn't want to listen, so we fight about that. She always gives me Ultimatums and I get upset about that, she's always arguing about my controlling behaviour, she always gives me this big presidential speech about how "She does all this work and all I do is sit at home all day", despite the fact that I do a lot of stuff out in the community, when I bring it to her attention she's always unimpressed, expecting more... I play World of Warcraft and when I'm in the middle of a Raid she's always yelling at me to change the channel on the TV for her or she won't cook me supper.. I tell her "In a few minutes, I need to focus here. I've tried showing you how to use the remote, you didn't want to listen, so now you have to wait." She yells at me because she wants me to do it right then and there, then I get yelled at by my Guild......... GRRRRR
2007-09-01 16:30:09 · 7 answers · asked by Aaron B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe your mother is intimidated with the technology stuff. Cut her some slack. If she asks you something, do it. "World of Warcraft" can wait. What do you do around the house to help pull your weight?
2007-09-01 16:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how much you do out in the community, you still need to help at home. "If you live there clean there." I always say. As for the TV thing...I remember before we had remotes (I was a kid). I'd have to come from my room to go change the channel on the TV. I was a human TV remote for years. Tell her if she doesn't want to learn to use the remote then she'll just have to set there and watch what is on. As for not fixing you supper...fix yourself something, don't' let her hold that over your head. It sounds like to me that she has a control issue. Both of you seem to be right in some things, yet wrong also in some things. Set down and talk it out. Work out a schedule for the 2 of you. That way both of you can have time for chores around the house, together/family time, and some well needed alone time to your selves.
2007-09-02 00:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to the first answerer. Mine died 3 years ago, over a period of 3 days(though comfortable and of sound mind). I'd give anything if she were still here to "bother" me.
She's your mother so you need to be more patient with her. Video games can wait. Try to do more around the house and as someone suggested, get a part time job, go to the library etc...Maybe she'd even take some initiative to learn how to use the romote if you weren't home so much. If you're old enough to be on the internet then you're able to fix your own dinner. That's what I had to do.
2007-09-02 00:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend a little money... go to the electronics store, and get the programmable channel changer with big numerals on it... geared for idiots and senior citizens. The really SIMPLE one. Set it up for her and move on.
If you don't have one of those really SIMPLE answering machines there at the house, you might need to invest in one of those, too.
The next thing I would do is just spend as little time there at the house as possible. Get a job, get into some extra-curricular activities, go study at a friend's house or the library... whatever legitimate excuse you can come up with. The trick here is to get your chores done and keep your grades up, and touch base to let her know where you are at... just to stay out of trouble. You only have a few more years to go before you are 18, so make the best of them. Build a good CV to take to college.
2007-09-01 23:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I wish I could have those arguments with my mother again.
She died a really nasty death from cancer about 10 years ago.
It's amazing the things that you'll miss when she's gone.
Might want to tuck that away for future reference.
2007-09-01 23:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel the pain that your feeling now my friend. my mom is also like that. and if we have an argument she tells it to my father and my father says to me that a mother is only one and we people should be thankful to our mothers because without them we will never have a chance to see the world around us. so please be patient. talk to her. say I'm sorry and i love you to her
2007-09-01 23:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by james m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old is you
if you are under 19 do what ever she say but do something
that will put you in jail
dont forget tell me
how old are you
i did not read it all
but i just did
you is lair L.A.I.R???????
2007-09-02 22:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by bre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋