i havent seen my boyfriend in 4 weeks, sence ive been away, and i dont know what he is doing...he puts a lot of things before me, even other girls..he never calls me, i dont know what to do. keep him, or leave him. its hard, cuz i love him, but, hes sooooo two faced. i guess this is what they ment by "drama, laughs and tears, welcome to the teenage years"
2007-08-16 16:35:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's not your boyfriend.
Certainly any number of boys currently treat you better than your "boyfriend" Pick one and dump the loser.
2007-08-16 16:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by matt123169 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you just have to use your gut feeling on this one.
okay so i would suggest first that you talk to him. If hes a good boyfriend, he would be understanding and supportive of ur feelings. Howevr since im hearing that he never calls you and puts other things before you, he might not be ready for a steady relationship. Maybe you guys should just be friends. Maybe he needs to see other people. I think you should def sit down with him on night, take him to dinner, and just talk.
If you really do love him, and you are def positively sure that the feeling is mutual and he loves you back, then all you can do is trust him. Still talk to him, but dont be surprised if he gets all mad and defensive..
Now the important part:
When you talk to him: if he gets pissed of and defensive and refuses to talk about this, it usually means he's cheating and can't lie to your face. which is really bad. obviously/
If he wants to talk, and sounds like he understands, and listens patiently and hears what u have to say, it means that hes sorrry, he didnt mean to hurt you, and he was always loyal to you and will always be.. thats good.
basically, you have to think about what kind of relationship you guys have. Think about what you've done together. Think about how well he treats you. If he hasnt even called or emailed you in the past 4 weeks when you were away, hes being a bad boyfriend. There are a lot of other guys who you would be off a lot better with. Dont worry, there'll be more guys, lol. a lot more.
Personally, I think you just leave him from what you've said already. But its not up to me - its up to you.
If you want to break up with him, just explain that you think you guys both need to see other people, apologize for it not worrking out, and hope you can be friends.
I hope this helps. =]
Good luck
2007-08-16 23:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by tazmaniandevil923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you don't need this bum, if he puts other people or other things in front of your needs he will always do it. If he's not calling you 10 to 1 there's someone else. Men will come an go all through your years, just remember there's always someone better out there an don't settle for less. Always look at the guy that your thinking about dating an see why his other girlfriends left him. Cause a dog always goes back to there bad habits. An when you lay with a dog you will get up with fleas!
2007-08-16 23:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by knowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is putting other girls in front of you and not calling, then he is not thinking about you or your feelings. I think one of the keys to a loving realtionship is you think about your significant other "all the time." Obviously this is not the case with your boyfriend.
Just by you asking this question means there is no trust in your relaitonship. Without trust, a relationship CANNOT survive. I know it will be painful, but MOVE ON!!
2007-08-16 23:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by hapycyclist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have trust in a relationship..you just dont have a relationship. But its sounds like there is more going on here. Just because you love him..does not mean he returns those feelings. Sounds to me like ...he is just not that in to you!
You should be the most important girl in his life. He should call you and spend time with you. If he isnt..he's just not that in to you.
By the way if you go to a bookstore, there is a book titled..He's Just Not That in to You. It is a book that EVERY dating female should read. It is funny...accurate...truthful....and no holds barred!
2007-08-16 23:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by ruadisneyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should accept this kind of behavior from someone they love.
Because you seem to be very young, I suggest that you take some time off to reflect on this relationship.
Spend more time with friends and family who loves you.
Take one day at a time, until you find someone who will appreciate a serious, loving relationship.
2007-08-16 23:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Seeanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing where you guys were in the relationship when you left, it seems he's pulled away already.. I think you should just stop trying to figure him out. It seems he's already moved on, at least for now. You should get busy doing other things and seeing other people....Here's the thing....if you stop trying, he'll call at least once even if its just to check to see what's going on with you...
2007-08-16 23:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by eagleatlast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok for one thing you need to leave him. plus if he is hurting your feelings. also i wouldnt put up with the other girl thing. i see it like this if you dont know his female freinds then that is a problem cause you are going to be thinking is he ******* somebody else or laying up in someones bed. like me this guy im going with put me through hell and i find myself still with him but what he dont know is that im leaving him when i finish school and moving out. cause now he is treating me like crap and i found out there where girls calling him when i wasnt home. so you feel me. you dont want to stress out over him. plus when you talk to him listen out for his voice and see if it changes. also if he acts funny around you . me i check the boxers if i smell a different odor besides mines, if it nots yours then you know
2007-08-16 23:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by diamond_gold22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love a "two-faced," neglectful guy? That's not love. It's only drama if you make it so. Leave him, if you have this many doubts about him.
2007-08-16 23:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by lilyvera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a cowards way of ending a relationship.. They ignore you or do things to make you leave them so they dont feel bad.
Leave him.
2007-08-16 23:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by lovesicklust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋