Family & Relationships - 11 August 2007

Why Why Why? someone please just tell me WHY??? i would like to know the answer to such a general question, one asked everyday by people like me..... Why?

2007-08-11 12:37:06 · 22 answers · asked by MysteryGirl 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-11 12:37:04 · 35 answers · asked by ragincajun87123 2 in Weddings

today I had a very close person come into my work and they were so heartbroken that it killed me... A very close family member to them decided that since their life was not going the way they wanted (free ride) that they would call other family members to let them know that nobody cared and nobody would help and that she/he was homeless and that her parents would not even help them.. Okay so this very close family member and the heartbroken person are mother and daughter... So..... they were looking for donations from others in their family b/c their parents would not help them.. this is so far from the truth.. and are we suppose to enable one who won't even try and fix their life.. hell, are we suppose to help one that majority of the time does not even appreciate the love and help they receive from family and friends? we all have hard times and we do our best to get through them however, some of us feel that it is better to make up stories and hurt the ones who would die for them or die for their children....all that because they are hoping for the wrong attention and help.. **** it is not just about the wrong attention..it is attention under false pretenses...back to the hard times.....that ALL of us have and will go through at some time in our life... as in, not having a job or loosing a job...not being able to pay bills...not having somebody to hold....and love....loosing a dear one.. the list could go on.. hard times are diifferent for each and every one of us.... okay.. we get to these hard times some how.... there is a root to all of are issues that we come across in our lives...so... (please understand, I hate bringing up somebodys dirt in their lives but yet some people need to know about others issues b/c it effects some many people) This person had a job (I wanna say full time and okay money) Their "spouse" ( I say this b/c they have lived and acted as a couple with a child together, playing house as my father has called it--maybe not towards them but he has used this saying--) was not working the whole time but yet he did occasionally...I am a witness to her telling him that he needed to be home b/c a sitter was needed for the smaller child they had together and her older son...to each his own... but they moved and then roughly four months later they are having to go to court b/c they were getting evicted...I have had a hard time where yes I had to be late with rent, but nobody is perfect and we are all not rich...or have what you call "bills" and something that occurs in our life, the "hard times"....Okay, her "spouse" informs all that this eviction was not over one month, not two months but 3.....Well, typically when one moves in a new place they pay a deposit and first months rent..which equals ----they in a sense skipped out on their first month payment... and second.. you know... both pretty much working at this time, crud---getting help from the state for food, child support... only bills they have are rent, utilities and living money... why could they not make these monthly rent payments or why are they soooo... behind....?? she has fake chop shop nails, getting her hair done.....bingo, Wal-mart and making trips to the beach and staying over night (hello hotel bill)....she then decides to pull a stunt that helps her get domestic abuse assistance.....b/c she was kicked out and no where to go...he "goes" away and she ends up in a hotel.. last I heard enjoy the pool and having little barb-q's with her friend who got escorted off with a restraing order who is staying in the same hotel as the husband who pays for his own rent and her hotel, yet the state helps these false people too? Point there, birds of a feather flock together.....well, we probably all in this "situration" would run out of our chance at this free and fun ride....She knows her parents are dis-appointed with majority of her choices in life...family has offered to help by taking her children and allowing them to stay in their home..it would be so much better then a hotel....yes, she would have to fend for herself, but this is what she caused.. she is not the nicest person and again, she laughs at how she has had this free ride..she thinks it is sooo..cool..and again she is very mean...so no, family and friends won't allow her but will open their doors for these babys of hers....that to me is very big of these ones with open arms...she doesn't take those offers and gets sick of probably bouncing or like I said prior, her free ride with the domestic abuse assistance has run out..she turns to her fathers side of the family....tells stories and hurts those ones who have tried....some of these family members reacted before thinking about her track record (of it all in whole and that she tends to lie)... that is when my MOTHER gets a horrible horrible message from her brother in law and all the message does is tear her and my father apart.... this sucks... however, he was the bigger person and spoke with my ma and told her how sorry he was.. the damage control though was not just this family member but so many others...I don't get it...Who is going to call those people and set this straight? My mother feels she does not need to explain herself..but it hurts me so much knowing that somebody has told such horrible and untrue things (she is freaking ungrateful) about my best friend (my madre).... I am angry and I don't understand why her own child could tell such horrible things... why does she want to hurt her and others in her family?? her parents for godsake.... this is very long and this is not even half of the full story...but I just had to get it off my mind by laying it out for all.. I did say at the beginning that some people need to be exsposed of their true nature..b/c they have so many people fooled that it makes me sick..I am sure that a lot of people on my friends list have fallen victim to her hatefullness in someway somehow....hell, there are some of you on there that she has told untruthfull things about.. trying to make herself look better.. hurts but this is called liers and I hate that more then anythings... Lets be honest.... Also, I need advice... I feel my parents need "justice" and therefore I feel she should be confronted and told that she better make some life changes because she is going to get the help she needs so badly but not the way she wants it.. her story is out and others soon will not think "oh poor girl".. they will think F#%K THIS, what about the children...????
Again, length.. so sorry but I had to get it out... the bounciness of it, so sorry but my thoughts of this person just all come out.....at once...
thanks for whoever takes the time to read this..

2007-08-11 12:35:43 · 4 answers · asked by dillardeliza2000@verizon.net 2 in Family

I need or would like some advice on situation. How would you bring up or discuss the fact that you are on your period when he wants to have sex. We have been dating a month now and this hasnt been a problem before. But now our relationship has progressed and we have talked about making love. But I am just very shy or backwards when it come to talking to about this. I would really like some suggestions or idea on how to bring up the subject and not sound so stupid. I know this will be a monthly occurance. So what other options do you have at this time of the month when your partner want to havesex. Just give me some ideas. So I get more comfortable with the subject. Thank you very much.

2007-08-11 12:33:42 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-11 12:33:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-11 12:32:48 · 12 answers · asked by MOOSE 2 in Singles & Dating

-He asked me out
-i said no, but it was ok if we were friends
- like 4 days later he asks me to go swimming with him, i remind him i just want to be friends, then heacts really inmature
-two days after that , he calls me twice
-after that, he asks me to the movies, i say NO AGAIN


i have told him sooo many times i just want to be friends!!!!

any advice!?!?!i really need some

2007-08-11 12:30:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok...im 13 and my mom did a drug overdose wen i was 3 my dad was recently married then divored. he has now moved his high school sweetheart in with us and i do not like her. she is soo mean to me gives me dirty looks and if my dad says i am allowed to do something [go hang out with friends use the phone ect] she almost always convinces him that im not allowed. she also does the same thing to my sister who is 16. her and my dad get into fights a lot and she always says she moving back to michigan [we live in fl] ive talked to my dad about it and he says thats shes staying. then she found out and told me "im not going anywhere" they both drink. she drinks beer so she doesnt get drunk as fast. but my dad drinks vodka in huge glases so hes prety quick. i dont want her to stay with us because i really do hate her. how can i try and fix it? oh and she always says i have an attitude wen i dont and wen she says that it gives me one and i get grounded. and she lies to my dad to get me grounded

2007-08-11 12:30:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We've been friends for years, but I was totally in love with her when we get to know each other and I've told her later that I had this weird crush, although not anymore (well, I still have some weird longing for her) and she was totally ok with it.

So we were clubbing and I met up with this other old friend and had a nice chat, but my ''crush'' took an instant dislike on my other friend and started acting really flirty with me, we always have this fun flirt going on, but now she flirted constantly to get my attention and even after my friend had left my ''crush'' kept on flirting like crazy!

She has a girlfriend and she's no cheating type and I suspect she may have had some feelings for me too back in the day, but not anymore, so what the hell was up with that?!! Was she just jealous of me having other friends and knew she'd get my attention by flirting or does she see me with more affection compared to other friends, but not necessarily like me romantically?
We're both girls btw.

2007-08-11 12:25:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-08-11 12:23:06 · 7 answers · asked by maganacm 1 in Marriage & Divorce

There is a lot of guys like me. Even I never met them before(they're not even in my class, they just see me in hallways), they still want to talk and ask me out. The reason I feel bad is that I can't return their love and I really don't want to reject them. So I keep ignoring them---> this is bad, I know. Then another problem occured. Other girls think that I'm too cocky because I keep ignoring those boys. And the funny thing is that I dont even know who they are. They have a bad attitude at me. They keep saying that I'm a whore behind my back---> and i hate it.

My friends like to hang out with me because I always be a good friend to them. But to other people who dont even know me, they keep making me feel bad just because of that stupid reason. What can I do? I think I should ignore them but it's really difficult for me.

If you dont like the way I say in here, please forgive. I just want to ask everyone to help me solve this problem.

2007-08-11 12:17:33 · 15 answers · asked by ☆Im_not_myself_today☆ 1 in Friends

ok i have finally got my wish to go to Mexico for a holiday in September ... My co worker who is Mexican is also travelling with me ...

He keeps going on about some Donkey show .. but wont tell me more about it ...

just says it is facinating ...

What is it??

2007-08-11 12:14:04 · 10 answers · asked by Chigzy D 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

If she has kids, I don't want to be an uncle.

2007-08-11 12:12:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

if a boy is known as a flirt, would he most likely stay a flirt when he has a girl friend?

2007-08-11 12:11:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Because we all know guys do.

2007-08-11 12:10:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a dozen or so women that I maintain friendly contact with (this is very much non-sexual) and the last few months all of them, and I do mean all of them, have just stopped calling me. This ranges from women I work with to relatives, and I have no clue what is going on. Do women commonly do this? I know that women always complain that men never call, but now these friends and relatives of mine never ever return phone calls. What's going on?

2007-08-11 12:09:12 · 4 answers · asked by John B 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

Alot of you asked how old this girl is,, She's 23, she and her "wife", yes, I said wife live here with us. He and I have been together 7 years and she hates her "real mom"..

I have 8 days till the wedding and she came to me crying.. Timmed it just right so that her father would be walking in the door from work just about the time we really got into the converstation. We are only having about 30 guests, and it's in Reno, NV on a Monday.. I'm not so upset that she wanted to be in the wedding as I am at the way she went about it. With her father walking in the door, seeing her all water works up and running and me sitting there wondering what the heck to do. Dad just shrugged his shoulders and made his way to the kitchen. What was I to do.. I told her to go buy a dress and she could be the 3rd brides maid.. Now,, I have to find another guy to be in the wedding or she will be walking by herself,, oh and don't forget, we leave THIS SUNDAY and the wedding is the following day

2007-08-11 12:07:38 · 12 answers · asked by lo_bug@sbcglobal.net 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am getting married in October and my fiance and I want to have two songs. One song he picks out for me , about me, and one song I pick out for him, about him. does anyone have any suggestions of a song for a man they love?

2007-08-11 12:07:08 · 13 answers · asked by Candice R 1 in Weddings

How to get to be friends with guys?
im a freshman this year and i usually start to be friendas with guys because i will have a seat next to them in class. but i have no luck this year i dont sit next to any. and i have totally losat touch with any that i spoke to last year. i guess im just not good with guys. im not really looking for a bf i just want to have some good guy friends. how to i get to hanging with soem with out just going up to random guys and be like hey how are you cuz that doesnt go in highschool real well. and once i am hanging with guys what in a personality would they look for to want to actually come and hang with me more. just generally.

2007-08-11 12:06:35 · 4 answers · asked by Autumn 1 in Singles & Dating

My daughter just told us that she is pregnant (she is 21 and not married) but she wants to do the whole formal church wedding thing after the baby is born, and of course she wants us to pay for it. How much should we give her. While we are not on poverty row, we don't have a ton of money either. I've been thinking of just giving her $5,000 and being done with it. Is that too much? Too little? Oh, and she wants to get married 3,000 miles away where it will be almost impossible to have family attend. We do have a good relationship, but this is very frustrating for me.

2007-08-11 12:05:39 · 11 answers · asked by John B 7 in Family

can you tell me some moves on flirting? i cant flirt, i suck at this. every time i like a girl, i cant go to her!!!! please help!!!!!!

2007-08-11 12:05:08 · 14 answers · asked by stayright 1 in Singles & Dating

In other words, he feels he doesnt deserve what he wants.

2007-08-11 12:04:42 · 16 answers · asked by Count DiMera 2 in Singles & Dating

We have been married 4 years and separated for 3 of them. He told me he wanted a divorce 3 years ago and still hasn't filed. He still tells me he loves me and still spends time with me, but wants to be alone more often than together. I don't want a divorce, but think that is the only way to get him to see I have had enough. I need some suggestions on what to do. I am still in love with him and still want to be with him.

2007-08-11 12:03:55 · 13 answers · asked by batty76117@sbcglobal.net 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What is the average time a man lasts making love (in the actual act of penetrative sex) before ejaculating?usually?im not looking for any world records lol......

2007-08-11 12:02:48 · 13 answers · asked by wooowooow 1 in Singles & Dating

I went to lunch with a friend, we had a very intimate conversation, I could picture him without pants. Is this considered cheating?

2007-08-11 12:02:37 · 35 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4 in Marriage & Divorce

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oh, i hope not...

2007-08-11 12:02:16 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm with this guy but everything we argue i'm the one who has to make up with him because he says im the one who always argues with him. Well i;m not going to lie but i feel like i'm the one who does everything but he dosent do anything he always expects me to do everything. I know he loves me because his be there for me but how could i tell him how i feel but we don't end up arguing about me telling him that i think he dosen't do anything to for our relationship.

2007-08-11 12:02:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been dating this one guy since wednesday and for some reason he has started saying that he loves me. how do i tell him that he is going to fast without implying that i dont love him

2007-08-11 12:02:02 · 17 answers · asked by only me 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife told me yesterday that she's been having sexual fantasies about a guy she works with. While I trust her, should I be concerned or is this a natural sort of a thing and I should be confident and happy she is so open with me?

2007-08-11 11:59:39 · 6 answers · asked by John B 7 in Marriage & Divorce

He doesn't come home for days at a time. He smells like perfume and whiskey when he does. I found someone elses panites in our truck (he said they were his nieces), he has secret cell phone conversations and he is planning a trip to Europe without me. Should I be concerned?

2007-08-11 11:58:32 · 21 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4 in Marriage & Divorce