She has to return to Paris to finish her MBA. Then she would like to move back to the US next summer (2008). Is it possible to make this relationship last for a year with limited visiting? I've been in many relationships before but never one tested with 3,500 miles between us. She's willing to make a go of it but I'm skeptical that it could work. Six months? Maybe. A year? I just don't know. A lot happens in a year.
2007-07-30 07:12:49 · 22 answers · asked by Pip L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
long distance relationships never work
2007-08-07 06:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long-distance relationships work because both parties are committed to it, willing to make little sacrifices, honest to one another and most important, trust.
Since you are skeptical, then it might not work because you do not believe it will work.
If you think she is worth it, I think you should give it a try. Paris is only a few hours away. There's the internet, phone, and letters. There's a plane that leaves for Paris every couple of minutes. She is not going to a third world country where communication is less accessible. She is going to a EU nation.
I know of a married couple who have not seen each other for ten years, due to circumstances, but are still devoted to each other.
In the end, it's your decision.
2007-08-07 06:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only as weak as you SAY you are. If you need to, start a porn collection and rub one out every now and then!
OR...
Be real with yourself and her and tell her you should continue the relationship on a serious level when she returns. Who knows she human too. She has needs to be met and like you said 3,500 miles away, that is some booty call! If it was meant to be it will happen.
2007-08-07 06:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that a relationship can be put on hold for a year. People change, goals change, life changes. If it were me in this situation, I would have an agreement with this other person that you were free to date other people and so is she. IF; in a year, the two of you are both still single, then start the relationship over. Start Fresh.
2007-08-07 06:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by NICA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and I dated for 8 months, seeing each other about every 6 weeks or so.(as she lived 4 states away) you learn alot about yourself as well as the other person, people have these relationships all the time I have several marine corps and army buds that got married before their first tour in the middle east. luckily most came back, and after 2 years all marriages are still intact. try it, if you do and it doesn't work at least you won't be stuck with a lifetime of regret and what-ifs.
2007-08-07 06:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by bad_andy16012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get in touch with you when she gets back. The njust don't get into any serious relationships in the next year. You both are human and have needs but just don't start falling for anyone else. Then when she gets back you can pick up where you left off.
2007-07-30 07:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES....
Providing you...
a. keep the lines of communication open on both sides via phone calls, snail mail, emails and an occasional unexpected I LOVE YOU surprise in the mail!
b. you come to a mutual understanding when it comes to dating others casually...or not dating at all...
c. you make at least one visit to Paris within the next year just to be sure that her feelings for you are the same!
Best wishes and warm thoughts...
2007-08-07 07:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by argytunes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both want it to work bad enough, then it will. With all the advances in technology and communication, limited visits are not what they used to be (i.e., you are no longer relegated to "blah" phone calls; you now have live streams over the Internet, etc.) :)
2007-08-07 05:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldn't and i wouldn't be in a long distance relationship it just ain't gonna work out for me.... but if u really love her go a whole year without her. i think u should break it off with her and enjoy that year and when she comes back start over if u can........
2007-08-07 06:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by kaekay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to come see you when she gets back but that you will be dating and can she please understand that you will not get into any serious relationships. tell her that you two should just take some time off until she gets back.
or stay true and ask her to do the same
2007-08-07 07:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by hot stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man make it do what it do. If you believe in her and she believe in you it will work out fine. Both of you must keep in touch like everyday or every other day. Love will always make it. You both must believe that.
2007-08-07 07:09:16 · answer #11 · answered by DEMARCO A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋