Ok, I am really confused. I am 15 and everyone around me is trying to get a boyfriend. Has a boyfriend. Or has had sex. I think this is ridiculous! I don't want children ever! My goal in life is to never have sex or get married. Everyone says that this is weird, but I dont think it is such a bad idea. I have even been considered gay. But, I am not trust me! Everyone says my opinons will change as I get older. But, I dont think they will. I am a horse crazy nut who has big plans for the future. Can you actually be happy without ever dating or having sex?
2007-07-30 07:07:38 · 18 answers · asked by !LoverofHorseysandPoniesGalore! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, your happiness is not based on societies 'norm', rather how you feel abotu yourself and achieving your goals....
If you change your mine fine, if you don't fine.
In the meantime, just keep doing what you're doing.....
2007-07-30 07:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our life experiences bring us different kinds of happiness. You can be happy without being in a relationship or having sex, but it won't be the same kind of happiness. Just because you aren't ready doesn't mean you are strange. You are only 15, you have such a long life ahead of you. Just enjoy your horses and the things that make you happy. Make your plans and goals and meet them and be proud of yourself for that. But one of these days whether you want it or not the right person will sweep you off your feet. And all your ideas about sex and relationships will fly right out the window. Just don't lose yourself entirely and forget your hopes and dreams. I was 26 when I lost my virginity and I don't regret a day of waiting. Just tell all those people who think you are weird that at least you get to choose the most special person to be with, not just going for someone because of peer pressure. And if you never find that special someone, I have every faith that you will be happy anyway.
2007-07-30 14:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by wazup_dude2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you really can't. To be fully happy, you must have some partner that makes you happy. You're human, you're supposed to share your happiness with a significant other. And yes, your plans will change over time. There is this little timer in your brain that is ticking, and once it goes off you will have this feeling that you can't explain. The feeling tells you, "God, I'm so lonely. I feel empty. I think I want a kid!". And then bam, you're going to ask that significant other that you want one and you'll make plans and such. There is no escaping it.
2007-07-30 14:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Samson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 years old.
i decided when I was 13 that I was never getting married or having kids. For Me that was a good choice. Set your goals and follow your head , not your heart.
You will probably change your mind about the dating and sex part. Time will tell.
2007-07-30 14:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can be happy. Dating is a fairly new idea. Just look back when they had courtships, see how marriages were then, and look at marriages now where we have dating. Big difference. Well I am glad that you aren't interested in pre-marital sex. That takes a lot to say that. Don't worry about what others say, you are doing just fine sweetie.
2007-07-30 14:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by mamaB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you can be happy with out sex and dating but its not easy. what are you going to do ones you have done all the goals that you set your self up to do. you will be there looking at couples left and right and ask yourself was this the right thing to do. Once you have made that wall that keeps people out so that they don't get to close to your heart then its close to impossible to get a relationship going. I think that everybody need love thats what makes a person want to keep ongoing, with out love whats live like its BORING. sex well that is really fun but hey you can live with out it sometimes. You can have fun with a guy with out having intercourse, i think sex is when you have intercourse not just kissing and licking things around if you catch my drift. But only do it if you feel that you want to and if the guy is one that will not screw you over, you have to have a great friendship with this person. Its like me and my friend she is my best friend and we did things but we are still the best of friends.
i hope i helped lol is a bit long i know
2007-07-30 14:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you acn be happy without sex. don't listen to the ppl who say sex makes ppl. happy....you can be the only person to make yourself happy..those other people are small minded.
Good for you for setting plans and a future that does not revolve around a boy or sex!
2007-07-30 14:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your opinions might change when you get older - trust me, I was exactly like you until last year. Just wait. But in theory, it's possible to be happy without sex. It's just not very likely that you'll die a virgin.
2007-07-30 14:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by anji981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a woman that died last month. She lived for and took care of her mother until she was 70 years old. She never dated, made love or even kissed a man. On her death bed she said that her one regret was not have know what it was to be with someone.
2007-07-30 14:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sandi D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 15 you don't need to worry about anything now! Ride your horses and enjoy being young! Time will tell if it will change or not--- do what makes you happy and stop worrying!!!
2007-07-30 14:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋