Family & Relationships - 30 July 2007

We went to a marriage counseling class and he committed to no more since he knew it bothered me. He went again and spent over $400.00 there and then lied. I only found out from the credit card statement. He of course is now saying he will not go again...already heard that. I am so hurt and devastated. I then went off and acted like a crazy woman yelling, screaming, threatening to burn his stuff, etc. We are now seperated...is it time to call it quits? We have been married for 7 years and none of them have been easy. I have 2 kids and we miscarried twins last year, which did not seem to phase him either. I am so lonely and so hurt.

2007-07-30 07:26:09 · 33 answers · asked by Faith W 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My step son is 19 years old and does not have a job. He makes all kinds of excuses as to why he can't/won't get one. My husband still pays child support for him and all we are asking is that he at least go to college, which he hasn't done either. What should we do?

2007-07-30 07:22:20 · 17 answers · asked by liondra 1 in Family

I just wonder what might be reasons for cheating... I know, it's quite a primitive question, however...

2007-07-30 07:21:35 · 11 answers · asked by Aatami 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

hi,right this is gona b a proper long question,and know im prob gona be upset at sum answers cos people will prob tell me what i already know but dont wana hear if ya dig!!

right ive been kinda seein this guy since march,he has a daughter which was never a issue,he sees her once a fortnight and doesnt get on with baby mum!so we saw each other couple nights of week for couple of months,slept together etc etc,chilled together too and got on really well,but he always kinda made it clear that he was not lookin for a realationship YET.
so after couple of months i started to really really like him so thought best to stop seein him cos didnt wana get hurt.
so did this but he contacted me again and we started seein each other again then couple of weeks ago,we was gettin down to it! and i felt really uncomfortable cos it all seemed really like regimented in bedroom,so got all insecure,he went in mood and stormed out

2007-07-30 07:19:47 · 4 answers · asked by sharpay 1 in Singles & Dating

I moved in with my ex who is also my best friend about a month ago.We are high school sweet hearts and first loves.Growing up trying to find ourselves we hurt each other a few times,he tried to work it out but I said no.Something came up financially and since he is my best friend I am now living with him.Feelings came back so I tried to verbally tell him how I feel.He says he still loves me too but likes this other girl that every one keeps telling him she most likely doesnt like him.I dont want to feel like im stepping on toes, but if he hasnt even told her that he even likes her after all these months that he shouldnt close of his options and at least try.Since we live together I try not to bring it up but it always seems to find its way in the convo.Im going to be here for another six months and I have a lot of pride so I feel like i might be begging.I dont if I should keep trying even though he likes this girl that only sees him as a friend. Any advice? Why doesnt he want to try?

2007-07-30 07:19:43 · 4 answers · asked by Sexy H 1 in Singles & Dating

Heard this in Divorce Court. The wife was having a baby and and when she returned hom (the husband didn't visit), she asked him if he couldn't have brought her a bouquet at the hospital. She said the husband's reply was that the only bouquet he wanted to bring her was a wreath, and since he couldn't, he didn't bother.

2007-07-30 07:18:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anthony F 6 in Marriage & Divorce

i am 55yr old. my daughter is 34. she has a 6yr old and a 4yr old. she gets so annoyed because i am interested in watching my favorite shows at night on tv. she says i should be doing something better. i tell her i raised my children and she is just jelous because she doesn't have the time anymore to do anything. what do you guys think. i feel i have earned my right to sit in front of the tv as long as i want to.

2007-07-30 07:17:21 · 9 answers · asked by deborah l 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiancee and I are both doctors, he has his in md, and mine is a pharmecutical doctorate. What Im wondering is my parents really want to put on our wedding invitations that fact that were doctors , like dr and dr yada yada ya are getting married, and Im not sure if this is going to sound right.

Oh, our names are
Vincent Anthnoy Monterri
and
Erica Genivieve Taylor

2007-07-30 07:16:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

if you had some info that could posibaly hurt your best friend but you really want to tell because it would jepordise a relationship that is stupid but they might not believe you because they know you dont like their relationship and you are not alowwed to tell them because an adult found out about the whole situation and now wants to confront the problem in front of the people it involves does this make any sence? i need some advice on what to do?

2007-07-30 07:16:28 · 5 answers · asked by my_heartlieswithin@yahoo.com 2 in Friends

I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months now and we've really connected well so far. We were talking the other night and he said he wanted our relationship to not only be "boyfriend-girlfriend" but also like best friends, like we could tell each other anything and be ourselves without worry. All that sounds pretty awesome but I'm scared to completely be myself around him because I'm so self-concious and I really like and admire him and I just want to keep him feeling the same about me..I'm scared to! Is that normal? What can I do?
Serious answers please :/

2007-07-30 07:15:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when my ex husband and i divorced i used to write him letters pretending to be a new girl he had met and send them to his girlfriends house where he lived and had them postmarked from another state. they never found out. i think i probably messed up every relationship he had for about 10years. (it's really ok because he was the worst lying dog i ever met. we did have 3 children and i did get over it about 12years later and we were able to be friends at that time. but don't tell him what i did, he still doesn't know.

2007-07-30 07:13:26 · 6 answers · asked by deborah l 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i i work monday -friday from 6am to4pm. I wake up @ 5am to make my husband his lunch and breakfast. He doesnt go in untill 7am.by the time i finish cooking its about 5:30am and i only have about 10 mintutes to get ready to work. then i work go home and cook diner and clean up. my husband doesnt aprreciate me,i know that alot of guys wifes dont eve make the luch or work for that matter. when the weeked comes all i want to do is go out to the stores or go to my moms house.my husband doesnt like going to the stores with me all he wants to do his go to this familys house. the problem is my husband doesnt like for me to go to my moms house. we always argue about this.he says that he married me not my family.therfore doesnt like hanging around with them.which i think its totaly unfair because we are always at his family'shouse in the weekend. I am getting tired of always telling my mom lies of why i never go over. should i pick family and divorce my husband or stick with my husband?

2007-07-30 07:13:08 · 9 answers · asked by the one 3 in Marriage & Divorce

She has to return to Paris to finish her MBA. Then she would like to move back to the US next summer (2008). Is it possible to make this relationship last for a year with limited visiting? I've been in many relationships before but never one tested with 3,500 miles between us. She's willing to make a go of it but I'm skeptical that it could work. Six months? Maybe. A year? I just don't know. A lot happens in a year.

2007-07-30 07:12:49 · 22 answers · asked by Pip L 1 in Singles & Dating

Especially when you respect the lady and trying to gain her love and confidence.

2007-07-30 07:11:14 · 13 answers · asked by ASKER 3 in Singles & Dating

i heard this from california divorce attorney. i got married in 2001 for 3 months.. i left him. i tried locating him to do my divorce but could not find the bastard. one attorney told me if you are unable to find spouse for 7 years, in the eyes of the law, in the eyes of the law you are possibly a widow, he might be presumed dead. is this true?

2007-07-30 07:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by megaherzfan 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-30 07:09:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

a white guy, a black guy and a mexican are riding in a police car,, whos driving??

2007-07-30 07:08:15 · 1 answers · asked by bam 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, I am really confused. I am 15 and everyone around me is trying to get a boyfriend. Has a boyfriend. Or has had sex. I think this is ridiculous! I don't want children ever! My goal in life is to never have sex or get married. Everyone says that this is weird, but I dont think it is such a bad idea. I have even been considered gay. But, I am not trust me! Everyone says my opinons will change as I get older. But, I dont think they will. I am a horse crazy nut who has big plans for the future. Can you actually be happy without ever dating or having sex?

2007-07-30 07:07:38 · 18 answers · asked by !LoverofHorseysandPoniesGalore! 2 in Singles & Dating

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a little oveer a year now. We are both pretty serious about continuing our relationship to a higher level. When we first met we were just casual friends, and co-workers and he told me about his previous life when he lived in a different state. Long story short he has a friend they have been friends since high school and its now 10 years later they still keep in touch. I pushed away the jealous tendencies of a female and let her call the house and so on.
Recently I found out that at one point they were more than friends and if never in a serious relationship they were :friends with benefits". Now i feel uncomfortable with her calling my house. I explained it to him and her and after some bickering he came to understand my point of view.
It's been a couple of months since this conversation and she's emailing em wanting to talk to him . How do i nip this in the butt, and let him know that I am serious!!!!

2007-07-30 07:02:45 · 32 answers · asked by it's me again 2 in Singles & Dating

ther is this guy i like .but i am not sure if he would be in to my or not.i am a blonde that likes video games , cars , music ,sports anime, and japan(i live in the USA)

2007-07-30 07:01:04 · 6 answers · asked by Emo Ninja 1 in Singles & Dating

i see it all the time lady goes into court ask for everything (and gets it) guy tries to the same in reverse and they just think he is a really bad guy?

2007-07-30 07:00:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

this guy and i had been holding hands and flirting alot. about 2 weeks or so then i heard he was going to ask me out.
Then out of the blue he ask out another girl everyone was surprised. but like a month later he was talking to my best friend and said he made a mistake and was dumb for going out with the other girl.
so what i am getting at is does that mean he likes me or not?

2007-07-30 06:58:58 · 21 answers · asked by C.W. 3 in Singles & Dating

I am getting married in two weeks, in an evening civil ceremony. My fiance and I would like to have some sort of union ceremony included during our wedding, but don't like the traditional candlelighting or the newer 'sand' ceremonies because they are done so often! Any ideas?

2007-07-30 06:58:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My family (my parents and my siblings) had a falling out with my dad's side of the family when I was about 10. I am now in my 20's and I am meeting some of these people for the first time. It was fine at first, but today I was frustrated

My grandma's sister (my great-aunt) was talking to me today, and basically told me that my dad was at fault for the falling-out. I know it wasnt just my parents fault for making the decision to not have us be around the family anymore. They treated my (adopted) sister like trash, and also treated my mom poorly. My dad stood up for my mom and my sister, and that is why we arent around them anymore. I know that it was a hard decision for him to make, and he did ask them to stop treating them that way, and warned them that we wouldnt stay around with that kind of verbal/emotional abuse...

I didnt say anything because I was shocked and upset, but should I go back and defend my parents, or leave it alone?

2007-07-30 06:58:17 · 7 answers · asked by Marie Catherine 4 in Family

Whether you love her more than your mother.

My usual answer would be ' there is a difference in love for a mother and love for a wife. both are different and there can never be a shortage of love for any of them. however my duty definitely comes first towards her i.e.my wife'

insights please...

2007-07-30 06:58:14 · 28 answers · asked by bebe 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-30 06:58:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Can someone please explain this to me...

Why do half the people on this message board talk down and act like they are so much better then the other half?

Most people when it comes to a real, honest sex question, simply respond with "you need to wait until marriage to have sex." This is a moot point because obviously they already had sex and want a real answer but instead get your lecture on waiting till marriage.

Then there are some other people that when teenagers come on the board and ask a dating question, they lecture about being too young to date. Not many people actually want to help people with their questions, they just want to lecture them about what is right and wrong.

Anyone else agree with me?

2007-07-30 06:55:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife and I have been seperated for two months and do not speak to each other, I live in Virginia-she lives in Illinois

2007-07-30 06:55:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and i want to divorce my husband for this man but i am afraid of what will happen when my husband finds out about it i dont want him or his co wrker to lose thier jobs what should i do?

2007-07-30 06:54:41 · 20 answers · asked by djd 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If u are with a guy & u say stuff like I can't wait until I get a boyfriend because I need things done around my house & he says tell me what you need & I will do it. If u say my child's father is driving me crazy because he thinks I have a boyfriend & then he says well just make sure you don't tell him about me or he says things like (he's a single dad) Let me tell u about my daughter & then he says don't worry u are going to meet her. He came & spent the night at ur townhouse & all of a sudden he tells u he is going to give his notice at his apartment because he is interested in living in a townhouse or house & even ask a few questions about ur subdivision. Last but not least, I watched "The Secret" & I have this vision board of everything I hope to obtain in my life & the wedding ring I want being one of the things on the board. Before I tacked it up he took the paper & read over it for a few minutes then looked at me & smiled. So Can u be in a relationship and not know it?

2007-07-30 06:52:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce