My step son is 19 years old and does not have a job. He makes all kinds of excuses as to why he can't/won't get one. My husband still pays child support for him and all we are asking is that he at least go to college, which he hasn't done either. What should we do?
2007-07-30 07:22:20 · 17 answers · asked by liondra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His son should be doing something. I'm surprised he is paying child support though as that usually stops at 18 unless the kid goes to college.
This boy needs to grow up and he isnt going to do that laying around.
2007-07-30 07:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is he still in school because if he is you will pay child support for him until he stops or when he finishes which ever comes first. he is 19 years old and yes it is time for him to get a job and start making money for his self. If your husband is paying child support and still giving money on the side that is too much and he should not do it and tell him that if he does not get a job he will no longer give him money and find out what he should do about his child support since he is not in school he might be able to stop paying since he is not in school, It happened to my cousin. His dad paid for him until he was 18 and when my cousin decided that he was not going to college the court ordered that he not pay no longer since he was of age and that he was not in school or continuing to go to college. Find that information out and if so he would have to get a job because the money will not be coming in any longer.
2007-07-30 07:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband pays child support for a 19 yrs old boy REALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! , what state do u live in??????? i want to move there cause all the other laws of the 50+states the daddies stop paying when they hit 18 unless the child is disabled. make the stepson go out and get a job or go to college or do something with his life or u will have a lazy slob on your hands cause he cant support himself...
2007-07-30 08:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no. If the child support is voluntary he can stop that. If not, then he has to pay that until the terms expire. The Step Son is 19, legally and adult. All you can do is love, advise, and assist. You set the terms for those, but you can't "force" anyone else. You can only choose what you will and won't do. This is a tough love situation. Make the tough decisions for you. Not for him.
2007-07-30 07:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Still paying support at 19 and he is not in college?
Nothing you can do about the support if the court says pay it, but when the support ends, you and your husband need to sever the financial support to him until he can prove that he has some level of responsibility.
2007-07-30 07:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rules in my house were once you graduate you either go to college, get a job or move out!!! If they chose to get a job, most of their money was to go in the bank to buy a decent car, build up a savings account so that they could move out and be self sufficient. They had a time frame for that also. No money going into the savings account, well, out the door they went. Letting them stay at home, not work and be lazy does not teach them a thing but to be a bum. You are encouraging him to not be responsible if you do not enforce your wishes. I took my step son and drove him to put in job applications, at 18, and even went so far as to set up mock interviews with friends of mine who owned/managed business's. He was given 30 days to find a job or find a cardboard box and pick out a bridge to put it under. He knew we were serious, and given the fact we had helped him all we could, he got serious and had a job in less than 2 weeks.
2007-07-30 07:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by TC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut off the child support. there is no reason this adult should be receiving money for nothing. does he live with you or his mother? if he lives with you then you should give him 1 of 2 options: go to school or get a job and pay rent or get out. it's time for some tough love. it's not up to you unfortunately, to cut his apron strings, it's up to his daddy but, that's not to say that you can't give dad a little advice on how to go about this.
good luck.
2007-07-30 07:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is painfully simple and I am sure you already know what it is. Executing on it is the hard part though. You either need to get a divorce and pursue this younger man or forget about the younger man and work on your marriage. I guess there is a 3rd option in that you talk with your husband openly and see if he would agree to an open marriage.
2016-04-01 00:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he still paying child support? That should end if he doesn't go to college. Fall term is coming up. Tell him to go enroll or the cash train is derailed!
2007-07-30 07:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes not going to college, he should get himself a job. these excuses must be really great for your husband to not do anything about it. if he doesn't go to college or work, you and your husband are setting yourselves and him up for disaster. he will become a freeloader, taking whatever money you have, eat you house and home, and not gain any responsibilities. you must stop this behavior now.
2007-07-30 07:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~ chiclets gum ~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋