sex question...?

Question

Can someone please explain this to me...

Why do half the people on this message board talk down and act like they are so much better then the other half?

Most people when it comes to a real, honest sex question, simply respond with "you need to wait until marriage to have sex." This is a moot point because obviously they already had sex and want a real answer but instead get your lecture on waiting till marriage.

Then there are some other people that when teenagers come on the board and ask a dating question, they lecture about being too young to date. Not many people actually want to help people with their questions, they just want to lecture them about what is right and wrong.

Anyone else agree with me?

i knew that once i got this question, many people would agree and the rest of them would do exactly what i was complaining that people do....lecture

in fact, I am not teenager complaining why cant i have sex, i am in my mid 20s and have had plenty of serious relationship experience along with the sexual experience that goes with it

for that person who stated when ur under 18 you should just worry about studies, if all you do is study, how will u ever learn about relationships and working with people? These skills are much much more important than anything you will read in a book

Answer 1

the dumb and nutty answers comes from the closed minded and in-mature ppl...there is lots of good advice from mature ppl on here. most of the ones that answer the sex questions that are lame haven't even had sex or aren't old enough to know..so you just have to sift through and look for mature answers.

Answer 2

OK if you are seriously looking for an answer...
When I give someone advice I never think I am too smart for them. I give an advice from my heart. I don't know about others, but When I see a teenager asking a question about sex and dating, I want to give them an honest advice. You probably are a teenager tight now and you believe you already have acquired all the knowledge. I felt the same when I was your age. I wish someone wa there to guide me properly about dating and sex.
Don't think negative about people who tell you not to have sex until you are mature. They are talking from their experience. You would not understand until you are also an adult. Right now you think sex is something that's easy to handle. There are consequences to it. Many teens become parents and they once thought the same thing. If you do think you are ready for it, go do it. But be responsible and ready for all the things that come with it.
I still tell all of the teens in America, focus on your studies because once you get to college, you would be competing with Chinese and Indians teens. You would be competing with high paid jobs with these people. You have all of your life to have sex and for serious dating. Get your career set first.

Answer 3

You do raise a good point. Still, just because someone lectures a person on right and wrong, it doesn't mean that they aren't trying to help them. Some draw on things they wish they would have done differently. Personally, I think people do have sex too soon, but some are pressured into it. It is up to an individual to determine when they are ready, the best we can do is to present them with the facts so that they can make the best possible choice for themselves. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

No, I don't agree with you. Until the age of 18 years old, whether you want to hear it or not, you are still a child. So was I, and so was everyone else then and will be forever. Regardless of what you see on TV and Movies with them showing children acting grown-up, they are still children. It isn't reality.
In order to grow-up to be a normal fully functioning adult, what you do as a child really matters. You are going to be an adult for a lot longer than you are going to be a child, so there is no rush. Those that "dated" while still a child (under 16 years of age) grown up with emotional problems which they try to self-medicate with drugs and drinking, and are far more likely to end up with several failed marriages and/or all alone.
Your childhood is just that and while you are a child you need to spend your time learning and growing. Spend more time at the library reading about things you are passionate about than worrying about dating. There is always plenty of time for that.

Answer 5

Look I'm not here to decide what you should do as far as sex goes because at some point all of us were advised to wait until we get married but how many of us did. I sure didn't and not ashamed of it because if I should be ashamed there would not be this epedimic of teenage pregnancy and those are just only the ones we know about, the only smart advice I can give is to be safe always use a condom or a female condom what ever floats your boat. and forget about these hypocrits, they've had their fun and now they want to be the more holy than thou, what a Joke think wisely and be wiser.

Answer 6

Maybe, maybe not. Do you honestly want to assume the responsibility of advising someone too young to engage safely in sexual behavior from a position of anonymous detachment? What if they take your advice and get into serious trouble? Better to err on the side of caution, and I think that's what most people innately realize. True our answers could be more in depth, but we're not sure of all the related information that goes along with advising someone on sexual matters....and having once been a child, I realize that they sometimes purposely withhold information in favor of what they're attempting to accomplish. Think the whole situation through.

Answer 7

I agree to a certain extent. I have also told people to wait not until marriage but until they are old enough. If you look at some of the profiles some of these kids are way too young. Imagine if your 12 year old child asked about having sex and some adult told them to go ahead and do it.

Answer 8

I agree! I see a lot of that going around to. I try to remain as impartial as I can and give helpful advice regardless of their age or whatever. They are asking questions to get serious answers and help, not to be lectured. Besides, it's no one else's job put the people's parents to teach them right and wrong.

Answer 9

I agree but obviously teenagers come on here trying to get answers because they haven't discussed these things with their parents. So, you don't want to tell them just to do it without a thought or a care. Its better to let the teenagers know whats best..because waiting is best.

Answer 10

I agree. Although sex is a HUGE deal tht requires a lot of maturity and compassion, it is up to the individual to make the choices; either good or bad. Everyone is capale of making their own decisions, and don't need lectures from other ppl to help them.