My friend's mom is in the hospital, very sick, battling breast cancer, & the doctors found out too late that she had cancer, & they said the cancer is spreading rapidly all over her body. She's expected to have less than a week to live, & my friend is sad, depressed, & crying a lot & doesn't wanna be bothered with anyone-not even me! I understand how she feels, though. Breast cancer runs in her family, & she had a 17-yr. old sister who died from it last year.
2007-08-13 15:36:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
***Sorry, her sister was 20 when she died & 17 when I met her.
2007-08-13 15:37:46 · update #1
yes it is possible and unfortunately she will grieve not only for her mom & sister but for herself too ... she probably feels as if she's next .. so she'll push you aside so you don't get to close and hurt when she passes.
Be there for your friend, tell her that your there and if she needs to talk ... that you won't leave her side and that she can cry on your shoulder.
Be a good friend ... don't give up ... and make sure she gets checked by a dr soon ... do it together so that you can both expirience the same thing ... and she'll know you care
2007-08-13 15:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by emnari 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It makes you feel very sad and very helpless because there is nothing you can do to help them.
Your friend is going to go through a very hard time and will have many emotional stages in her life for awhile.
All you can do is let her know you are there for her whenever,wherever,day or night.Good you understand how she feels about not wanting to be around anyone right now.She is such a turmoil and her mind is spinning in a hundred different directions.
Don't pressure her.Just be there when she needs you and trust me,she will.Sounds as though you have a good broad shoulder for her to cry on and you sound like a great friend.She's really gonna need that.
I'll be praying for her and her family.
2007-08-13 22:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you certainly can experience grief before someone dies. I grieved the last several weeks of my Dad's life. When he finally went, I was relieved because he was no longer in pain. I am sure it is hard for your friend to see her mom in pain. Just let her know you will be there when she wants you and that you will give her as much time as she needs. Tell her from me that I am very sorry for her and her entire family.
2007-08-14 01:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for your friend she is going through a tough time and it is going to get much worse before it gets better. Yes you can experience grief before the loved one dies especially when that death is so eminent. she might not want anyone around but you should keep letting her know you are there for her. you can be with her and just not talk if that is what she wants but try to get her not to isolate herself, it is a tendency at such times and it is also the worst thing for her. She will need her good friends going forward, be there for her.
2007-08-13 22:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe so. But this poor woman is also stressed from worrying and wondering, maybe blaming herself, who knows what emotions she's going through. You can be a good friend to her by being there for her now and standing by her through this thing. You don't have to be pushy, but don't forget her either. There's really nothing we can say, just say you are sorry and offer to do specific things that you know needs to be done.
2007-08-13 22:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Darby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many of us grieve before the death. There are stages in the dying process we all go through.
I am so sorry for your friend and her Mom.
2007-08-13 23:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can feel grief before someone dies because you know that a person is dying and that you cant do anything to help him or her.
2007-08-13 22:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im grieving now for my mother
2007-08-13 23:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwww sweety. i feel sooooooooo bad 4 u!!!!!!!! ⥠please tell her that i will pray 4 her {even no idk who u r!!}
2007-08-13 22:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋