I really miss his friendship and I don’t know how to get it back…?

Question

I met this boy at Uni 2 yrs ago & we became pretty good friends. I wasn't initially considering anything else but his friendship, but after a while I felt like he was showing a lot of interest & I started having feelings for him beyond friendship. I eventually told him early this year...and that's when things went off. He said he really liked me but didn't see this spark between the 2 of us. I was heart-broken, yet I couldn’t but respect his own feelings as he’d been respectful of mine (he was nearly torn apart when we talked about it, saying he didn’t know what he wanted, jst that he didn’t want to hurt me; and there’s been lots of touch & tenderness that time).
Anyway, bck then he said he wanted our friendship to continue & I believe it but now he’s become distant. We used to have fun & enjoy each other’s company so much, teasing, laughing at things and others. Now I get the feeling he’s smtimes annoyed when he sees me & though he tries to act casually, things seem forced & awkward

I don’t wanna push him or try & get close if he doesn’t want to, but I really miss his friendship & I don’t know how to get it back…

Answer 1

See the problem exsist that we right now in this day and age, don't understand human interpersonal relationships. We have all these bs terms that confuse us and make us insecure, things like soul mate, sparks, romance, true love, and other notions take away from the true nature of relationships, that there as individual as the individuals that make them, and to make EVERY person have to form there relatioship to one set path is what f's everyone up. We need relationships based on just the individuals and what they need and what they want, not what society whats from them. I feel that the factors could of came in the 3 flavors they usually do

1. Insecurities: he didn't know what to do or how to progress with you.

2. Societies expectations: Something in side his preception was tell him you were not the "right" one, see romantic notions destroing relationships.

3. Pride/heart, he did it just not to be alone, or to be love'd, but didn't know how to use it.

Ether way because were not able to make our relationships individal like the people that make them, were forced to destroy them and confrom, sorry...... it didn't have to be that way, but in the end if your a normal "healthy" individual this is part of the complex..... not good, not right, but it keeps the poplace busy chasing happiness they'll never find.