PLEASE HELP !!! Don't laugh. I need some advice.I am not sure what or how to say something .?

Question

I need or would like some advice on situation. How would you bring up or discuss the fact that you are on your period when he wants to have sex. We have been dating a month now and this hasnt been a problem before. But now our relationship has progressed and we have talked about making love. But I am just very shy or backwards when it come to talking to about this. I would really like some suggestions or idea on how to bring up the subject and not sound so stupid. I know this will be a monthly occurance. So what other options do you have at this time of the month when your partner want to havesex. Just give me some ideas. So I get more comfortable with the subject. Thank you very much.

Answer 1

Let me see - you are planning to get naked, roll around in each other's sweat, make low grunting noises, scream in ectasy when he brings you to climax, but you are afraid to tell him "Whoops - the moon isn't in the right phrase tonight; let's hold off for four days."

If he is old enough to have sex, he should know about periods. If you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to talk about body functions with him.

Your options are
1) Put it off entirely.
2) Limit yourself to snuggling.
3) Offer him oral sex in return for he giving you a foot rub and back massage.
4) Put a really thick towel down and do it anyway, then shower together.

Answer 2

I think you just have to answer honestly if he asks for sex whilst you're on - if you make up some other excuse he may get suspicious or think that its a problem with him. Men have to realise its part of being a woman - its not really an embarassing thing once you've said it for the first time, though i can see why its a bit daunting for you. Try 'I'm sorry, nows not the best time..you know, that time of the month.' He'll understand. You can still play around and 'keep him occupied', if you like, just can't have sex. Its not that big of a deal.

Answer 3

No one laughs at stuff like this.
Just tell him the truth. He will understand as all women who haven't had a hystroectimy have a monthly period, its nature. He will not think u sound, and i hate this word, stupid if u just tell him something like, look hon, i would really like to but unfortunately its my time of the month, I'm sure u understand and it'll b over soon.
Other options may b 2 perform oral on him if u choose. One of my ex's just perferred cuddling during this time, and I completely understood that. Remember, sex does not make the relationship nor is it constantly necessary in it, its a beautiful byproduct of it.
Good luck and GOD bless.

Answer 4

Just tell him that now is not a very good time, if he insists on knowing the reason, just tell him straight out. Or you could tell him plainly that you are not ready. Either way, if he is a matured person he will know that menstruation is a very normal thing and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having one.

I know its none of my business but isn't a month a little too early? You should really think about this before you go on.

Take care

Answer 5

You just say - You could start the date by saying - I'm a little crampy right now. He will know what that means and if he diesn't he will ask you why. You can tell him it is that time of the month. He might not make advances that night. If he does, just say you are uncomfortable. You can say - we can still kiss and fool around but you don't think you want to do more than that. I have sex on my period all the time by the way. Everybody I know does. But its OK if you are not. If you are mature enough to have sex, you have to be mature enough to talk about your body.

Answer 6

I hate to be "one of those people" but unless you are comfortable enough to mention things like this with him, I'm not sure you're ready for sex. When I'm getting my period, I simply tell my boyfriend, he says "Awww" and thats the end of it. Then, I will usually try to initiate sex when it's over, to let him know it's over. But if you're positive you want to have sex you could try something like this:
While flirting or messing around say "You know what we discusses last week, about going a bit further? Well, this week it won't really be possible for me, if you know what I mean." Nervous giggle. Good luck.

Answer 7

Just be honest. If you plan to become intimate with a partner, the least you could do is talk about it with them. Let them know what is going on. Believe it or not, guys know that this happends to women. If you are not comfortable talking about sex with your partner, then it is a sure sign it is too early in the relationship for it.

Answer 8

How old are you? It sounds like you are too young to be having sex in the first place. Look,if you can't even discuss your periods, how are you going to discuss the need for condoms and the possibility of a pregnancy? Are you ready to be a mother? What will you tell your parents?

Answer 9

In all honesty, if you cannot discuss this with a partner, than you're not ready to have sex with him. It's common knowledge that all women have periods and if you can't talk about this, how will you talk about HIV/AIDS testing, testing for other STIs and the use of condoms? Remember that you're not just talking about sex, you're talking about your well-being and if you need more time to be comfortable talking about your period with someone and they really care about you, they'll wait for you.

Answer 10

First of all, how do YOU feel about having your period and sex? IF you feel that having sex during your period is okay, then tell him it's the time of the month for you, and it's up to him if he want to do it or not. But if you don't feel like having sex while having your period, then tell him it's the time of the month for you and you are not in a position to feel comfortable to have sex. Afterall, if you are an adult, it's your body, do as you please, BUT with respect, and you're welcome.