There is a lot of guys like me. Even I never met them before(they're not even in my class, they just see me in hallways), they still want to talk and ask me out. The reason I feel bad is that I can't return their love and I really don't want to reject them. So I keep ignoring them---> this is bad, I know. Then another problem occured. Other girls think that I'm too cocky because I keep ignoring those boys. And the funny thing is that I dont even know who they are. They have a bad attitude at me. They keep saying that I'm a whore behind my back---> and i hate it.
My friends like to hang out with me because I always be a good friend to them. But to other people who dont even know me, they keep making me feel bad just because of that stupid reason. What can I do? I think I should ignore them but it's really difficult for me.
If you dont like the way I say in here, please forgive. I just want to ask everyone to help me solve this problem.
2007-08-11 12:17:33 · 15 answers · asked by ☆Im_not_myself_today☆ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dont worry about it, you'll never see those people once your out of school. and plus, who cares if they're jealous!
2007-08-11 12:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Yayaysbdjfbdjbdhd 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The explanation is simple - School = expectations and jealousy. In time this will all mean nothing - but today it is horrid. In my experience (20+ years later) you will attend reunions and find you were a "darling" of the school - popular and a rare beauty. Really. i smiled with my Husband and explained the sigs in my yearbook on the side it is a private joke (loads of you are so hot and you are 2 smart 2 B so pretty... don't stay that way) What was I supposed to be ugly to have a high IQ? In short don't let it get you down - you are who you are and you should hold out for the very best. Good Luck!
2007-08-11 19:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just as you would like to be seen as a great person - as your friends do- that's what everyone else around you wants too. It's not right for you to ignore the feeligns of another person - just because your not intimately involved with someone does not excuse you from the responibility you have should your actions ( or lack thereof) cause them pain.
Being the seemingly wonderful young woman that you are - do them a favor and ask if you can sit with them at lunch or quickly in the hallway and talk - tell them that you are flattered by their interest in you but just not looking for a relationship with anyone right now. If some of them are really nice and great - then be friends. But don't allow yourself to appear to be a B*!CH if you aren't one.
You CAN be the pretty popoular girl in school without making everyone else feel like crap.
and for those girls that don't know you but hate on you anyway - just do what's right by the guys who try to talk to you - acknowledge they guys' feelings and let them down gently - but ignore those girls, you don't have to roll your eyes at them or be evil towards them just ignore them - unless they offer an apology just ignore them.
Good Luck
2007-08-11 19:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Blessed_One 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen and follow- You should just ignore them and keep to yourself. The girls are always going to talk about you whether you're good or bad, so accept that first and move on. Trust me , the more guys you reject, the more you'll thank yourself in your mid 20's? because you'll look back and say what did I see in this guy and that one. Be a goog girl and go to school, job, focus on the future. If u do that others will follow and envy you for getting started so young and they'll say you've got a good head on your shoulders. ( trust me !!!!!!!!!!)
2007-08-11 19:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by mna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Why would you go out with someone you don't even know? Never talked to? That calls you a whore? F8ck those guys and the other people that are criticizing you. If they want to date strangers with bad manners let them. Sounds like you are on the right path to me. Follow your heart and don't forget to use your head.
2007-08-19 17:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore what they say, but i know its hard. Try opening up and telling some of your peers this. Maybe even listen to some key points of what those people are saying. Go ahead and talk to these boys.. not flirtatiously, but in a friend to friend type of way. But by all means, dont make yourself feel too insecure about this and let it take over your life.
2007-08-11 19:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet n Short 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ignore them! time will pass where they will eventually stop talking about you. dont show them that your giving into what they are saying because its not true! stand tall and show them that you dont care at all about what they are saying because its not true! also they must be jealous too. If at a point you get really pissed of you let them know what they are doing is wrong and that they need to stop all of that nonsense and start acting mature. Believe me. ive kinda gone through this kind of problem and i didnt say anything at all when someone suggested something, and i regret not telling that person off because i knew it wasnt true. so stand tall and show them that your strong and show them that you arent a girl who gets bothered by these things! im sure you can do it. dont worry about what they are saying at ALL! i hope this helped ^_^
2007-08-18 21:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be yourself, if people dont like you for who u r than thats their prob. not urs. Now, if they are nice to you i wouldnt just ignore them thats rude on ur part. Remember we are all equal. Furthermore, if there are some people calling you unkind names behind ur back than yeah ignore tham but at the same time if they need help respect them even though they dont respect you they will come around and notice that your not the person who they though you were.
2007-08-11 19:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Eric R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aww well I felt the same....a guy likd me and he use to "stalk" me everywhere I looked it was that ugly fat guy EWW so maybe you should be friends and then tell him u lik him as friends-thats once ur rly gd friends
I never was that guys friend ew
2007-08-11 19:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget them all, and go on with your life and wait for the guy of your dream.
2007-08-11 19:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋