I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months now and we've really connected well so far. We were talking the other night and he said he wanted our relationship to not only be "boyfriend-girlfriend" but also like best friends, like we could tell each other anything and be ourselves without worry. All that sounds pretty awesome but I'm scared to completely be myself around him because I'm so self-concious and I really like and admire him and I just want to keep him feeling the same about me..I'm scared to! Is that normal? What can I do?
Serious answers please :/
2007-07-30 07:15:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then give it time...but if you cannot be yourself around someone, why be with them? If you don't think they'll accept you for who you are, they aren't someone you should waste your time on.
2007-07-30 07:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean... I have a really hard time opening up to people too. It's hard when you've kept things in a long time. If you really do want to let this guy in, to make that leap of faith, I would say do it! I opened up to one of my guy friends (not a boyfriend, but it's the same idea) and it felt soo good to get things out. I was afraid of judgment or rejection and he gave me neither of those! It was worth all the worrying and fear. My advice would be to go for it! If, for some reason, he doesn't like what you have to say, he's not worth your time. Good luck! I hope I helped!
2007-07-30 14:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. I think this happens in every relationship. Most people put on their best face for the first few months until they feel comfortable enough to let their hair down. When that happens (usually around 4-5 months) then you start to see someones true colors. You'll see his too. If you never let your hair down, then he'll never really get to know you and therefor how would he ever really like you?
Some people are slower to let themselves be known. This is okay too, but it makes it hard on the other person trying to get to know you.
2007-07-30 14:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it well be hard but just treat him like he a best friend that u never had ask him personal question then u tell him something about u and honestly eventually u will open up to were the point u will start burping, farting and everything around him, but u have to love ur self before u learn how top love any one else because u come first.
2007-07-30 14:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be afriad of opening up, especially with someone you like and admire so much. You definately need to tell him how afraid you are, but it sounds like something you should try to do. He sounds like a guy that would help you open up, without pushing or pressuring you. Just tell him how you feel.
2007-07-30 14:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by The Seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sharing a deep friendship with someone you are romantically involved with can be the most amazing experience ever. you two will know each other so well, and be so caring of each other...but...in ANY relationship, the closer you get, the greater that person is capable of hurting you.
don't be scared. the key to love is knowing and accepting that you are vulnerable to this person. you will never know true love if you never allow yourself to be vulnerable to being hurt. its just how it works. my advice is to start with little things...and slowly work your way up in how deep you share things....don't try to unleash everything all at once....it has to come in a slow progression.
hope that helps :)
2007-07-30 14:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by p.diggity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what ...the happiest thing is to be accepted and to accept. I think he really really loves you, or he would never have thought of this concept of sharing feelings as friends as most men dont think in these terms as they are not that kind...I think your guy longs for true love and friendship and really knows the value of friendship more...ITS TRUE THAT U ARE LUCKY. So go ahead and be a great FRIEND OR BEST FRIENDS ...and I HOPE IT LASTS THROUGH OUT YOUR LIFE. All the best- Be yourself with no selfconsciousness HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY WISHES TO U AND HIM.
2007-07-30 14:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about this.. if thats the type of relationship he wants then maybe hes looking to find another side of you he hasent seen!? just try being yourself! thats all you need im postive he will still think your really cool!! :) and i find those r the best relationships! cuz if it ends your still best friends.. Ive been dating this guy for a little over a year and its so much fun just being retarted together haha! so yea dont worry chickyy!!! be yourself.
Alexa.
2007-07-30 14:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Alexa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant be in a relationship without honesty first of all. but if you are not ready tell him that you love what u have with him and you will be best friends but u want to open up to him when you are ready, on a guys point of view hes looking for options possibly
2007-07-30 14:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guys point of veiw something that i like is when girls act them selfs around us instead of like u said self concious and different. just act ur self and then u will know if he trullty likes u
2007-07-30 14:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Willson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's completely normal. Just try it though. If he cares about you enough, he shouldn't mind your "real self". He might think it's cute. Just be you and try it. If he doesn't like the change, then he isn't the one for you. You shouldn't wear a mask to make him like you. Just be you.
2007-07-30 14:18:40 · answer #11 · answered by Samson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋