Family & Relationships - 13 August 2007

My mom is arriving soon and i'm thinking of not telling my bf, since i know that they don't like him, they told me so while he was still courting me.
And know that he's my bf, I'm afraid that when i introduce him they will try to seperate us.
Yet if i don't tell my bf that my mom would be arriving, and wouldn't be able to be introduced, he might get upset and think that i'm not that serious in him and in our relationship.
i'm confused, i just want to protect him and our relationship, yet if i do that he might not understand and get upset.
can you guys give me aan idea? please? :( thank you..

2007-08-13 16:03:36 · 14 answers · asked by butterfly1131986 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm going through a nasty legal process at the moment, and I would really like to understand what's going on. I'm trying to get away from (someone who is essentially an abusive ex) and I'm still really emotionally connected to him. I don't want to be doing this to him, but I don't have a choice anymore.

And I'd really like an idea of how he might be feeling right now...

So anyone with REAL experiences, either as the person served or a friend/relative of one...?? Please?!

2007-08-13 15:55:26 · 11 answers · asked by Callisto 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband wants to move to san diego to be near his family whom he isnt particularly emotionally close with who live north of portland or. I want to move to virginia which is only 500 miles from my family. he says it isnt fair because we have always lived closer to my family. I dont think that 960 miles away is really close enough to his family to move there. putting me a couple thousand miles from my family which is really close knit. i think it just kind of leaves us away from everyone we love. should i just give in? i just moved back to the states from following him to japan for a year.

2007-08-13 15:55:05 · 9 answers · asked by specialmama 2 in Marriage & Divorce

how do you like your women?

1. what color hair?
2. long or short hair?
3. up in a messy bun, or down and curly?
4. curly or straight hair?
5. do you like tops that show a lot of cleavage, just enough cleavage, or no cleavage?
6. do you like super-tight jeans, or just ones that fit good?
7. would you like a girl that's easy? or one that plays hard to get?
8. what's your favorite perfume scent for a girl to wear?

2007-08-13 15:53:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

jw i have so many :)

2007-08-13 15:50:24 · 15 answers · asked by ... 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

If someone asks you out and you answer with "I don't give out my phone no." but you DO give him an email is that is aYES or a NO? Or is it a maybe?

2007-08-13 15:48:56 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does anybody have a husband or boyfriend who spanks them either during sex or when you have done something wrong.

2007-08-13 15:48:13 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

ok i had sex once and im considered a slut and a guy sleeps with like 5 girls in one night and hes considered awesome how can i get through the name calling, it makes me wanna kil myself

2007-08-13 15:44:32 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

what should i do to keep my boyfriend loving me?

2007-08-13 15:42:22 · 13 answers · asked by lala 1 in Singles & Dating

How can some people(most in this case)who know eachother family,friends,bestfriends who are in relationship for years any kind of relationship family,friends just break up,move on,dont bother to maintain relationship once their work is done with you
Ive had this happen to me so many times cant keep ignoring it.

2007-08-13 15:42:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have seen police officers,counslers and more. i was just wondering for fun what is everyones living? what do you do?
my husband is going to school for accounting and im a home mom. for now tell i go to school. ;)

2007-08-13 15:41:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm very smart, but I don't look nerdy or anything, do guys like that?

2007-08-13 15:41:42 · 13 answers · asked by Constantine 2 in Singles & Dating

I am divorced and I know my ex will not consent to me moving our child out of state. We live in Missouri, and I want to move to Georgia with my boyfriend. I want to move to primarily get away from all the worries I have here with my ex-husband constantly trying to control our lives, even though we have been divorced 2 years now. In our divorce papers, in the parenting plan, it says I have to have written consent from him to move our daughter out of state. Well, he will not consent, so do I have to go to court and if so what do I need to prepare myself for? Is there any chance the judge would say I can't move with her? He does have a long history of DWIs and drug position, would any of this past be helpful to me moving from him? If we have to go to court, what should I expect to have to change as far as visitation rights and child support, etc? Thanks to anyone who has any answers to help me!

2007-08-13 15:41:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok. my couson (who's 16) started acting very strangely around me starting about 6 months ago. He has called me 'hot' and when he walked past me he brushed his hand over my shoulder. I found this very strange. I don't like him at all (like that) and have told him several times that i have a boyfriend. I even introduced him to my bf. Do you guys think this is anything more then being friendly??
oh, in case this helps, im 13.

2007-08-13 15:40:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

And when you try to talk to the ones you think will be there to listen they only criticize you & every one around you. For instance, my son is making some bad decisions about college & marriage at a young age. His dad has given him nothing but hell & my current husband just keeps calling him an idiot! My youngest son has a condition called encopresis, which would take a lot to explain, but basically he poops his pants several times a day because this condition causes you to loose control over your bowels. I've taken him to dr after dr & have talked to 2 specialists, but am having no luck yet! It's a very complex problem with a long treatment for recovery. Sometimes his pants are so full that he literally has to crawl to the bathroom & I have to clean him off in the tub because it's so much! I want to home school him until I get him "cured," but also have no support for that! I am the one who sees how embarrassed my son is when it happens! I am the one who cleans him!

2007-08-13 15:38:09 · 14 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My friend's mom is in the hospital, very sick, battling breast cancer, & the doctors found out too late that she had cancer, & they said the cancer is spreading rapidly all over her body. She's expected to have less than a week to live, & my friend is sad, depressed, & crying a lot & doesn't wanna be bothered with anyone-not even me! I understand how she feels, though. Breast cancer runs in her family, & she had a 17-yr. old sister who died from it last year.

2007-08-13 15:36:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

the fragility of human life?

i lost an uncle in april. i wasnt that close to him then - there's something weird about teens - but i know i would have been very tight with him if i werent a teen..

and then im so afraid i'd lose my granparents cos they seem to slip further back track since they lost their favourite son. they'r really depressed. and i cant help feeling depressed when i see them depressed.. i love them but i dont know how to express myself, and im afraid i'd lose them too. they'r both in their 70s. and they were and still are living in that deceased favourite son's house.

and it doesnt help that my gran loves to hoard things (they were poor in the past) and that my mum throws away her things. my gran is now angry with my mum cos she just had an expensive bar of soap bought from japan, thrown away by my mum.

2007-08-13 15:34:10 · 7 answers · asked by nobodyknowsme™ 5 in Family

there was a guy stareing at you from a far wat does that meen.

2007-08-13 15:33:47 · 13 answers · asked by shianne 1 in Singles & Dating

He's been thinking in about giving his rights up. Ok my question is can she come back and get him for child support if he signs his rights over? Only serious answers please i dont have time for someone to be an asshole on here thanks

2007-08-13 15:32:09 · 25 answers · asked by armywife063006 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. We have both been married before and are in our late 30s/early 40s. We have talked (and talked, and talked) about marriage. He knows I want to get married again and have children. He says that he would like to have more children (he was one). We love each other and have felt a high level of comfort since day one. To make matters worse, we are in a long-distance relationship.

I am preparing to move to the next phase of my life, which includes marriage and kids. I will not give him an ultimatum, but I'd like to let him know that I have to move forward if I expect to still have children.

Q: Do I tell him that I'll be moving forward? Or do I move forward and let him figure it out. I don't want him to feel that it is an ultimatum, because in the end, it's not about him. It's about what I want in my life. Appreciate any comments.

2007-08-13 15:27:10 · 13 answers · asked by Kay 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been trying forever. I become extremely nervous. I have had panic attacks.

Once upon a time, I was accused of (but not terminated for, no grounds) sexual harassment. It has been obsessing me since. Whenever I talk to any women at work, I become very paranoid and nervous. I can't make the thoughts stop. I have been punishing myself for 10 years so far.

2007-08-13 15:25:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

First I will start by saying I am in a very happy marriage, I have no problem with what I am about to ask, I love my husband and I know he loves me. So here it goes.

Recently I have been getting some "comments" about my husband's parenting skills from my family. He works out of town 5 days a week and is home on weekends. He works his a** off to take care of his family. When he comes home he is exhausted from working 18 hours a day, so he is always tired. We have an 8 month old baby a 10yr old and an 8yr old. I am a stay at home mom and take care of the kids all the time. so when he is home he does not have the energy to play with the kids or to help take care of them. This being the problem with my family. they say he does not spend enough time with the kids. I understand he is tired from working and needs to come home and relax but my family thinks he should do more.

He helps out with cooking when he is here and laundry etc.. once he has had time to sleep. Is this ok?

2007-08-13 15:24:18 · 19 answers · asked by prettyrockangel 3 in Marriage & Divorce

So I've been going out with this guy for about a month befour school started he told me he wanted to stay with me forever, and that it was up to be to decided if we wanted to break up or not cause he told me he'd never break up with me.. school stared today and he and a friend goes to the same school I asked him how was his day and was he messing around with any girls.. then his friend (doesnt like me ) told me they saw all sorts of fine girls and things like that my boyfriend didnt say anything.. I was over at my dads house getting some stuff and I felt like he was being different he didnt call me baby or nothing maybe it cause it was my brother was over there but when my friend is around he doesnt seem to mind. He seems kind of different.. Do u think he maybe hes got his eyes on another girl? or is it my brother? whats wrong with him?

2007-08-13 15:24:11 · 2 answers · asked by Pookie! 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

What credentials do you need? What organizations should I look to join?

2007-08-13 15:19:22 · 4 answers · asked by lovebluenfluff 3 in Weddings

I am getting married in February and am looking for a church to have the ceremony at. I am looking for something really pretty and reasonable in cost. I do not even know where to begin to look. We looked at Eliot Chapel in Kirkwood but they wanted almost $1200 and I thought that was a bit too much. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

2007-08-13 15:17:03 · 5 answers · asked by helpme 2 in Weddings

How old were you when you had your first girlfriend? I'm really nice but I don't really talk to girls at school or have any girls as friends. But I want a girlfriend? Is this sad? Or do I have nothing to worry about. I don't want to die a virgin!!

2007-08-13 15:15:18 · 22 answers · asked by Wizard lvl 99 2 in Singles & Dating

ie: pouting to get his way, doing spiteful things in retaliation for suggestions to get things done around the house, etc. should i give him a clonk with the rolling pin?

2007-08-13 15:12:38 · 51 answers · asked by Wrong number 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my bf thinking to get married asap. The thing is we dont really know where to get married at. I want to get married in his country which in Europe but I dont know who I need to contact for a wedding planner there and what things I need to do here while I am in the States. I am so blind, don't know what I need to do first. It's not gonna be a big wedding but enough to celebrate among our family and close friends. Should I buy a wedding gown or rent it? my budget is kinda tight too? do people actually get a loan to plan a wedding, so they can have the wedding they want? do you guys have any idea? is there any website I can go to? thanks!

2007-08-13 15:10:44 · 6 answers · asked by sweetcherry 2 in Weddings

She's had primary custody of our son and I pay court-ordered child support and have ample visitation rights. She has agreed not to contest the divorce because we both have moved on. We want this over as quickly as possible. Plus I have been living in California the past 6 yrs. We are both from the state of Ohio and we got married there. We were separated before the birth of our son, but tests have concluded the he is mine and as I said earlier, I do pay court-ordered child support and I have visitation rights. So we agreed to a quick, low-cost solution.

2007-08-13 15:10:32 · 8 answers · asked by Da Dark Knight 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If she enjoys someone's attention, love, and care, but at the same time constantly in the cycle of rejecting and being denail of having any feelings toward that person. Does it mean she is confused? Is that possible that one person needs to be loved but don't feel giving love in return in the long run, or love lies in her superconcious?

2007-08-13 15:03:45 · 4 answers · asked by Caring Girl 2 in Singles & Dating