have you become aware of human mortality?

Question

the fragility of human life?

i lost an uncle in april. i wasnt that close to him then - there's something weird about teens - but i know i would have been very tight with him if i werent a teen..

and then im so afraid i'd lose my granparents cos they seem to slip further back track since they lost their favourite son. they'r really depressed. and i cant help feeling depressed when i see them depressed.. i love them but i dont know how to express myself, and im afraid i'd lose them too. they'r both in their 70s. and they were and still are living in that deceased favourite son's house.

and it doesnt help that my gran loves to hoard things (they were poor in the past) and that my mum throws away her things. my gran is now angry with my mum cos she just had an expensive bar of soap bought from japan, thrown away by my mum.

souldogs:
that's sad. i know if i were you i'd be in a dilemma whether or not to accept the apology. on one hand, accepting would make her feel at least 'rested' in that sense, but accepting her apology would seem to me that i'm admitting she's 'not a good mum'. not accepting it.. would seem selfish somehow too.. cos she might feel that you still hold grudges ..

jcf6865:
my granparents have their own house (the one they'v been living in since 50 years ago) but they moved to my uncle's house cos my granpa has mobility problems, and my granma house-hops sometimes, but often remains at that uncle's house. they had been staying there for about 1 year plus before my uncle died.

Answer 1

Sounds like you are well ahead of most people in this regard. All you can do is the best you can.

When my mother was dying of cancer, she called me to apologize for ways in which she wasn't the best mom.

I wouldn't let her apologize, told her she was fine, and that my problems were my own fault.

It wasn't until years later that I realized that not accepting her apology was so selfish of me.

I can't beat myself up over it, some people would never realize something like this. All I can do now is accept her apology in my heart, and know that she wanted my life to be better.

Answer 2

I became aware of mortality when my son died it was a very sad period of my life. A son dieing before his time is a waste of a good man...At least he would have been...A death isn't easy to over come it takes time, a grieving period that may last awhile. Just be there for those who are having a hard time. Its amazing what love can do...Don't worry so much about the small stuff..like the soap...everyone is on edge now it not easy to lose a child no matter what age, its still your child....Good luck it will pass blessed be

Answer 3

the only creatures that are attentive to thier mortality are those with a feeling of right and incorrect. Concience got here into lifestyles while the human concepts grew sufficiently great to appreciate a logical theory technique and subsequently grew to alter into 'self conscious'. Self expertise introduced approximately many ideals after that.. which incorporate faith.

Answer 4

I became aware when I was 16 and my little sister died. It's scary to think about how sudden it can happen, one minute you're happy then you get the news someone you love has died and your world changes. Give your grandparents time to adjust. I can't imagine anything worse than losing a child, no matter what their age. I think in time having your uncles things around and living in his house will give them comfort, help them to remember. Maybe you can talk to them about funny things he did or said, help replace sad memories with good thoughts.

Answer 5

sound like a lack of communication, how about asking your grands how are they doing then ask if you could talk freely and open to them tell them your feelings about your uncle the way you told us and then let them know how much you love them and this is for you sometimes death come early to some people but God did promise us 70 years so anything over that it a extra blessing. we all must take that lone ride someday and the thing is did you give them flowers while they are alive( i love you,is there anything you need,can i sit with you) are you going to wait until they are gone to take flowers to a graveyard where flowers don't mean a thing to the one you give them to

Answer 6

Do your Grandparents have to live in your deceased Uncle's house? It is beyond difficult for parents to have to bury their child, but to continue to live in his home with the constant reminders of his life, would make depression even deeper. If at all possible, encourage them to move into their own home.

Answer 7

I really became aware about 11 years ago. I had severe medical problems and was pronounced dead twice. Since then I have had a kidney and pancreas transplant and every day is a blessing that I cherrish.