Family & Relationships - 16 August 2007

Ok, i wish i had the words to adequately describe this situation w/o seeming like a complete jerk. Id like to start by saying im a 24 year old WOMEN and not some immature little girl.

When i was 19 i dated a guy.. we went through alot.. and he was kinda.. the guy i never got over. Ive always thought about him. We talk occasionally... he still crosses my mind.. but.. its not like i think well end up together now.

Well, a year ago i meet my current boyfriend and man.. i could not be happier. Everyday i wake up wondering if this is a dream b/c im so incredibly happy and cant wait to spend our life together.

But... all that aside... i do still think of this ex. For example.. we talked online tonight.. and i told him we should meet up for lunch sometime. I would NEVER cheat on my current with him.. but its like.. i cant fully let him go.

Has anyone experienced this? I dont know how to ever get COMPLETELY over him... will he always have a place in my heart? advice?

2007-08-16 16:51:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

How come girls who'r bossy and way too demanding and high maintenance get bfs?

2007-08-16 16:41:52 · 3 answers · asked by arch_25jan 2 in Singles & Dating

OK I have never done this before but I was curious...
On a scale of 1-10 what do you think???
I will refrain from making excuses for the crappy picture.
http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff268/windshooterdragon/IMAGE00601.JPG.jpg

2007-08-16 16:39:55 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife and I are at odds with her giving a preacher $400. to over $500. a month...she calls it tithing. She go's to church once a month. I feel its wrong for her to be doing this. What do you think?

2007-08-16 16:39:01 · 12 answers · asked by Steve S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my life starts like this....yrs ago i married my sweetheart but since being 2gether till about say 4 years ago hes cheated on me. i was young (15) when i met him&got pregnant @that age &we now have 4 2gether. when i 1st cheated i did it w/the WRONG guy (his bestfriend from childhood) yes i know what a s1ut, he in turn scr3wed my best friend yrs l8r, keep in mind that he did the cheating on me way b4. We have seperated b4 but now things have changed&now everything is fine neither1of us is cheating @least not that i know of. Anyways about 2days ago his exbestfriend was following me until he met up w/me @a restraunt, i did not ask him 2follow or anything i in no way made any intentions on talking 2him. well exbf wanted me 2pick him up and i said no cuz i didnt want2 mess anything up w/my hubby. but now that i think about it more , trust me i've really been thinking about exbf, my hubby cheated&lied2 me constantly&told me he wouldnt cheat on me. so what do i do?

2007-08-16 16:38:01 · 16 answers · asked by luck013 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-16 16:37:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i havent seen my boyfriend in 4 weeks, sence ive been away, and i dont know what he is doing...he puts a lot of things before me, even other girls..he never calls me, i dont know what to do. keep him, or leave him. its hard, cuz i love him, but, hes sooooo two faced. i guess this is what they ment by "drama, laughs and tears, welcome to the teenage years"

2007-08-16 16:35:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I just got married and i am wondering what i change first. my driver's license or may banking info... as well as my dutch passport or my perminant resident card?

2007-08-16 16:32:21 · 9 answers · asked by Breanna's Mommy 2 in Weddings

2007-08-16 16:32:02 · 28 answers · asked by Poo 1 in Singles & Dating

I am in a relationship of 5 years, 35 years old, living together and the biological clock is ticking. I recently went on a trip for work and on the way home I caught up with a friend of 5 years. We were chatting how our relationships were lacking passion and after a few drinks, our desires played out on each other. There is no love or connection there, just I think we were both so wanting some affection and passion that we are not getting enough of in our own relationships. My partner then read my emails and found out. I have gone from a workable relationship where 90% of it is great, to one where I am on the verge of moving out. I cannot decipher what is going on in my head or my heart and have no idea what to do, and he is just as confused, saying he wants me to move out and that he doesn't love me the same anymore since I cheated, and then wants me to stay. I do love him, but is it because we have been together for 5 years and have so many memories and connections? Help!

2007-08-16 16:31:48 · 25 answers · asked by Fi Massage 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i need help plzz... tell me the way or show me a video

2007-08-16 16:28:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does this type of relationship work? I know that the womans primary concern is for the well being of her child as it should be. But how do you think this sort of relationship works? I know the child element changes things, but how far does it change things from having a regular relationship?

I think the woman is a great person from what I can tell so far but I'm not sure how to work a relationship if a child is involved. I don't want to hurt the innocent in the end should the child grow attached to me and the woman and I split up. Any advice on this situation would be helpful.

2007-08-16 16:26:44 · 51 answers · asked by Cameron 3 in Singles & Dating

Take it how ever you want...

2007-08-16 16:26:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been married to a woman I truly do love and cherish for about a year now. On a recent business outing I did something, extracuricular that I am regretting now. I had sex with a man. I'm not gay, I was simply curious and exploring my boundaries but I can't even justify it to myself that way. I feel guilty as ever now, but I don't know if I should tell her. I do not want her to think of me as gay, because that was a definite eye opener to myself that I am not. I will never do it again (did not enjoy it), nor would I ever do it with another woman. Yet I still feel incredibly guilty. I'm afraid that telling her will ruin our relationship, but holding it in will weigh on my conscience for the rest of my life. I am truly regretful, but I'm in a predicament now. I need help and suggestions. What would you do, or how would you react? Is it cheating or just experimenting? And the big question; do I tell her? Any ideas welcome. Thank you!

2007-08-16 16:25:54 · 15 answers · asked by ace r 1 in Marriage & Divorce

before i start i'm 15 and in highschool. well one day me and my girl friend we're talking, and she started this random conversation about how hot this guy she met in branson was, she went there for a concert for school. she said she talked to him a lot there and they hung out. ok yes i got extremly jealous but trusted her and didn't push it. later that week me and my buddies we're hanging out in the hall way and a pretty good lookin senior walked by, one of my buddies was like wow that girl is so hot. and all i did was nod my head, by gfs best friend saw me told her and she got all pissed. so what i'm askin is, is that really fair? i know she was tlaking to me about it but still. my gf is amazing and gorgous. (i know i can't spell) i wouldn't ever do anything to her to hurt her feelings but is it fair that she can rate other guys but i can't do the same for girls? just was wondering

2007-08-16 16:22:56 · 25 answers · asked by grggraves 2 in Singles & Dating

I had this boyfriend for a long time, we were together for about 4-5 years, then we broke up. For about a year or so we didn't see or spoke to each other. Then we met again, and we began talking and stuff, we have a nice friendship we're very close friends. Obviously Im still in love with him. He's never had another girlfriend after me, i mean he dates and stuff but not a gf. Same with me. Last night he called to tell me about this new girl he had been dating...and my advice was...take her out of the picture...forget about her ...and he said yeah i will...and he did it.
I need to know, how can I tell him that I still love him without being...umm ridiculous? or how can i get to see him just as a very close friend, who usually tells me nice things and invites me to dinner and hangs out w me a lot? THANKS

2007-08-16 16:20:52 · 20 answers · asked by Mrsprincessconsuelabananahammock 1 in Singles & Dating

I got engaged to my boyfriend 9 months ago and we have already set a date and decided on our colors and the general theme of the wedding. My fiances sister recently got engaged about 2 weeks ago. She has all of the same ideas for her wedding as I do, including the color, but it didn't matter too much to me because she had set her date for 5 months after mine. Well, once she found out that we have all the same ideas, she rescheduled her wedding date to just 4 WEEKS BEFORE MINE!!! I've thought about rescheduling to an earlier date, but not only do I not want to seem childish, I also received a FREE honeymoon from a family member as a gift that can only be taken in the month we had set. I really don't want to seem like a "copy-cat" wedding, and most of all I feel like her wedding will take most of the excitement out of mine! Any advice on what I should do??

2007-08-16 16:19:54 · 31 answers · asked by Shana L 1 in Weddings

I met this boy at Uni 2 yrs ago & we became pretty good friends. I wasn't initially considering anything else but his friendship, but after a while I felt like he was showing a lot of interest & I started having feelings for him beyond friendship. I eventually told him early this year...and that's when things went off. He said he really liked me but didn't see this spark between the 2 of us. I was heart-broken, yet I couldn’t but respect his own feelings as he’d been respectful of mine (he was nearly torn apart when we talked about it, saying he didn’t know what he wanted, jst that he didn’t want to hurt me; and there’s been lots of touch & tenderness that time).
Anyway, bck then he said he wanted our friendship to continue & I believe it but now he’s become distant. We used to have fun & enjoy each other’s company so much, teasing, laughing at things and others. Now I get the feeling he’s smtimes annoyed when he sees me & though he tries to act casually, things seem forced & awkward

2007-08-16 16:18:31 · 1 answers · asked by AussieJ 1 in Friends

he's mean to me and when he hurts my feelings hes soo nice and trys to do anything to make me happy , he says i have a pretty face sometimes but then he calls me stupid..what's his problem?he's 24 , and i'm 20

2007-08-16 16:17:02 · 4 answers · asked by angel 2 in Singles & Dating

Where do I begin? What agencies do I have to notify? Do I have to get a new social security card. I have no clue where to start or what to do.

2007-08-16 16:15:54 · 8 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Weddings

Do you perceive this as an action of a loser?

OR

Do you perceive this as something that makes you feel nice?

2007-08-16 16:12:28 · 14 answers · asked by Mr Muscle Man 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I wanna have sex But my parents say im still to young plz Help me !!!

2007-08-16 16:09:10 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-16 16:07:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hey everyone. heres the deal. I have a girlfriend who seems to be a bit of a flirt. There are times were i would look at her myspace and see pic comments from guys that werent too bad. but latley they've been getting more suggestive. and shes been returning them. me and her got in a big fight and she appologized and said she would never do that again. and so far shes made good on that promise as far as pic commenting goes. but now she is acting distant from me, and like she never wants to talk. she usually calls me and is quite. what kind of does bother me though is that she sees the same people who suggestively comment her pics in real life. sometimes when im not with her at things like motocross races becuase im an mx racer. i love her deeply and im trying to make this work becuase i would never want to hurt her but its almost like her heart is hiding. i know flirting is innocant but sometimes it can flat out hurt when its taken too far. what do you guys think i should do?

2007-08-16 16:03:08 · 5 answers · asked by andthefatladysings 1 in Singles & Dating

just wanna know

2007-08-16 15:58:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have trouble talking with my dad mostly asking him for advice because he never hears me out first. He begins giving me the solution when.......he doesn't know what the problem is yet. He tells me all the time..."You should listen to me," but he doesn't seem to understand that listening is a two way street. I love him dearly just can't seem to communicate with him. Anyone have a problem like this with their dad? I'd appreciate any advice.

2007-08-16 15:57:25 · 16 answers · asked by Marky Marc 3 in Family

this guy and i were pretty close like he'd call me every night and we hung out and stuff. Well there were a few incidents we had like i went all the way to his friends house and had to leave and drive 45 minutes back home, and he didnt even call me for 4 days to make sure i got home okay. That was awhile ago but the last time i saw him was at a place i worked at and later that night he wouldnt stop telling me how cute i was and how he missed me and stuff. i havent heard from him since. It was the 4th of July. I dont want to call him and ask him whats up i feel he owes it to me to explain himself. If it was just a random guy it would be different but he was just sooo obsessed with me always calling and blah blah, cept of course for the driving to his friends house thing. Idk am i wrong in feeling this way?
The last time i saw him (at my work) i was talking to this guy i worked with and we are sorta flirty but idk if he saw that or not.

2007-08-16 15:55:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It shouldn't be so hard. When you know the person is terrible for you, and feels nothing when they watch you suffer at their own hand, why is it still so hard to get over them??? He claims he still loves me and would do anything in the world for me for us to stay together (if I place our unborn daughter for adoption) and sometimes all I want is to feel happy again so I almost consider obliging...but then I have a reality check and remember why he's not a stand up person and not the pesron I'm meant to be with. Why is it still so damn heartbreaking, and how do I make the hurt go away?????????

2007-08-16 15:52:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-16 15:51:57 · 14 answers · asked by mbearley67 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We registered our marriage 3+ years ago & have not gone through the traditional ceremony. We have bought a place & stay over the weekends only. He is non-committal about the relationship & does not want to comment when we should hold the traditional ceremony (dinner, church etc). I feel confused and sad - I have done my utmost and given my best in the relationship but he doens't seem to care much abt me or us nor want to talk about it. I have tried talking but he is simply not interested. Can someone please advise me my options-annullment or divorce? I feel very unjustified if I have to go through a 3 year divorce due to his non-commitment and behaiour.

2007-08-16 15:49:51 · 5 answers · asked by Ariel 1 in Marriage & Divorce