ie: pouting to get his way, doing spiteful things in retaliation for suggestions to get things done around the house, etc. should i give him a clonk with the rolling pin?
2007-08-13 15:12:38 · 51 answers · asked by Wrong number 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
defintitely get out the frying pan and slam him upside the head.
2007-08-13 15:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by bubba 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Well, judging by your pic, you don't take your self serious either. Maybe the problem is he doesn't know when the joking ends.
Sorry but this is a straight answer. It's fun to be funny sometimes but taking things serious is important. People need to know where your coming from.
Me and my wife sit down and talk about things every Monday. We talk about how we can improve and what is right and what is wrong. We also have a date night. These two things are vital to our companionship.
Also you need to establish a task sheet. Tell him what you will do and ask if he will help with A B and C.
This may sound childish but if your fighting it's a way to sort things out.
Once you establish a pattern then do away with the task sheet.
There is nothing wrong with order in the house. Just say you are practising being a family so you can set a good example for the kids some day.
2007-08-13 15:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever he's doing. If you're sitting down on the couch and you want to watch your channel, start to pout. Have a complete mental breakdown. Go way over the top with it. If he gets confused, simply remind him, "That's how I feel you reacted when ---- happened." Be sure to say it calmly, clearly, and absolutely enter "I feel" in to the sentence. Make sure it's a time that you can both talk for a while and no distractions are lurking around. Don't yell, don't attack each other, just explain to him why you did what you did and how it makes you feel so angry that he does the same thing.
2007-08-13 15:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by eamc55 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutely clonk him with the rolling pin.
Hey mine also acts like a kid. He's a 61 year old kid. And you know I wouldn't change a single thing about him at all.
He acts his age when he needs to. But for the most part at home. He's a kid at heart.
2007-08-13 15:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him like a child, but without the violence--that could lead to worse things, and is not the answer. Give him time-outs, where he probably will not quietly sit in a corner, but you can totally ignore him...in another room, if you have to. Remove whatever allowance and or privileges he receives. Be creative, and tell him just why you are doing these things: because he is acting like a child, and it will not pay off with you. If he doesn't believe you, share his behavior with someone he looks up to and trust; let THEM give feedback to him on his behavior!
2007-08-13 15:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh girl, I have been there! While nothing would make you feel quite as good as knockin him out, be very careful how you react to his actions.
I was married for 8 years to a man that pouted when he didnt get his way and generally manipulated me to get exactly what he wanted! I started treating him like a child, and he starting treating me like his mother - complete with rebellion. WELLL.. our relationship went downhill from there because it started to really effect our sex life (who wants to have sex with a woman that treats him like a child???) We ended up getting a divorce that could have been avoided.
My advice is to talk to him - AS AN ADULT. i know you want to talk down to him because he's acting like a kid, but DONT. You have to talk some sense in him, while respecting him as a man. If you talk down to him he will see you as a "MOM" figure and it could potentially ruin your marriage.
Good luck, I know how you feel! R
2007-08-13 15:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by ronnad1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the priority is a mutual one. increasingly extra adult adult males do no longer understand a thank you to act like females and adult adult males human beings have forgotten what it is to be a womanly. Then whilst they get married they wind as 2 egocentric harm brats sharing a mattress collectively yet no longer plenty else. at last, they procreate passing their dysfunctionality directly to their little ones. it is been occurring for countless years so now society is in a real mess (no longer that it wasn't until eventually now).
2016-10-02 06:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. You two need to discuss both of your actions like civilized people. Fighting and bickering and getting divorces because you won't communicate are silly! Tell him how it makes you feel when he acts this way and try to work things out without violence. Nothing will get done if you do not communicate.
2007-08-13 18:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an adult and should be treated as one, but he also needds to act like one. Sit him down and let him know u feel he is acting childish and that it is putting a damper on ur marraige.
If u treat him like a child it could make things worse. Believe me I tried that. And I tried being pushy, neither works. You can only talk to him. And if it doesn't get better maybe he needs to see a shrink. Maybe couples sessions. It couldn't hurt in any case.
2007-08-13 15:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Enamorada♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has some control issues and that he's very immature.You need to sit him down and discuss with him,and let him know that the world doesn't revolve around him,and that you're not going to stand for this.
2007-08-13 15:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Babylove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a child
or go on strike quit doing everything around the house until he helps out let the dishes pile up when he runs out of clean clothes he will help out if you
2007-08-13 15:22:20 · answer #11 · answered by bethpihlaja 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋